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The Freedom of Forgiveness
There are times when forgiveness can be the furthest thing from our minds, particularly when the person we should forgive has done something we deem to be unforgivable. It took me years to understand that forgiveness is not for the sake of the other person, but for our own sakes. It takes very little effort to harbor anger, resentment, hurt and other negative feelings associated with the betrayal of another. The real effort and strength is in the forgiveness; in the ability to let go. There is a sense of personal freedom that we acquire when we learn how to forgive which may very well add years to our lives. In letting go, we allow life’s vibrant energy to flow through us rather than blocking it with the bad feelings we're holding on to.
When we harbor bad feelings, our bodies eventually begin to fail us, and so do our minds. We’ve all experienced, either as the receiver or the perpetrator, the ugliness and destruction that negative interactions with others begets. It is not too difficult to figure out why society suffers from such a wide array of illnesses, both physical and mental. I equate this to breathing in fresh air or toxic air. One promotes good health and wellness while the other promotes death.
There is a complete science to health, wealth and happiness; it is not simply a matter of good fortune or “luck”, and forgiveness is one of the main ingredients to acquiring such a state of well-being. When we forgive, we bring forth the ability to feel happiness and to experience abundance and good health. Without forgiveness, not only do we imprison ourselves in an unhealthy mind and body, but we block the ability to enjoy the blessings life has to offer. I don’t believe that one can experience true happiness and good health in a tainted mind any more than I believe a person can experience a healthy mind in a tainted body and impoverished conditions. So often these things are viewed as separate when they are very much a part of the same whole.
Not only do scientists now acknowledge the fact that our mindset has a tremendous impact on our health, but many illnesses are attributed to factors such as stress, depression and the like. In fact, more and more doctors are incorporating holistic medicine into their treatment methods.
When we hold on to bad feelings about another person, we are basically holding poison in our minds and bodies and the long term damage can be devastating. In short, when we don’t forgive, we are refusing to expel the poison from our bodies. Anger, jealously, resentment, guilt, stress, fear – these are all forms of poison.
Practicing forgiveness will set us free from those toxins and allow us to live happier and healthier lives. It really doesn’t matter whether or not we believe the other person is deserving of our forgiveness, what matters is whether or not we believe ourselves to be deserving of forgiving. It’s not only beneficial to our health, but it’s incredibly freeing when we operate from a place of calmness and love.
Let’s not forget that most of us have asked for forgiveness at one time or another. It only seems fitting to continue the rotation.
Read more articles by Danielle at http://dp-motivation.blogspot.com
About the Author: Danielle Pierre is an author, life coach and the owner of DPM Enterprises - a service dedicated to those who seek to improve the quality of their lives. Visit http://dpmotivation.com for access to free empowerment tools and other personal development resources or visit http://daniellepierre.com for income and training opportunities. To schedule a complimentary coaching consultation with Danielle call 800-399-4618
When we harbor bad feelings, our bodies eventually begin to fail us, and so do our minds. We’ve all experienced, either as the receiver or the perpetrator, the ugliness and destruction that negative interactions with others begets. It is not too difficult to figure out why society suffers from such a wide array of illnesses, both physical and mental. I equate this to breathing in fresh air or toxic air. One promotes good health and wellness while the other promotes death.
There is a complete science to health, wealth and happiness; it is not simply a matter of good fortune or “luck”, and forgiveness is one of the main ingredients to acquiring such a state of well-being. When we forgive, we bring forth the ability to feel happiness and to experience abundance and good health. Without forgiveness, not only do we imprison ourselves in an unhealthy mind and body, but we block the ability to enjoy the blessings life has to offer. I don’t believe that one can experience true happiness and good health in a tainted mind any more than I believe a person can experience a healthy mind in a tainted body and impoverished conditions. So often these things are viewed as separate when they are very much a part of the same whole.
Not only do scientists now acknowledge the fact that our mindset has a tremendous impact on our health, but many illnesses are attributed to factors such as stress, depression and the like. In fact, more and more doctors are incorporating holistic medicine into their treatment methods.
When we hold on to bad feelings about another person, we are basically holding poison in our minds and bodies and the long term damage can be devastating. In short, when we don’t forgive, we are refusing to expel the poison from our bodies. Anger, jealously, resentment, guilt, stress, fear – these are all forms of poison.
Practicing forgiveness will set us free from those toxins and allow us to live happier and healthier lives. It really doesn’t matter whether or not we believe the other person is deserving of our forgiveness, what matters is whether or not we believe ourselves to be deserving of forgiving. It’s not only beneficial to our health, but it’s incredibly freeing when we operate from a place of calmness and love.
Let’s not forget that most of us have asked for forgiveness at one time or another. It only seems fitting to continue the rotation.
Read more articles by Danielle at http://dp-motivation.blogspot.com
About the Author: Danielle Pierre is an author, life coach and the owner of DPM Enterprises - a service dedicated to those who seek to improve the quality of their lives. Visit http://dpmotivation.com for access to free empowerment tools and other personal development resources or visit http://daniellepierre.com for income and training opportunities. To schedule a complimentary coaching consultation with Danielle call 800-399-4618
Letting Go
Letting go seems to be one of the most difficult things for most of us to do, yet it’s the most rewarding and freeing experience you can ever give yourself. The ability to let go frees you both emotionally and physically.
There is often a misconception as to what “letting go” really means, so first I’d like to clear that up.
I (and many others) discuss and teach that taking action is a mandatory part of any type of success, and of course my first book is titled “Just Make It Happen” which appears to conflict with “letting go”, doesn’t it? Not at all, if you understand what it truly means to let go.
See, when we let go, we let go of the fears and other negative beliefs that hold us back from moving forward. In essence, we are letting the universe know “Okay, it’s in your hands. I’m not going to fear any obstacle or outcome. I will accept what comes my way and deal with each day and circumstance as it arises", and then sincerely trusting that everything will be okay so we can move forward with confidence and courage. In short, we do not allow our negative belief systems to get in our way and we stop worrying about the things which we cannot change.
Once you’re able to let go, you dispel an enormous amount of negative energy from your body and allow positive, loving energy to move through you. When we hold on to the negative belief system, we block the flow of positive energy – our life source and it cannot move through us. How can we manifest our desires if the source of our power, our strength, is held up at the gate? Do you see how this works?
The misconception is this:
Letting go does not mean to sit back and wait for something to happen. Absolutely not. You’re in for a huge disappointment if that’s what you believe, and often the people who believe this end up asking God why they are being ignored and then they fall into the victim trap. Letting go means to move forward with faith and confidence and without fear of failure or rejection. You most certainly have to take action in order to make it happen – but you can only do so if you let go.
Learning acceptance and letting go applies to everything in your life. If your spouse or partner leaves you; if a family member isn’t speaking to you; if you’re diagnosed with a serious illness. As difficult as it may seem at the time, you have the ability to let go of fear, anger, resentment and other negative beliefs. Feel them, acknowledge them and then let them go. When you hang on, you not only prevent yourself from attracting joy into your life, but you poison your body which leaves you vulnerable to all types of negative circumstances, disease and illness. If you have an illness, holding on to negative thoughts only worsens the condition.
So, how do we let go?
Understanding and accepting that your thoughts and actions are the only thing which you have absolute control over is the first step in the letting go process. There are many other rituals you can incorporate into your daily life which will make letting go easier like meditation, positive affirmations and continuing to read, listen, watch and learn about yourself and others.
There is no magic formula to letting go; this is one of those things that you have to learn with practice. Breathe deep, continue to remind yourself that you only have control over yourself and let go. When the negative feelings begin to creep back into your mind and body, repeat. Keep repeating this process as the need to hold on to all of those negative feelings returns. By making this a habit, it becomes easier and easier to let go until eventually it becomes a way of life.
You will always be faced with challenges, negative thoughts and feelings, but how you respond to them determines your reality. By teaching yourself the art of letting go, you are transforming your entire life, inspiring those around you and allowing yourself to experience true joy.
*Danielle Pierre is a personal development author and certified life coach. If you would like to learn more about how she can help you reach your personal, physical or financial goals, or to take advantage of the many free offers, tools and other resources she has made available to you, visit http://daniellepierre.com
There is often a misconception as to what “letting go” really means, so first I’d like to clear that up.
I (and many others) discuss and teach that taking action is a mandatory part of any type of success, and of course my first book is titled “Just Make It Happen” which appears to conflict with “letting go”, doesn’t it? Not at all, if you understand what it truly means to let go.
See, when we let go, we let go of the fears and other negative beliefs that hold us back from moving forward. In essence, we are letting the universe know “Okay, it’s in your hands. I’m not going to fear any obstacle or outcome. I will accept what comes my way and deal with each day and circumstance as it arises", and then sincerely trusting that everything will be okay so we can move forward with confidence and courage. In short, we do not allow our negative belief systems to get in our way and we stop worrying about the things which we cannot change.
Once you’re able to let go, you dispel an enormous amount of negative energy from your body and allow positive, loving energy to move through you. When we hold on to the negative belief system, we block the flow of positive energy – our life source and it cannot move through us. How can we manifest our desires if the source of our power, our strength, is held up at the gate? Do you see how this works?
The misconception is this:
Letting go does not mean to sit back and wait for something to happen. Absolutely not. You’re in for a huge disappointment if that’s what you believe, and often the people who believe this end up asking God why they are being ignored and then they fall into the victim trap. Letting go means to move forward with faith and confidence and without fear of failure or rejection. You most certainly have to take action in order to make it happen – but you can only do so if you let go.
Learning acceptance and letting go applies to everything in your life. If your spouse or partner leaves you; if a family member isn’t speaking to you; if you’re diagnosed with a serious illness. As difficult as it may seem at the time, you have the ability to let go of fear, anger, resentment and other negative beliefs. Feel them, acknowledge them and then let them go. When you hang on, you not only prevent yourself from attracting joy into your life, but you poison your body which leaves you vulnerable to all types of negative circumstances, disease and illness. If you have an illness, holding on to negative thoughts only worsens the condition.
So, how do we let go?
Understanding and accepting that your thoughts and actions are the only thing which you have absolute control over is the first step in the letting go process. There are many other rituals you can incorporate into your daily life which will make letting go easier like meditation, positive affirmations and continuing to read, listen, watch and learn about yourself and others.
There is no magic formula to letting go; this is one of those things that you have to learn with practice. Breathe deep, continue to remind yourself that you only have control over yourself and let go. When the negative feelings begin to creep back into your mind and body, repeat. Keep repeating this process as the need to hold on to all of those negative feelings returns. By making this a habit, it becomes easier and easier to let go until eventually it becomes a way of life.
You will always be faced with challenges, negative thoughts and feelings, but how you respond to them determines your reality. By teaching yourself the art of letting go, you are transforming your entire life, inspiring those around you and allowing yourself to experience true joy.
*Danielle Pierre is a personal development author and certified life coach. If you would like to learn more about how she can help you reach your personal, physical or financial goals, or to take advantage of the many free offers, tools and other resources she has made available to you, visit http://daniellepierre.com
