Alice Perle's Blog

Since 2023, this blog has held regular reflections, early journal notes and context around Resolve and sibling sexual abuse. New writing is now continuing on Substack, where longer reflections can live together in one place and be shared more easily. You can read the first transitional post on Substack here:resolvebyaliceperle.substack.com

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Since 2023, this blog has held regular reflections, early journal notes and context around Resolve and sibling sexual abuse. New writing is now continuing on Substack, where longer reflections can live together in one place and be shared more easily. You can read the first transitional post on Substack here:resolvebyaliceperle.substack.com

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'We can’t have change without loss, which is why so often people say they want change but nonetheless stay exactly the same.'
LORI GOTTLIEB, PSYCHOTHERAPIST & AUTHOR

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In the 1990s, that decade where my three children were born, there were three women who were part of a family system I was walking close to. I wasn’t trying to join them. They were just regularly in my space. The system clearly had a tough history, there were hard edges, a mean girls vibe, they shared intergenerational trauma that had not been resolved, and invisible rules. A family. A triangle. A trio as such.

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I Wondered If He Was Speaking to Me! I’ve been busy creating lately and needed to stop for a few days. I found myself flicking through one of the books I bought at the Australian Childhood Foundation’s International Childhood Trauma Conference in August down in Melbourne. It’s titled Living Like Crazy by Professor Paul Gilbert. The title looks healthy, crazily enough! I had put my notes from his talk inside the book, my way of making me connect what I’d heard in the seminar. The seminar had hit ...

Alice Perle (pen name) shares reflections on context, family dynamics, and the resolve to keep going and to keep growing. Survivors and others affected by SSA, often carry a unique kind of silence, not just from the harm or abuse itself, but from trying to safely navigate the dynamics within the family that surrounded it. Beyond disclosure, the issues that compound trauma begin, especially when families are unsupported, and disclosures come in adult life, not in childhood. In the sub-title of Re...

Coming back to the moment(s) after grief. That is, the grief we must inevitably walk through in our recovery from sibling sexual trauma and abuse (SSTA). So it’s been a little longer than I expected between blog posts. I just saw the Intentional Pause was pressed back in March… I had imagined the next entry would be sharing finished pieces of artwork — but they’re still sitting quietly in my peripheral vision, to the right of my desk, not forgotten, they did progress, however they are unfinished...

Alice Perle reflects on the power of survivor conversations and shares why she's pressing pause on her weekly blog—to make space for listening, learning, and returning with renewed clarity.

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I’m thinking about names today. I’ve had conversations these past few months at the Blue Borage Conversation Café events with some of you. Beyond my connections here, it has been incredible to be present with so many compassionate and brave, lived experience people, advocates, educators, and professionals, choosing to come together in that safe space to talk and learn. We lived with this in silence for so long, and that no longer has to be how it is. Thank you for showing up; however, you show u...

I never imagined I’d find myself deeply immersed in personal development, let alone speaking about it. In the early days, I was a survivor who hadn’t wanted therapy, someone riding the relentless waves of change in a company I had built from the ground up. I was focused on day-to-day operations, not self-reflection. And like so many, I didn’t yet have words for what was happening beneath the surface, the cPTSD, trauma responses, patterns shaped long before I understood them. Growth doesn’t alway...