Jim Clark's Blog

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work. play. passion.


Yes, that pretty much says it.


But others still want to know what "ad3" is all about. Well here is a little more information.


Ad 3 has been alive and kicking since 1992. What is it? We are a group of individuals who like to have a good time in everything we do. AND with that said we also take care of each other and business. Taking care of each other... most of the time is easy... taking care of business gets hard sometimes after a late night of good times. One of our requirements is to attend conference meetings after a late night. Most of us are in the advertising/marketing fields, some of us are clients, some of us don't know what we are doing but have a great time doing it. Over the past couple of years others across the U.S. have joined in our quest. Meeting at conferences AD3 groups have been formed in California, Wisconson, Florida, Alabama, and Tennessee. Membership is gained by referral only... one of our representatives meets you at a conference, invites you to participate in our activities, then if you can hang AND make to the meetings in the morning... you may be in.


If you want to know more just email us and we can talk.

. . .work. play. passion.


Yes, that pretty much says it. 


But others still want to know what "ad3" is all about. Well here is a little more information.


Ad 3 has been alive and kicking since 1992. What is it? We are a group of individuals who like to have a good time in everything we do. AND with that said we also take care of each other and business. Taking care of each other... most of the time is easy... taking care of business gets hard sometimes after a late night of good times. One of our requirements is to attend conference meetings after a late night. Most of us are in the advertising/marketing fields, some of us are clients, some of us don't know what we are doing but have a great time doing it. Over the past couple of years others across the U.S. have joined in our quest. Meeting at conferences AD3 groups have been formed in California, Wisconson, Florida, Alabama, and Tennessee. Membership is gained by referral only... one of our representatives meets you at a conference, invites you to participate in our activities, then if you can hang AND make to the meetings in the morning... you may be in. 


If you want to know more just email us and we can talk.

I don't know about you but the holidays seem to get me down. I know it sounds weird when everyone is shopping for gifts for those they care about. But when I hear the Christmas music which have started playing before Thanksgiving was even here I switch the radio station. It's not that I don't like them but "too much of a good thing" and I think when I want them I want to play from my playlist. Plus if I hear that "do you want fries with that" lyric again in that Christmas song I don't know what I'll do.
This year has more added to it (getting me down) with the economy being bad and people in our area still trying to get help from the BP disaster. And everywhere I go I hear complaints and talking about people considering moving out of the area. I love it here - it doesn't have the "big city" look or feel but you can visit those places on weekend trips. Destin, it's a small town with a beautiful beach and it has been called a "sleepy fishing village" because that was how it was founded. Tell your friends to visit us and they will see for themselves.
But back to the holidays… Our family decided to not buy tons of gifts and instead to just get together for a great meal and good fellowship. I like this. It takes the pressure off of those who don't have much money (including me) and makes it a "family" thing. And if you are like me you don't see your family as much as you want to or should because we are only here on earth for a while (life is short). You have the time to tell those close to you that you love them and you are thankful to have them in your lives. Do it… And if you have a family member (or you) that screwed up and got mad, so mad they they (you) decided not to talk to another person in the family it's time to fix this. Call them, message them, write them or better yet go see them and make things right. Family can be good and bad but it's still family.. get over it.
Some of you have heard me say "I'm broke and happy" when you have asked me how I was doing. I say this because things may be rough right now (I'm broke) but I am keeping a positive outlook to the future. I was blessed with having a friend come into my life this past year, even though it was only for a few months before she passed away. I am healthy, other than the little mental thing (people say I am crazy), I look forward to getting up every morning (even if morning is at 11:59), and I know things always change. I know I'll always dance in the shower to make my self smile, that a hug is better than a handshake (I'm happy) and that if you look into someones eyes when they are talking and listen you will get more out of what they are saying.
I wish you and your family the very best this Christmas Holiday Season and if I can do anything for you let me know. I ain't gots no money but I can make time for you if you want me to. Much love and happiness… always and forever! . . .

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Okay, here's one for you…
  Today I was working on working as always lately and I couldn't get a friend out of my head. The strange thing is that this is a friend who passed away August 5th from her battle with cancer. And if you know me you already know who I am talking about. I went to the beach to take a few photos or did I? I think I was there to hang out with her. I know it is kinda weird, I don't think I am losing it, but who knows these days.
  She told me (in her journal) to know that she was alright and not to be in a hurry to catch up with her. To enjoy my time on this earth making people smile like I did for her. I didn't think I did that much be I am glad it helped her. 
  Oh well I better get back to writing the story about us because that's another thing I had promised myself when she left this earth way too soon.
  I'll be thinking of her every time I am at the beach until I see her for the first time.
Have a great week everyone.
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I am a shy guy… I know what you are thinking "yeah right" this guy who gives more hugs than handshakes is full of crap. Ok, I'll rephrase it. I was a shy guy until I had to stand up in front of 100 people to give a report on a conference I had attended. The person in charge of the meeting told me that I had looked nervous. I told him I was scared and even shaking. He told me to look out at the people, I did, it didn't help. Ha Ha nervous laugh. Then he said this. Out of the 100 people maybe 20 of them will be paying attention. Out of those 20 maybe 10 will even care about what I am saying and out of those 10 people most likely none of them will remember what you had said. Then he said this " do it for yourself" and from then on I have still been nervous but not as much and I don't worry about what they think of me. I am ok with that. Do somethings for yourself and as long as they don't hurt any else you will be ok. Take a chance at making yourself happy 'cause you might find out that you like it and others will like the new you too! I am happy even though most will agree I am still full of crap, well sometimes. 

I guess there are all/many types of them? Friends who listen to you when you are feeling down, those who smile with you when you are happy, those who cry with you when you lose someone, and those who celebrate the little things just to dance and have a good time. 
But even though most will say that it takes two people to have a friendship, I don't think that's totally right. I think that you can be your own best friend. I know that sounds weird but I believe that you have to treat yourself as you would want to be treated by others. You have to support yourself, encourage, like, and help yourself grow and get better everyday. 
That little voice in your head is yours and you can choose to listen or ignore it. And it seems to me when I ignore it I don't get anything accomplished and kinda give up. I get myself down and I have to look outside of me for help. That's when I look to my friends for help. And that is where you come in. My friends know who they are and tend to touch base just when I need it most. 
It may sound strange but I have had good friends who I have never met in person. Though technology I have made friends online and I have talked to them more than others in person. I say this to those who are afraid to step out there and meet total strangers. Sure you still have to be cautious but once you start talking to people (really talking) you can tell if they are for real or just playing around. And when you do meet people you will find out we are all alike with similar problems and things that make you smile. You can receive help with issues you are facing as well as help people with their problems in life, both you and them will benefits from these friendships. Ask me about "Making Friends with Candy" sometime when you have time to listen to a true story too long for me to write here. It is a story I will cherish forever the rest of my days here on earth. 
Oh well back to friends. How many do you have? What would you do for them? Anything you wouldn't do? What is a "real" friend? You need to answer these questions for you. And when you are done with answers go make more friends. You can be a friend just by smiling and saying hello to that person you pass in the hallway at work or a total stranger at the mall. Push my "Add Me" button or anyone that looks interesting to you and start a friendship.

Sharing what's in/on your mind, recording memories on paper or in your computer. Connecting you thoughts with those who read your stuff. Why I do it? I guess it it therapy for me, an escape from everyday realities. Also since I like to take pictures and draw I can use writing to compliment the image or explain why I took photo or just as a visual aid to my story. And sometimes if I am lucky people enjoy what I said and tell me they did. It may help them get-a-way from their "real" worlds for a moment. Some have told me that I see things from a different angle than they do. Well maybe when taking photos I do 'cause I don't mind getting into the dirt, water or on the ground to capture a image. You can, so I am discovering in writing see and communicate from different angles also. So please be patient with me until I get it right/write. . .

"He's late we are going to miss our nap"
"We are so ghetto, they will never know..."
" Do you like American girls?"
" Do you like young girls like us?"
"Are you upset now?"
"Does she wax?"
"I already have a child I don't need to have kids"
"Maybe? Maybe he's different?"
"OMG?"
Wth? Okay the last one was my comment. I was at lunch with a client discussing upcoming projects that I may have the opportunity to bid/work on. We had finished our chips and salsa and we were working on our entrees when I asked what my next blog should be about. We both looked up at the same time and smiled while listening to the comments already mentioned above. That was followed by the title of this blog. I think it's fun and entertaining and yes a little voyeuristic. I know we have all listened to conversations going on close to us. Don't even say that you haven't.
Some of the conversations have been very funny, some sad and some just plain crazy. Today was one of those crazy ones. Well at least to me 'cause I'm not a early twenty something year old girl. They may have been cute but "OMG", like where are their heads at?" was all I could think.
Everything was about "me", not me but the person who was talking. And "like", "like this" and "like that" was almost every other word out of her head. And some of the questions discussed at lunch in a full restaurant "Does she wax?" . This question was asked by a girl to a guy to find out what he liked about her. And those of you who know me know that I am not very conservative but wow... again really?
So what do I say next? My head is still shaking back and forth wondering if it was all true.
After giggling for for a little bit with my friend we got back to work stuff. I was still curious to see what these people looked like. I saw them as they were leaving and I could only think "omg" and "like really". They could have came off the set of "clueless" or straight from the valley. Enough said.
So the next time you are talking with your closest friends, clients, or people you just met remember... Someone could be listening or even writing about what you said. And I know that I will be writing again under the same title and I am already looking forward to it.

It just sounds like a fun title for a little time with words.
It also smells and tastes good.
And it's healthy and good for you.
Everyone knows that the smell of bacon cooking reminds you of something. It reminds me of being at home on the weekends and mom is cooking for us on the stove. Unless it's pancakes and dad usually made them for us. Yes being together with family before heading out on our separate ways is a good thing.
Bacon makes you think "hummmmm that smells great and I shouldn't eat it" but we always do. And when we are making it we eat a couple of pieces before it even reaches the breakfast table, well at least I do. Tastes good? Let's talk about this. Bacon cooked right is crunchy and chewy at the same time. Pieces melt in your mouth and other pieces you get to chew on until you tell it "good-bye" and swallow it. Can you tell that I had some this very morning?
But how about pancakes? Do you like them flat, fluffy, with butter, with syrup, fruit inside or on top, peanut butter, nuts, and whipped cream? Well I was recently asked this and I found out that I liked them all of the ways mentioned. But after thinking about it a little longer I decided that I liked them the best when someone else made them for me.
There is something really great about someone cooking pancakes or anything for you. You know that they took the time to get all of the ingredients, put them together, cook them and serve them to you. And if they are not just plain (unless that's how you like them) you know that they had thought about you before even making them. Plus with food being both a comfort thing and survival need they must care about you if they are willing to share a meal with you with a little good conversation on the side, right?
Pancakes can be healthy with more fruit and less syrup and good for you too. Ok kinda healthy, better than sugar filled cereal or glazed donuts. The healthy part may be how it makes you both feel when enjoying each others company.
Today's breakfast was a special treat, I liked it and I plan on making something and serving it for someone soon. And i suggest that you plan on doing this for someone you care about too.
Pass the bacon please, just one more piece and I'm good...

Realationships > Real + Relationships
How do you start writing about relationships that are real? I believe you have experience things before you can talk about them and have someone believe it or at least listen. It has to be part of your reality or learned through someone else's experiences.
We all have been involved in relationships with loved ones, family, co-workers, friends and even people we interact with during the course of the our day. In these relationships the more real or true we are the more we will get out of them.
I guess it all depends on what we want from these relationships and sometimes what we are willing to do to get what we want. Treat people like you want to be treated. Try not to judge because we don't know who people really are by just outer appearances or current jobs... get to know people.
I know it sounds a little bit weird but we all have needs. Some of us (me) just need a hug from time to time, others want someone to hang out with when they are alone, someone to talk to, and others are looking for something that is missing in their lives. I know people who are very successful in their careers but their personal lives are out of sync right now. I also know some who are in love so much that they are not focusing on work... blinded by it. We all need balance. I'm still working on this too.
I tend to talk to random people when out in public (and by random meaning I hadn't met them before) and I like to listen to what they are into at this time in their lives. Some people talk about how the kids are growing up so quickly, others are looking for a place to met girls/guys to party with, and even others talk about the rough times they are having in their relationships including love, sex and the way they roll. How or why do we talk to total strangers about things that are so personal? I've done it before online chatting to people I have never met in real life. I guess we figure that we will never met them and we are looking for someone to listen and might even get some good advice. But do remember that those online people are real people and they can become real life friends, so keep it real don't blow things out of proportion or lie.
When it comes to giving advice to people I usually think about what's in it for both people involved. I may have been told what one side of the relationship needed but then I think about what the other person may have wanted. Sometimes the problem sticks out there like a sore thumb but since we are involved in relationship so deeply (emotionally, physically, whatever) we tend to be blinded by it. Love is a crazy mofo (motivator) that will make us do things we thought we would have never even considered in the past. I know I have done some crazy stuff... well we don't need to go there again. And I am NOT a doctor or have a degree in psychology so my advice is only a Jim-ology (thanks Jessi). My take on it from my point of view.
All of us from time to time need someone to listen to us vent and maybe even give us advice on how to handle a relationship issue. Be there for your friends and even if the people who are not your friends ask to talk... listen. Karma is another thing that maintains that every act done, no matter how insignificant, will eventually return to the doer with equal impact.
Be good to people, all people, listen, love, have your heart broken... do it again 'cause no one's perfect, and we all have needs.

work. play. passion.