Judy Arnall

“Luckily, children’s memories don’t start much before four years of age, which is Mother Nature’s way of forgiving parents during those really tough years of parenting small children.”
― Judy Arnall, Parenting With Patience: Turn Frustration Into Connection With 3 Easy Steps

“According to Dr. Otto Weinenger, author of Time-In Parenting, children up to seven years of age most often don’t know why they are in time-out. They just know that Mommy or Daddy is mad! Even if they know they did something to cause the time-out, they don’t have the self-control developed yet to stop doing it. Dr. Weininger states that most children don’t have the reflective skills required for time-out, that we may think they do, until age seven. Those reflective skills include the big questions of, “What have I done to be here?” “What was my part in the problem?” “What can I do to make things better?” Those are all questions we hope our timed-out children ask themselves, yet often they are just thinking, “I’m so mad at Mom,” “I’m going to get even with my sibling when I get out, and this time I won’t get caught,” “This is so unfair,” and “I hate myself and the whole world.” (Weininger, 2002)”
― Judy Arnall, Parenting With Patience: Turn Frustration Into Connection With 3 Easy Steps