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10 things I want my children to know before they marry.
For years I have harped to my children about getting married, having children, and living life. That’s probably because my first marriage ended in divorce, and regardless of how well we parents think we handle it, divorce has a profound effect on children.
My first child is now getting married and I want her, and all my children, to know these ten things before they marry.
1. I will always be your biggest cheerleader. I promise never to leave you, to listen more than I talk, to respect your decisions, and to embrace you for who you are.
You will always be my child, and me always your mother, my home always your home.
2. Marriage is much more than a lifelong commitment between two people. It’s a coming together of two families. It is a spiritual commitment blessed by, and in the eyes of, God.
3. Believe in yourself and treat yourself well. Always have something to look forward to.
4. Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Remember that you are not limited by your five senses. Listen to your gut. It will always tell you the truth. And the truth will set you free.
5. Remember that respect is at the core of every relationship.
6. When you choose to have children, know that your children are yours forever. Remember this when choosing a spouse because your children will have the genetic makeup and characteristics of both parents.
7. Live in the present but remember where you’ve been and that you are strong. Consider today as truly a present. You know that tragedies and adversities are inevitable in our lifetime, and it’s how we weave them into our life that makes all the difference. As life gets complicated, ask for help.
8. If it’s meant to happen, it will happen. God always takes care of the details. Have faith.
9. People do not change, but our experiences change us. Surround yourself with those who celebrate your presence, and focus on things that last forever because learning to live and love is a lifelong process.
10. Set your ego aside, walk with grace, and lead with humility. Show your vulnerability and your humanity. Connect with others and Nature because what matters in the end are the connections we leave behind.
Caroline Flohr, author, writing true stories from a mother's heart, www.CarolineFlohr.com
Heaven's Child, A Mother's Journey From Heartbreak To Healing, Second Edition
My first child is now getting married and I want her, and all my children, to know these ten things before they marry.
1. I will always be your biggest cheerleader. I promise never to leave you, to listen more than I talk, to respect your decisions, and to embrace you for who you are.
You will always be my child, and me always your mother, my home always your home.
2. Marriage is much more than a lifelong commitment between two people. It’s a coming together of two families. It is a spiritual commitment blessed by, and in the eyes of, God.
3. Believe in yourself and treat yourself well. Always have something to look forward to.
4. Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. Remember that you are not limited by your five senses. Listen to your gut. It will always tell you the truth. And the truth will set you free.
5. Remember that respect is at the core of every relationship.
6. When you choose to have children, know that your children are yours forever. Remember this when choosing a spouse because your children will have the genetic makeup and characteristics of both parents.
7. Live in the present but remember where you’ve been and that you are strong. Consider today as truly a present. You know that tragedies and adversities are inevitable in our lifetime, and it’s how we weave them into our life that makes all the difference. As life gets complicated, ask for help.
8. If it’s meant to happen, it will happen. God always takes care of the details. Have faith.
9. People do not change, but our experiences change us. Surround yourself with those who celebrate your presence, and focus on things that last forever because learning to live and love is a lifelong process.
10. Set your ego aside, walk with grace, and lead with humility. Show your vulnerability and your humanity. Connect with others and Nature because what matters in the end are the connections we leave behind.
Caroline Flohr, author, writing true stories from a mother's heart, www.CarolineFlohr.com
Heaven's Child, A Mother's Journey From Heartbreak To Healing, Second Edition
A Little Silence, Please
I need some silence, please. My world is plugged and ready to go. Lacking is silence.
And I’m beginning to understand that there’s an art to silence. I can’t change my noisy world but I can disconnect.
After children are delivered to school, the drive home is silent. Silence surrounds me on a morning run, two dogs beside me, heals crunching a leaf. Gadgets are silenced while I focus on work. Email is closed. I don’t check caller ID. Voicemail takes the messages.
Several hours pass. School releases and tending turns toward children. They flip on the radio as chatter erupts, errands are run and the children race to their afternoon activities. Everyone is busy and engaged. They ask for help with homework. SpongeBob and the latest YouTube video fill the voids. I ask them to turn off the background noise. They claim it’s necessary for their focus. Can’t they think in silence? Do they fear silence? Dinner needs tending. The sight of the TV annoys me. I close the cabinet.
When the children are tucked in for the night and all is quiet, I go to bed with headphones listening to a meditation track. The vibration of the music seems to settle the constant flurry of activity that flutters through my head, remnants of the day. Plugged in, I feel content. Stillness returns. But where is silence?
It’s silence I crave. Being alone energizes me. Am I an introvert? But maybe I’d feel differently if my world wasn’t constantly plugged in and engaged, full of family and friends, moving from one activity to the next. But in the next thought..I can’t imagine my life without all the family, friends, and activity.
I’ve learned that it’s only by stepping outside my world that I can see what is most important to me. I’ve come to learn that I do my best work by just sitting still. The stillness energizes me. How do I teach my children the value of silence, stillness, and solitude? My vocabulary needs to include those three words more.
Do you fear silence? Does it energize you? And please, where do you find silence?
Heaven's Child, A true story of family, friends, and strangers
And I’m beginning to understand that there’s an art to silence. I can’t change my noisy world but I can disconnect.
After children are delivered to school, the drive home is silent. Silence surrounds me on a morning run, two dogs beside me, heals crunching a leaf. Gadgets are silenced while I focus on work. Email is closed. I don’t check caller ID. Voicemail takes the messages.
Several hours pass. School releases and tending turns toward children. They flip on the radio as chatter erupts, errands are run and the children race to their afternoon activities. Everyone is busy and engaged. They ask for help with homework. SpongeBob and the latest YouTube video fill the voids. I ask them to turn off the background noise. They claim it’s necessary for their focus. Can’t they think in silence? Do they fear silence? Dinner needs tending. The sight of the TV annoys me. I close the cabinet.
When the children are tucked in for the night and all is quiet, I go to bed with headphones listening to a meditation track. The vibration of the music seems to settle the constant flurry of activity that flutters through my head, remnants of the day. Plugged in, I feel content. Stillness returns. But where is silence?
It’s silence I crave. Being alone energizes me. Am I an introvert? But maybe I’d feel differently if my world wasn’t constantly plugged in and engaged, full of family and friends, moving from one activity to the next. But in the next thought..I can’t imagine my life without all the family, friends, and activity.
I’ve learned that it’s only by stepping outside my world that I can see what is most important to me. I’ve come to learn that I do my best work by just sitting still. The stillness energizes me. How do I teach my children the value of silence, stillness, and solitude? My vocabulary needs to include those three words more.
Do you fear silence? Does it energize you? And please, where do you find silence?
Heaven's Child, A true story of family, friends, and strangers
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