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John Kim and Vanessa Bennett are therapists and coauthors of, It’s Not Me, It’s You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better. They’re also a couple, who met at a time when neither was anticipating life-changing love.  Learn how the pair came together, what made the start of their relationship rocky, how they navigate desire differences and what […]

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Dr. Rebecca Heiss received a phone call that made her question – and change – virtually everything about her life. Learn how she applied her research as a stress physiologist, how it all impacted her intimate life, and her top advice for navigating stress. Stream the Girl Boner Radio episode on Apple Podcasts/iTunes, iHeartRadio, Amazon […]

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Stefanie Adler was young and in love when her mood swings and emotional outbursts threatened her relationship with her partner. Would a major health decision make a difference? Learn much more in the new Girl Boner Radio episode! Stream it on Apple Podcasts/iTunes, iHeartRadio, Amazon Music, Spotify or below. Or read on for a lightly […]

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Early on, Annette Benedetti learned that it’s normal for women not to have orgasms during sex. And then, for years into adulthood, she didn’t. After a marriage and raising a daughter, she felt disconnected from her sensual self. Spicy exploration and a tipsy, New Year’s Eve proclamation led her to a commitment that would change […]

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Intimacy expert Susan Bratton has had a lot of spicy adventures over the years. Recently, sex with her three partners, including her new girlfriend, seemed like a worthy new adventure. Some smart planning and practices helped make her first foursome with her polycule joyful, meaning, and fun. Learn much more in the new Girl Boner […]

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At age 50, entrepreneur Nicky Wake realized she’d never had sex while sober. Leading up to that, heartbreak, grief, and related rock bottoms prompted her to get the help she needed. Now polyamorous and sober, Nicky is thriving. Learn much more in the new Girl Boner Radio episode! Stream it on Apple Podcasts/iTunes, iHeartRadio, Amazon […]

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Dysregulation during sex made early intimacy challenging for Emily Zawadzki and her now wife – until a diagnosis changed everything. Kat’s Asperger’s made romantic relationships tricky, until she met her wife. Rachael Rose navigates polyamory as an ADHD person, and sees how her drive for dopamine and lack of a sense of time (“time blindness”) […]

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Welcome to our last summer replay! I originally released this conversation with my friend and colleague, Makenzie Mizell, as a bonus episode. It’s a lot more chit chatty than what you normally find here, and very light and fun. I figured we could all use some of that these days! You’ll hear about times we […]

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Did you know that horniness is one of hundreds of reasons folks feel motivated to have sex? It’s not even the most common. Understanding your own desire, and what sex and relationship therapist, Cyndi Darnell, calls your erotic template, can help you cultivate an erotically charged sex life – whether you’re single or partnered. . […]

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I’m back with another summer replay! Our second of four, it features intimacy coach Jessie Fresh. Jessie was in her early 20s when she realized that silence was her main sex educator. After a mid-coital wakeup call and two relationships—one with sexual chemistry, one with only emotional sparks—she sought ways to cultivate the richer relationships […]

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