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An excerpt from our forthcoming book/4
In anticipation of the relase of our forthcoming book 'We Are Human Angels, We Inspire Change' we're sharing an excerpt a day. Today's is from Chapter 1.3, Feelings of Guilt.
(...) Guilt is the shadow of the ego. Feelings of guilt are the outcome of an ego-centered vision of life, and they are always founded on the denial of reality. We believe ourselves to be so important and so special that we think that something can happen because we, and only we, make it happen. Whatever we have done that has made us feel guilty, we must remember that everything that happens is always part of a divine plan of love. Everything that happens holds meaning for us as well as for everyone else. Nothing is ever worthless or pointless in the Uni-verse. Nothing can ever happen without a covenant of souls: both of ourselves and of the people whose suffering we feel guilty for.
Furthermore, we feel wrong and guilty when we judge ourselves for having once again been caught in the old and well-known snares of the ego. Even though we have already endured them many times. We may once again feel anger towards someone for which we no longer want to feel angry. Alternatively, we passively allow someone else to act in a disrespectful way toward us, or we do not find the courage to say something that we want to say. If yet again you are repeating a pattern of behavior, which you had been trying to stop, or that you thought you had already overcome, do not judge yourself. Do not feel either wrong or guilty. This is simply how “it had to happen.” What we call “mistakes” are life’s lessons. We find our “mistakes” difficult to bear, because if we judge ourselves, we cannot see them for what they are: a source of wisdom. We continue to label our “mistakes” as faults and to feel guilty because of them. This is why they always return to our lives.
A sense of guilt is the most powerful obstacle to the accomplishment of ourselves: we become our own worst enemies. Our attempts at fulfillment, both in our romantic and our social relationships, will fail due to our destructive feelings of guilt, and therefore we do not feel worthy or adequate. When we are happy, we feel guilty as if our happiness is an insult to those who suffer. When we receive love and attention, we feel guilty and uncomfortable because we feel we are not worthy of it. When we allow ourselves to be ourselves, we feel guilty, because in this way we disappoint those who (partners, parents, children, friends) would like us to be different, each according to their expectations projected onto us.
Feelings of guilt make us vulnerable and subject to being manipulated. We often do things that we do not want to do, and we also abstain from doing things that we would love to do with the purpose of not making our loved ones suffer or not disappointing the expectations that others have of us. Behaving this way, we score the illusory goal of abstaining ourselves from experiencing the unpleasant feeling of awkwardness. However, in this way we give up on being who we are and we live a life that we believe someone else has chosen for us. The result is, on one side, the profound sadness that arises from the act of self-betrayal. On the other side, the inevitable result is resentment. We are resentful towards those that we believe have forced us to make decisions that are not in accordance with our will. (...) We Are Human Angels, We Inspire Change
We Are Human Angels, We Inspire Change goes on sale on April 17, 2016. It is available for pre-order at Amazon
(...) Guilt is the shadow of the ego. Feelings of guilt are the outcome of an ego-centered vision of life, and they are always founded on the denial of reality. We believe ourselves to be so important and so special that we think that something can happen because we, and only we, make it happen. Whatever we have done that has made us feel guilty, we must remember that everything that happens is always part of a divine plan of love. Everything that happens holds meaning for us as well as for everyone else. Nothing is ever worthless or pointless in the Uni-verse. Nothing can ever happen without a covenant of souls: both of ourselves and of the people whose suffering we feel guilty for.
Furthermore, we feel wrong and guilty when we judge ourselves for having once again been caught in the old and well-known snares of the ego. Even though we have already endured them many times. We may once again feel anger towards someone for which we no longer want to feel angry. Alternatively, we passively allow someone else to act in a disrespectful way toward us, or we do not find the courage to say something that we want to say. If yet again you are repeating a pattern of behavior, which you had been trying to stop, or that you thought you had already overcome, do not judge yourself. Do not feel either wrong or guilty. This is simply how “it had to happen.” What we call “mistakes” are life’s lessons. We find our “mistakes” difficult to bear, because if we judge ourselves, we cannot see them for what they are: a source of wisdom. We continue to label our “mistakes” as faults and to feel guilty because of them. This is why they always return to our lives.
A sense of guilt is the most powerful obstacle to the accomplishment of ourselves: we become our own worst enemies. Our attempts at fulfillment, both in our romantic and our social relationships, will fail due to our destructive feelings of guilt, and therefore we do not feel worthy or adequate. When we are happy, we feel guilty as if our happiness is an insult to those who suffer. When we receive love and attention, we feel guilty and uncomfortable because we feel we are not worthy of it. When we allow ourselves to be ourselves, we feel guilty, because in this way we disappoint those who (partners, parents, children, friends) would like us to be different, each according to their expectations projected onto us.
Feelings of guilt make us vulnerable and subject to being manipulated. We often do things that we do not want to do, and we also abstain from doing things that we would love to do with the purpose of not making our loved ones suffer or not disappointing the expectations that others have of us. Behaving this way, we score the illusory goal of abstaining ourselves from experiencing the unpleasant feeling of awkwardness. However, in this way we give up on being who we are and we live a life that we believe someone else has chosen for us. The result is, on one side, the profound sadness that arises from the act of self-betrayal. On the other side, the inevitable result is resentment. We are resentful towards those that we believe have forced us to make decisions that are not in accordance with our will. (...) We Are Human Angels, We Inspire Change
We Are Human Angels, We Inspire Change goes on sale on April 17, 2016. It is available for pre-order at Amazon
An excerpt from our new book/6
We Are Human Angels, We Inspire ChangeOur new book is out!
We're sharing an excerpt from Chapter 1.5, Forgiveness
(...) There cannot be Unconditional Love without unconditional forgiveness. Forgiveness is not related to the expectation that those who have hurt us will recognize their actions and make amends. Forgiveness is an intimate act that does not imply having a physical interaction with the “offender”; the communication can simply occur at soul level. Forgiveness can either concern someone who has passed away, or someone that is no longer present in our lives. To forgive does not necessarily mean that we must restore a relationship that has been broken. Reconciliation is a free choice and not necessarily the outcome of forgiveness.
To forgive others means forgiving ourselves, because in their roles as our mirrors, they have been nothing other than a tool to our lack of self-love, a lack of self-recognition, and a lack of self-respect. Only through forgiving can we understand that there is nothing and no one to forgive. And that we too, if we have hurt someone, have been for them, nothing more than an instrument of love in the same way they have been for us; in the Oneness, there is no separation, no judgment, and everything happens in Divine perfection. Self-forgiveness allows us to give and receive love. Without self-forgiveness, there is always some fault to expiate that interrupts the free flow of love, which is giving and also receiving. We deny ourselves from receiving love, attention, respect, and, in addition, we also deny ourselves all those blessings (health, joy, abundance, …) that life is always ready to give with open hands to all those who are open to receive them.
Forgiveness that comes from the ego always brings with it separation and judgment. We set ourselves above others, thinking that we are “right”, thinking that we are “better.” Forgiveness that comes from the ego is an act of real presumption: “Even if you were wrong, I am so good and magnanimous that I forgive you.” Forgiveness in the Oneness is the overcoming of judgment: everyone is absolved in Unconditional Love. When we stop judging, we forgive by recognizing that everything has been manifested in the perfection of the Oneness. If for every action (someone hurts us, either with their words or their actions) there is an equal and opposite reaction (our suffering), forgiveness in the Oneness is the factor that by canceling out the action cancels out also the reaction. This happens not because we activate a forced mechanism of suppression. It happens because we let go of, with love, everything that has caused us to suffer. Forgiving ourselves, we also forgive all those that we have judged to be the cause of our suffering.
When we remember that we are divine beings, we stop feeling victimized by people, circumstance, or fate. We can clearly see that we have co-created everything we have experienced till now, including our pain. What has happened in the past stops conditioning our present. Stepping out of our role as victims, we regain our spiritual mastery and our inner power.
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We're sharing an excerpt from Chapter 1.5, Forgiveness
(...) There cannot be Unconditional Love without unconditional forgiveness. Forgiveness is not related to the expectation that those who have hurt us will recognize their actions and make amends. Forgiveness is an intimate act that does not imply having a physical interaction with the “offender”; the communication can simply occur at soul level. Forgiveness can either concern someone who has passed away, or someone that is no longer present in our lives. To forgive does not necessarily mean that we must restore a relationship that has been broken. Reconciliation is a free choice and not necessarily the outcome of forgiveness.
To forgive others means forgiving ourselves, because in their roles as our mirrors, they have been nothing other than a tool to our lack of self-love, a lack of self-recognition, and a lack of self-respect. Only through forgiving can we understand that there is nothing and no one to forgive. And that we too, if we have hurt someone, have been for them, nothing more than an instrument of love in the same way they have been for us; in the Oneness, there is no separation, no judgment, and everything happens in Divine perfection. Self-forgiveness allows us to give and receive love. Without self-forgiveness, there is always some fault to expiate that interrupts the free flow of love, which is giving and also receiving. We deny ourselves from receiving love, attention, respect, and, in addition, we also deny ourselves all those blessings (health, joy, abundance, …) that life is always ready to give with open hands to all those who are open to receive them.
Forgiveness that comes from the ego always brings with it separation and judgment. We set ourselves above others, thinking that we are “right”, thinking that we are “better.” Forgiveness that comes from the ego is an act of real presumption: “Even if you were wrong, I am so good and magnanimous that I forgive you.” Forgiveness in the Oneness is the overcoming of judgment: everyone is absolved in Unconditional Love. When we stop judging, we forgive by recognizing that everything has been manifested in the perfection of the Oneness. If for every action (someone hurts us, either with their words or their actions) there is an equal and opposite reaction (our suffering), forgiveness in the Oneness is the factor that by canceling out the action cancels out also the reaction. This happens not because we activate a forced mechanism of suppression. It happens because we let go of, with love, everything that has caused us to suffer. Forgiving ourselves, we also forgive all those that we have judged to be the cause of our suffering.
When we remember that we are divine beings, we stop feeling victimized by people, circumstance, or fate. We can clearly see that we have co-created everything we have experienced till now, including our pain. What has happened in the past stops conditioning our present. Stepping out of our role as victims, we regain our spiritual mastery and our inner power.
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