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I have been doing loads of deep thinking, over the last bunch of years. 

Primarily on what does it take for us to truly thrive, and experience deep joy, wonder and amazement; when things around us might be a bit sh#t?

How can we transcend the drama’s playing out around us? 

So, what we experience of the world is not of a low vibrational nature. 

How can we experience deep joy, without having to ingest something, or distract ourselves, or “buy” something to make us feel better, or have someone else tell us we are worthy of feeling good? 

How can we feel joy deep in our bones, regardless of external influences? 

That is what interests and fascinates me. 

And you know what? 

Unsurprisingly, I keep coming back to the HEART, and the power of the heart.   

When I work with clients, I have an even greater fixation on them tapping into the dormant power of the HEART. 

The Heartmath Institute in the USA – many years ago now – talked about the heart expressing the most powerful electromagnetic field; measurable out to 10 feet (3 metres). 

It’s electromagnetic field of influence is even greater than the brain! 

Which leads me to my next observation. 

Is it intentional?

What follows is a hypothesis I have been playing with recently. 

Society has a fixation on “intelligence” and IQ being not only worthy of accolades, but a level of reverence. 

The education system highly rewards, and focuses on the development of intelligence (primarily in the form of regurgitation of information it deems important). 

The brain is glorified. 

With an additional focus on left-brain functions. 

Structural, linear, specialisation, and focused on the minutia, as opposed to the “context” and big picture, which are very right-brain functions. 

(You can read the book “The Master and His Emissary” if you want to go deeper on the topic of societies over-fixation on left-brained thinking and being throughout history). 

My main point for now, is that from a societal and educational perspective there is a heavy focus on the brain, and primarily the left-brain functions. 

So, point Number 1 is this:

Society and its “systems” place a heavy focus on the development of the brain (and primarily left-brain capabilities). 

Which takes us to my second primary point. 

We live in a world that is (maybe designed?) to have us in FEAR a lot of the time. 

Fear of our health.  

Fear of our safety. 

Fear of our financial security. 

Fear of losing our job (and income source). 

Fear of the wrong political party being elected.

Fear of World War III.  

Fear of our relationship ending. 

Most of these fears are often not “real”, but are perpetuated by fear-based story telling on media sources, especially mainstream “news”, but not limited to them.  

And yes, I do have a point to make before things get too depressing.

I talk a lot about “survival emotional states” (using Dr Joe Dispenza’s terminology), which are held around the gut, or around the first 3 chakra’s / energy centres, and include other emotions beyond fear, such as guilt, rage, lust, shame, apathy, etc..

All of this fear stuff, fixates our attention and ENERGY into the gut area. 

It affects how we digest not only food, but life. 

It is in our guts where we all experience anxiety. 

So, point Number 2 is:

Because of the excessive perpetuation of FEAR (mainly through media sources or False Evidence Appearing Real), a lot of our energy is directed to, and trapped in our gut region.  

What does this mean?  

The region and source of our TRUE POWER

Here is my main point. 

Our world is set up so we direct attention and resources to enhance the BRAIN, and are triggered constantly by “bad news” (and a poorly-adapted autonomic nervous system to a modern life of limited real physical threats) and to the GUT. 

But, our HEART, where true power and wisdom reside, is given little to no attention. 

We were not taught at school (or any mainstream educational institutions) how to open our hearts, or manage our emotions, or dip deeply into gratitude, or expand the field of love within us and all around us, or to sit quietly in order to tap into the wisdom of the heart, or use our hearts coherence to still our mind, or use the heart to influence the quantum field, or any of that stuff. 

After 26 years reading, researching and writing about physical and mental health, I am of the belief that the high rate of heart disease is not just lifestyle related poor choices, but because our hearts have not been fully developed from an Emotional and Energetic perspective.

Additionally, the field of “epigenetics” has opened my mind up to the idea that we are not genetically influenced as much as we are led to believe, because we can change our genetic destiny based on how we think, manage our emotions and choose our behaviours (since these three things influences what genes are “turned ON” and “turned OFF”). 

Our hearts are WAY more powerful than we imagine. 

WAY beyond being a great pump for transporting oxygen and nutrients into our cells. 

Our heart when open and coherent, influences our inner health and the health of the world around us. 

Which the yogis, monks, sages and saints have been teaching for millennia. 

Our HEARTS is where the TRUE power is at.

My hypothesis laid out

Here is where I am leading this conversation. 

I believe in a world that is – as I wrote about the other week – a bit (i.e. a LOT) bonkers, it is the power of our HEARTS that will change things. 

I also think our hearts are an under-developed ENERGITIC and EMOTIONAL muscle, due to a fixation on intelligence, and an over-stimulation of the gut. 

If we want to change our health, abundance, plus level of joy, awe and wonder, we need to work on the coherence and expansion of our hearts.

I also personally believe it is individual and collective heart coherence and opening, which will change the world. 

Harmony at a micro and macro level is unlikely to come from more “thinking”, or a “fight, flight or freeze response” (a fear-based survival mechanism). 

It is actually going to come from more heart-centred LOVE. 

When we have a deep sense of love for ourself, we have no need or desire to fight, to prove anything, to have more than we actually need, to pine for accolades, to win arguments, and to even fear death. 

We transcend that stuff, when our heart is attuned to love. 

In Summary

The physical HEART and energetic heart-centre is the most powerful part of our being, and has the greatest influence on the quantum field (and ether) around us. 

Our society and systems are set up to revere left-brain “intelligence” (not wisdom). 

Our media sources (and repetition of their stories to others) enhance the number of things to “FEAR”, keeping us in survival emotional states, with a concentration in the gut region (physically and energetically). 

If we want to radically change ourselves and the world around us we need to work on developing our HEARTS coherence and expansiveness. 

LOVE transcends the ego and any desire to prove you are better than anyone else (whether that is you as a person, or you as a nation/religion/ethnicity/etc.).

My Parting Words

I have been brewing on the subject of the HEART for a long time. 

How do we practically “power it up”? 

Working with clients over the years who have past trauma, I am very aware that the heart has suffered. 

I am also aware that when the heart is healed – or unleased – the trauma can be released or neutralised. 

How many of us have actually had any training in how to best use our heart – particularly at the energetic level?

The energetic coherence of the heart is a real thing.

I have often repeated the quantum science idea that the “(electromagnetic) field influences matter”. 

When our heart truly comes on line, it not only has a personal healing influence on us, but it influences the people and the fields around us. 

I am still putting together the best ways to “exercise” our heart at a physical and non-physical level, but among them are definitely meditative practices and breathwork. 

I like breathwork (pranayama) as it specifically stimulates the physical region of the heart, plus recalibrates the autonomic nervous system. 

So, in the not-too-distant future, I will write another article on what I think are the best practices for opening and enhancing the heart.

In the meantime, explore a daily practice of breathwork, and the easiest for me is the WimHof Method. 

Plus, spend 5-mins a day connecting to infinite love and gratitude, while placing your hand on your heart in order to direct your energy to you heart (where attention goes, energy flows). 

Let’s all work on loving ourselves more deeply, and let the ripple effects, positively influence the world around us.

Have a wonderful day and a week of your heart opening a little bit more every day.  

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“LOVE transcends the ego and any desire to prove you are better than anyone else (whether that is you as a person, or you as a nation/religion/ethnicity/etc.)” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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56 years on planet Earth. 18+ years Coaching. 1000’s of conversations. 500+ personal development and growth books. 14 years as an Officer in the army. 5 years as a senior security consultant to mega events. Business co-owner of a successful yoga centre in Bali for 4-years. Published 6 books. Insatiable curiosity and thirst for greater knowledge, truth, wisdom and my own evolution. And a love to share. So, here is what I think are pretty useful and practical insights.   

1. We only know what we know and don’t know what we don’t know.

Keep an open mind. What Carol Dweck (Mindset) would call a “Growth” mindset. Acknowledge you don’t know all there is to know – neither does any human being. Be curious. Be flexible with your beliefs. Read deeply and broadly. Never stop learning, and you will never stop growing. You will also be more prepared for an ever-changing world.

2. Our ability to DISCERN is a superpower, but it needs cultivation.

The ability to Discern is aligned with a developed, and well-exercised pre-frontal cortex of the brain. What yogis would call a ‘sharpened Buddhi’. A level of mind that bridges the gap between higher mind and pure consciousness. It is also a great BS-detector (a lot of things we are told, even by ‘experts’ are just not true, are best-guesses, and don’t weigh up to deep scrutiny). The amount of often-cited ‘scientific’ research studies that cannot be replicated, is over 50%! So, practice daily mindful exercises like meditation or deep undisturbed contemplation to keep this part of the brain strong and finely attuned. 

3. Our thoughts, beliefs and stories are not FACTS, but we often think they are, and act (or don’t act) accordingly.

Just because we thought something, does not make it true, or even that useful. Most of our thoughts are unrealised fears, half-truths, out-of-date subconscious programs, incorrect information, and limiting or disempowering beliefs. Do the work to understand the inner landscape and loop-recording messages playing in your mind, and then do the housekeeping to get rid of the stuff that is no longer useful. Check out Overcoming Self-Imposed Limitations free online workshop to start the journey.

4. Without consciousness (conscious awareness), even the most celebrated Virtues can become liabilities. E.g. Courage without consciousness can become recklessness.

Knowledge + Experience does not equal Wisdom. It equals “potential” Wisdom. It only becomes WISDOM IN ACTION when it is paired with CONSCIOUSNESS. Conscious and a well-developed sense of conscious awareness, drawing on all the knowledge and experience we have, allows us to make the best choice, in the eternal present now, to best deal with the specific and unique situation in front of us. This is Wisdom in Action.  

5. One of the greatest causes of pain can be when we expect people to be, or act, differently than who they are, or what they have consistently demonstrated as their ‘personality’.

When we expect someone to be, do or act differently than how they consistently be, act or do things, we are being sort of DELUSIONAL. Don’t expect people to do things how you would do them. Don’t expect them to think like you do or act like you would. Spend your time observing them to understand how they actually show up (their personality), and then decide wisely how best to interact with them, or task them. Based on who they are, not on who you would like them to be. Remember, that is borderline delusional. And you don’t want to be that, do you?

6. Use it, or lose it. If you don’t use your muscles, they atrophy. If you don’t use your brain (and rely too much on AI or Google), your brain will atrophy.

Just as you would not expect your muscles to stay strong if you never use them, or your cardiovascular system to be highly functional if you are not physically active; don’t expect your brain to be robust, resilient, highly-capable and creative, if you don’t actively and consciously use it. Take the time to think hard, before you reach for your “smartphone”. The brain is like all the other muscles in your body. It too responds to an intentional and well-designed workout that incorporates resistance, effort and the expenditure of energy. 

7. Confidence is a truly over-rated virtue and character trait. Time-and-time again, it is trumped by COURAGE, especially when the going gets (really) tough.

When the going gets tough – as it surely does at times – confidence gets going too. It has been my experience Coaching over 18 years, that developing our “confidence” is not the best use of our time. Because confidence is of limited benefit when it comes to dealing with the really tough shit in life. On the other hand, COURAGE is an all-terrain, all-weather, all-seasons, and all-obstacles fuel and my personal psychology and Virtue of choice. It is also the doorway to higher levels of consciousness; when we cultivate the courage to not care too much about what other people think of us and our actions. At that point, when courage infuses us and our actions, we springboard into a life that we truly love, and a life which loves us back.

8. You will neither be liked by everyone, nor be able to keep everyone happy, so manage your expectations.

No-one, and I mean no-one, has ever been liked by everyone. Whether they are Gandi, Martin Luther King, JFK, Jesus, Nelson Mandela or any other ‘great person’ you care to name. Those greats weren’t loved, or even liked a little bit, by everyone, so you will not be first. Learn to be cool with the FACT that not everyone is going to like you (who cares), and nor are you going to make everyone happy all the time. Even those people you care most about. Being ‘perfect’ is like a pink flying unicorn. It aint you and it doesn’t exist for anyone else. So let go of the unrealistic expectations and get back to aiming for being as great a human being as you are able to be. That, is doable.

9. Invest in yourself first.

If you try and take care of everyone else, before you take care of yourself, you are very likely to run out of stream. You are also – though you might not like to admit it – likely to plant the seeds of resentment if you place yourself last (or even second). When you ‘invest in yourself first’ and build up your own energy and resources, you get to help a whole lot more people. As we have all heard, many times before, put the oxygen mask on yourself FIRST, and then put it on others. In the decades of commercial flying, there is yet to be an upgrade of that basic strategy. Take great care of you, so you can take GREAT care of others (and be free of resentment – be it consciously or unconsciously).

10. One of the keys to a great relationship is in being the best human being you can be, and then choosing someone you love – just as they are.

Step 1: Build yourself into an awesome human being. Not perfect, but great. Not infallible, but doing the best you can. With the bumps and bruises to show for a life well lived; not a shiny suit of armour that is untarnished, untried and more for show than the real game of life. Be the authentic and unique version of you, to your highest potential. Step 2: Find a partner who you are in love with, for just who they are. Not who you want them to be or ‘hope’ they will become (if only you could make a few changes here and there). If you don’t love them as Version 1.0 (imperfections and all), then the relationship thing just got a little bit harder. Tony Robbins suggests that the success of a relationship depends greatly on selecting the right person in the here and now (for who they are, not who you want them to be, or ‘hope’ they become).

Note: There are other things I could add to the list, but this is more than enough to stir your mind, remove the blinkers, and create in you a force (for good) to be reckoned with.

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy. 

If you experience “ANXIETY” (a little or a LOT), this is a valuable and easy practice. 

In today’s TIPS, TOOL & STRATEGIES I look at the disruptive effects of ANXIETY, and a way to counter the physical effects. 
In the video I share practical insights on a very simple technique to use if (and when) you experience Anxiety. Regardless of whether it is mild or major anxiety you experience. Obviously, this is a much bigger subject, but we need to start somewhere.

What you will learn in this video:

The physical impacts of anxiety.What the yogis have been doing for 1000’s of years, when it comes to anxiety and stomach issues.A VERY simple technique to counter the effects of anxiety.How to increase your energy and support the healing of your body.
And do check out the Free workshop to better understand your “Limiting Beliefs”, which will definitely contribute to feelings of anxiety. https://www.balicocreation.com/overcome

Enjoy!
Carl

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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I wrote the first draft of this Newsletter as I waited at the Brisbane airport.   

And before I sat down, I was not entirely sure what I was going to write about. 

But I figured I would write about what might be at the forefront of people’s minds right about now.

And not just about the specifics of the shenanigans going on right now – whether that is a USA / Israel / Iran thing, or a Russian / Ukraine thing, or a Israel / Palestine thing, or a Jeffrey Epstein thing.

Or whatever it is – of the many things to choose from – that is trying to pull a lot of our attention now. 

 My primary interest is not in the state of affairs or even the (real “why”, I am a lot more interested in how we become the type of person who is not affected, or less affected, by WHATEVER the apparent crisis might be, regardless of how close we are or aren’t to the epicentre of the issue. 

I am most interested in how we can become a powerful enough person, so we can maintain a sense of calm, clarity, stability and with a luminous mind shining brightly; REGARDLESS of the flavour of the world or local issues going on.

And even how we can get and remain in love with life, regardless of the veracity of the storms we weather.  

Rather than trying to “logically” figure out why things are happening, or how they will unfold, or who is telling the truth and who is telling ‘porky pies’, which will just send us all nuts. 

And is not that useful for us in our day-to-day. 

Just last week I recommended a client of mine to stop watching the “news” for 1 week, as an EXPERIMENT to determine the reality of 2 things.

1. How does he feel when he does not watch the “news” for 1 week; and

2. How much of a negative impact does it have on his day-to-day decision-making, if he does not watch the “news” for 1 week? 

I am very interested to see the results of his experiment. 

I actually stopped watching this thing called “news” about 26 years ago now, and I believe it has not been detrimental at all, and I also believe it has improved my psychological health, when dealing with things going wrong at the micro (personal) and macro (global) level. 

So, I guess, my first TIP on thriving in a world gone bonkers is to unplug from unhealthy brain food. 

The other thing for me is to really, really get good at FOCUSING ON WHAT YOU DO WANT. 

The more time we spend immersing our attention on what we DON’T WANT (e.g. a war or crisis), the LESS time, energy, attention, creative power and intention we have available to focus on the things we DO WANT. 

It takes real effort to break the spell of over-attending to the things that aren’t mentally healthy (or useful) for us.  

But the pay-off is huge. 

How much attention are you giving to the things you DON’T want?

Versus, how much attention you are giving to the things you DO WANT?

Now, let’s get even more practical.   

The most import physical thing to work on

It is not surprising to me that the practice of yoga – which is 1000’s of years old – focused on this thing too. 

Just in case you haven’t heard me rant about this before – the yoga postures (asana’s) are not the most important part of yoga. 

They might even be the least important. 

The thing for me, which is MOST REVEVANT to us all (and this topic), is practices that condition and optimize our Autonomic Nervous System. 

In yoga, the practice most at play, when it comes to stabilising and fortifying the nervous system is the practice of Pranayama (breath work), followed by meditation. 

When our nervous system is stable, our mind is stable, and our organs are functioning in a homeostatic state. 

Our cardiovascular system is optimized.

The digestion, assimilation and elimination of the food we put in our body (which provides nutrients for the cells and the building blocks for our body) is optimized. 

The other thing is that we are able to draw greater levels of oxygen into our lungs and cells.

An intentional breathing practice is the NUMBER 1 practice I encourage all my clients to add as a Daily Habit. 

It is the best tool to recalibrate and re-tune the Autonomic Nervous System.

It is also the primary practice which I believe allows us to maintain a stable mind, when the world goes a little bonkers. 

For people who don’t have a meditative practice (the ultimate aim is breathwork leading into meditation), I strongly encourage them to start with a breathwork practice. 

I believe it is the most PRACTICAL ritual when it comes to building our PERSONAL POWER. 

It enhances our ability to stay calm, centred, grounded and stable when the world is a sh#t-show around us. 

Do you do a daily or regular practice of intentional breathing? 

If you are starting from scratch, download the WimHof App and practice the WimHof Method. 

Our mental health is directly connected to the health of our nervous system. 

And this is one of the best methods I have found in 26 years, to become more personally POWERFUL. 

To become the person who is calm “under fire”. 

I personally don’t see the world coming into peace and harmony anytime soon, so the better prepared we are, for whatever is thrown our way, the better off we all are. 

In Summary 

The world is a bit bonkers now, and is likely to have continuing or new “crisis” in the future (i.e. we need to accept this current reality). 

I highly recommend doing a 1-week EXPERIMENT to see if not watching the “news” improves your mental health (and the ability to relax and be more present). 

Practice drawing your attention back to the things you ACTUALLY WANT, and keep your attention firmly fixed there. 

A daily (or regular) practice of breathwork or pranayama is essential to maintaining a healthy nervous system (and as a consequence, all the other “systems” in our bodies). 

Check out the WinHof Method if breathwork is new to you.

My Parting Words

The calmer we are, in the face of any adversity, the better solutions we come up with. 

And right now (in 2026), there are plenty of things going on which can easily lead to mild or major anxiety (or panic). 

Step one is to not give these crises too much attention. 

Spend more time focused on what you DO WANT. 

As I said, I stopped watching the “news” about 26 years ago and it has not led to anything negative or bad choices (because I am not in the know).

Try the 1-week news-free Experiment and see what your own experience is like. 

It (watching the “news”) is like any habit that does not elevate us. 

It might be time to break it (or at the very least reduce it).

Eating no ultra-processed food is the ideal, but even eating a lot less is going improve your health.  

The other major takeaway from this Newsletter is about taking care of our autonomic nervous system to improve our mental health (and resilience). 

The best tool being “breathwork” (aka: pranayama). 

Intentional breathing practices build back elasticity in our diaphragm, increases the volume of oxygen in our lungs, massages the internal organs (improving digestion, assimilation and elimination), brings more coherence to the heart, and it helps stabilize the mind.  

Making it a very HIGH- ROI activity.

Need I say more?

Breath is life, and intentional breathing helps us create an EXCEPTIONAL life.

Have a superfantabulous day and a week filled with deeper breaths. 

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“Practice drawing your attention back to the things you ACTUALLY WANT, and keep your attention firmly fixed there.” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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I wrote a pretty long Newsletter article last week (which many people enjoyed, so check it out), so this week I will keep it shorter. 

I am also on holidays in Australia catching up with family, which actually inspired today’s conversation.

The other night I was having a conversation with my sister, who has been teaching children for a handful of decades, plus has done studies in Positive Psychology, so also loves to get into the phycology of the underlying motivations for different behaviours. 

She was telling a story about some kids (good kids), who while in another classroom, trashed some fabric furniture with a bunch of glue. 

She found it a bit odd, but she also said she had a bit of an epiphany. 

One I also thought was pretty interesting. 

The question was whether we (and kids especially) have a lower understanding of the monetary value of stuff, since many (or most) financial transitions are just a bunch of 0’s and 1’s on a digital screen? 

A child may rarely see “physical” money during a financial transaction, so perhaps they don’t link a physical monetary value to physical items in their life. 

It is certainly an interesting subject of contemplation; so I figured I might also riff on this, as it pertains to us big grown-ups. 

Digital money and it’s link to physical things

I was also talking to my mum the other day about debt in general, and how when I was a kid we had a thing called “lay-by”. 

It was an agreement between the store and the buyer. 

The store honoured the price at which the first transaction was made (maybe getting something at a “sale” price), and then the buyer pays off the cost, over time, and only gets the item AFTER they have paid the full amount in CASH for the item. 

You certainly valued the item you bought, as it was a long process of saving real and tangible money to make it happen. 

So, perhaps with the immediacy of getting an item, with no VISIBLE cash changing hands, and the ridiculous ease and expediency of making a financial transaction by tapping a phone or bit of plastic (often people don’t even remember the amount of the transaction 5-mins later), could lead to someone having a lower sense of tangible VALUE for their purchase. 

It is almost like they have no real “skin in the game” for the purchase. 

What do you think? 

Have a think about stuff you may have bought recently and how much “value” you attribute to the item or purchase. 

Does this potential devaluing of goods and services contribute to our throw-away society? 

Does it contribute to a crazier level of consumerism in the modern world?

Does it lead us placing less value on other things? 

I don’t have all of the answers or solutions, but I thought this ease of transacting with nothing physical, may influence the value you place on what we buy. 

I personally like to use REAL physical money for a number of transactions (Indonesian Rupiah in my case). 

When I give my massage therapist a cash tip in Bali, there feels like a “real” exchange happening. 

I give her physical money I have worked for (and have in my hand as a result), and she receives my physical money offering, and feels good about it, and perhaps proud of herself for delivering a service that caused the piece of money to land in her hand. 

I guess the key point I want to make – since debt is off the charts globally and makes many people “debt-slaves” to their jobs and lending institutions – is do you TRULY VALUE money and the goods, services and assets it allows you to purchase, or has their intrinsic value changed due to easeful, digital transactions? 

As you contemplate this subject, can you see in yourself perhaps a complacency or maybe even recklessness in your relationship with money, since it is less of a physical and tangible transaction? 

And, as you and I both know only too well, one of the biggest stressors in our life is “MONEY ISSUES”. 

So, it makes sense to have a eyes-wide-open relationship with money. 

The book that comes to mind, as great reading on the subject, is “Your Money Or Your Life” by Vicki Robin. 

In Summary 

There is a possibility that we don’t attribute true VALUE to goods and services due to the non-exchange of physical money. 

If we don’t value what we purchase, we may take less care of it, and be more flippant about its value to us (plus we are more likely to buy sh#t we don’t need). 

We all know that money stress is very real, very emotionally painful (often causing lower back pain) and very prevalent in our modern society, so we need to be extra SMART about how we relate to and conduct transactions with money. 

Self-education on all thing’s money is time and energy well spent, so check out that book by Vicki Robin (or your own favourite choice).

My Parting Words

I will keep these parting words short as well.

I remember working with a client many years ago who believed she had “bad karma” and a dark cloud hovering over her head, which was the main cause for some significant financial loss.

From my perspective, it was not “bad luck” but a total lack of education on money, with her primary strategy being to “HOPE” her financial choices (or non-choices) would work themselves out. 

None of us want to be a slave to our debts, or to spending compulsions in general.  

Like all things I teach, being more conscious of the WHOLE playing field (aka: an elevated perspective), in this case in relation to money, allows us to make WISER CHOICES.

Money issues are super stressful, as we all know. 

And waiting for teaching, training or education on money to come from our educational institutions or governments is a VERY LONG wait, for a whole lot of nothingness (or actually being taught the wrong information and strategies). 

Money is definitely a subject we need to self-educate on. 

And then pass onto the kids. 

Burying our heads in the sand when it comes to money, debt, consumerism, our spending impulses and habits, and the likes, is a REALLY BAD STRATEGY. 

I will leave it at that.

I know you got the point, and will be doing the inner reflection, even now, to see where you are in relation to modern MONEY transacting and how it influences the VALUE you place on things.

Have an OUTSTANDING day and a wonderful week of being truly grateful and valuing all you have in your life. 

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“Burying our heads in the sand when it comes to money, debt, consumerism, our spending impulses and habits, and the likes, is a REALLY BAD STRATEGY.” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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One of the things I talk about when it comes to having a powerful mind is mental flexibility. 

Being able to see things differently. 

To change your mind. 

Even radically. 

It might even mean holding two opposing points of view in mind, and seeing partial truths in each of them, and not being overwhelmed; because you are unable to figure out a singular truth. 

Take the example of Creation Vs Evolution. 

They both have pro’s and con’s to them, but neither (in my mind) is an absolute fact, and by doing so, I open my mind to a 3rd (or 4th) possibility, which is a combination, plus a little bit of something else (yet to be figured out).  

I have also never been much of a fan of being given only 2 choices. 

Which essentially says if you don’t believe one, then you MUST believe the other. 

That is a great recipe for getting hoodwinked, and not seeing the (much) bigger picture. 

All that to say, keep an open mind, and feel free to change your mind (even radically), if new, more compelling information becomes available. 

Like in the aforementioned case, evolution might apply to a lot of plants and animals, but it does not account or explain the apparent “big leap” in homo sapiens mental capacities about 200,000 years ago. 

Apparently, Charles Darwin’s co-author of “On the Origin of Species” (Alfred Wallace), 10-years after its publication, suggested that the theory they had developed could not apply to homo sapiens.

Interesting. 

But that is a whole new conversation, for another time.

For now, let’s see what I have flipped the script on.  

Radical belief change #1

Let’s start with a personal one. 

I used to believe I was “unlucky“. 

Then, after some re-education of my mind, and an understanding of the self-fulfilling nature of BELIEFS, I realised my belief was not a FACT, but something I sort of made up, and it was also not chiseled in stone. 

With the right work (NLP at the time), I mentally rewrote my belief to “I am Lucky”, and in parallel made some “lifestyle choices” and VOILA, my life become one filled with opportunities, lucky breaks, random things happening in my favour, and a very different experience than before. 

I discovered that a belief change can be self-initiated, and then impact your outer world in a positive way. 

Check out my FREE online workshop (Overcome Self-Imposed Limitations) to understand it for yourself. 

Radical belief change #2

I used to believe that a vegetarian, vegan or plant-based diet is the most healthy, and is the best for the planet.

I even suggested this in my books (one of which I have now unpublished as a result of new information). 

I no longer believe a principally plant-based diet is the best diet, for all people, for all the stages of their life. 

I also think it is one of the hardest diets to do effectively, in order to get all the micro and macro nutrients you need.  

Plus, I think animals raised and living on sustainable and biodiverse farms, are much better for the environment (soil health, waterway health, top soil health, etc.), than a processed soy product, made from a GMO soy farm, sprayed with glyphosate, and using a monocrop mass production methodology.

These days I eat a diet higher in fat (included saturated) and protein (from animal sources), and significantly reduce my carbohydrate intake (especially processed foods and grains). 

For a look at a longer document on my Nutritional Guidelines, you can download this 15-page PDF document.  

And if you do eat a predominantly plant-based diet please make sure you choose only ORGANIC produce. 

To go deeper: Read the book “The Great Plant-Based Con” by Jayne Buxton. 

Radical belief change #3

I used to think the “science” was settled on a whole lot of things, and that we (humans) knew a lot about how all things worked.

Only to realise that a lot of scientific studies and research are packed with conflicts of interest, poor methodologies, cognitive bias, and then a whole lot of good old corruption to deliver outcomes that serve the funders of the research. 

Many research studies (probably over 50%) are not even “replicable”, which I used to believe was ESSENTIAL before you could name something a FACT.

For example, the food industry, or pharmaceutical industry, might fund 10 different research organisations to do the same study. 

If eight (8) of the research organisations got results that were not favourable to the message the funder wanted to present, they would be excluded, as if they never happened.

And only the two (2) favourable research findings would be presented as “Facts” (after passing through an equally suspect ‘peer-review’ process). 

This means, these days I don’t automatically trust the scientific studies. 

Especially when there are millions, billions or trillions of dollars to be made by the two (2) “positive” research outcomes. 

A good example is “Statins”, which from my research, is one of the worst (but most profitable) drugs on the market. 

To go deeper (or if you are on, or considering taking statins) read the book “A Statin-Free Life” by Dr Malhotra or “The Great Cholesterol Myth” by Bowden and Sinatra.

Radical belief change #4

I used to believe that physical symptoms, were the result of a physical root cause. 

Meaning if I was experiencing a physical symptom, it must be the result of a physical cause. 

Be that a bug, a germ, a virus, a bad physical habit, sitting wrongly, lifting wrongly, eating the wrong foods, walking through a polluted creek, or having a physical thing happen weeks or months previously. 

These days I still look to probably physical causes (through the lens of Terrain Theory principles), BUT I spend more time looking at non-physical causes. 

Especially STRESS. 

I also look at unhealed trauma’s; exposure to electromagnetic radiation; emotional overload; toxic relationships, thoughts and emotions; fears; powerlessness; and feelings of apathy (i.e. a lack of meaning). 

I am now clear that so many chronic experiences we have (expressing physically as symptoms), have their root causes in our emotions. 

To go deeper: Read the book “Mind Your Body” by Nicole Sachs.

Radical belief change #5

From a health perspective, which has been a primary focus of mine, the biggest belief change has been around the competing theories from the 1800’s. 

On one hand there was Louis Pasteur and his “Germ Theory“. 

And on the other hand there was Antione Bechamp and “Terrain Theory”.

Pulled straight from a search engine, a snapshot of Terrain Theory is “Disease arises when the body’s internal environment becomes imbalanced due to factors such as poor nutrition, chronic stress, inflammation and metabolic dysfunction”.

In my real-world experience, I have found that Terrain Theory is the more probable theory. 

It also acknowledges that I PERSONALLY have a high level of autonomy over my health, by the LIFESTYLE CHOICES I make. 

It also removes the fear (a major factor which weakens the immune system) of living on a planet where there are lots of unseen things “out to get me”.

Where the solution – to fight back – is to use toxic substances to nuke the 500 trillion micro-organisms in and on my body. 

That just sounds like a dumb idea to me, and is not reflective of my lived life experience. 

For me, the thing that consistently (more than anything else) causes me to experience physical symptoms is STRESS. 

Not bugs.

To go deeper: Read the books “Virus Mania” (by a bunch of doctors) and “Terrain Therapy” by Dr Ulric Williams.

Radical belief change #6

I used to believe, without given it any further thought, the “theory” of Contagion was a fact. 

That is, a sick person can make a healthy person sick, by breathing on them, touching them, being near them, or the likes.  

Until, that is, I starting reading more deeply into – you guessed it – “Terrain Theory”. 

Instead of Contagion Theory being experimentally proven to be an irrefutable fact (i.e. a sick person can make a healthy person sick), the exact opposite occurs. 

The numerous studies performed to try and prove the theory of contagion have failed miserably to offer irrefutable evidence. 

Researchers were even unable to infect a healthy person with the deadly “Spanish Influenza”. 

At the time, Dr Milton Rosenau set up an experiment where sick people (with the Spanish Flu), breathed on, coughed into the face of, and even had mucus from the sick person smeared into the mouth of healthy people and STILL the healthy people did not get sick. 

My new belief removes a huge amount of fear of “catching” something from a sick person. 

I freely kiss and hug my friends and family when they are “sick” and have yet (in 15 years and counting) gotten sick as a result. 

My real-world feedback (and personal experiment) tells me there is more to getting sick in a group setting than a straight-up concept of “passing disease” via touch or the exchange of breath.

To go deeper: Read “Can You Catch A Cold?” by Daniel Roytas or “The Contagion Myth” by Dr Tom Cowan.  

Radical belief change #7

I used to believe that by suppressing symptoms I got well (or healthier). 

These days I believe the expression of symptoms (runny nose, cough, phlegm, fever, rash, etc.) is my body’s primary means of removing toxins from my body, so I can come back into homeostasis (wellness). 

This is a radically different perspective and very liberating. 

I no longer “fight” my body. 

I attune to my body. 

And if my body says I need rest, more fluids, no food, time away from stressors, and to huck up some knarly green stuff, then I am on-board with it all. 

I don’t take any (pharmaceutical) cough suppressants, decongestants, or even aspirin equivalents. 

Again, this is a philosophy shift, which can lead to experiences of discomfort and inconvenience, as my body makes its inevitable way back to homeostasis; plus it does require me to take more personal responsibility. 

But it also gives me back the POWER. 

True power. 

Which I am a big fan of.

In Summary 

Continue to self-educate over your life, and be willing to change your beliefs, if you discover something which makes more sense. 

If KNOWLEDGE + EXPERIENCE + CONSCIOUSNESS = WISDOM IN ACTION, then the quality of our “Knowledge” has a huge impact on the quality of our Decisions. 

The “science” is hardly fixed on any subject (e.g. medical, archaeology, cosmology, historical chronology, and even physics), so keep an open mind, and don’t follow someone in a white coat who is trying to tell you “the science is settled“. 

Our personal evolution involves trimming away the stuff that no longer works or serves us. 

As we get older, there are some things which no longer apply, or are no longer relevant for us. Don’t hang onto your past stuff – or beliefs – too tightly. 

My Parting Words

Change is good. 

It is also necessary as we grow and evolve in our own lives. 

And the biggest thing for me, which I have particularly discovered over the last 10 years, is a lot of what we are told by people of authority (and our formal educational institutions) are often assumptions, theories, hypothesis, best-guesses and sometimes just plain wrong.

None of which are hardcore, irrefutable FACTS. 

In addition, there are often Conflicts-of-Interest behind a person or organisation wanting me to believe what they say.

It is definitely harder for me to be duped these days, since I ask a bucket load more questions. 

I do my own research. 

And I also (curiously) question myself. 

In addition, there is tapping into our intuition. 

Plus, I am also a big fan of REAL-WORLD feedback. 

For example, regardless of not knowing the exact primary causes of different climatic experiences on earth over the full history of Earth (and even the more recent history), I do know with 100% certainty we humans are polluting our soil, water and air.

So, I am less interested in seeing more electric cars, and more interested in the local and global management of plastics and non-biodegradable synthetic chemicals (a real-world, seen and observed pollution issue we can all collectively agree on). 

This is also why I am so interested in consciousness practices, balancing our nervous systems, sharpening our minds, and the learnable skill of discernment. 

So ultimately, we make better CHOICES. 

Better Choices = An Awesome Lived Destiny.

Have a super fabulous day and give yourself permission to ask tough questions if you are not sure of what you are being told. 

Take care. 

Carl  

“One of the greatest tools we have in our possession is our 5-senses, interpreting “real-world” feedback. Use those tools regularly and wisely.” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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And right from the get go, let me make it clear what I did not learn. 

I did not learn how to cook. 

So, sorry, but there will be no kitchen hacks or fab recipes in this article. 

You see, I do know my place (it is not in the kitchen). 

Ferry is the foodie, who LOVES cooking, and even loves cooking for me. 

So, why would I waste time and energy on something, which someone else loves, and also makes them happy? 

Instead, I put my energy into trying to understand the psychology and “why” of things. 

Why does A + B = G? 

In this article, I decided to share my psychoanalyzing of Gordon Ramsay, from his Netflix show “Being Gordon Ramsay“. 

It was not only entertaining, but deeply informative for me, as I asked myself the question, “I wonder why he does that?“.

So, let me share with you what I learned.

But, before I go on, I am going to assume that you know who Gordon Ramsay is. 

But, just in case you are a hermit, he is one of the most prolific and successful chefs on the planet with multiple restaurants (over 90), a bunch of Michelin Stars along the way, numerous successful television series and documentaries, a prolific impact and following on Social Media platforms, and a worldwide recognizable and impactful brand identity. 

I am also VERY clear that Gordon Ramsay is no saint, has had a very colorful and checkered life and career, is obnoxious and abrasive at times, swears like a trooper, and rubs a lot of people up the wrong way.

This is not about promoting him, but trying to understand what drove him, and also what stabilized him, so he did not take a wrecking ball to his whole life (as many others on the pursuit of fame and fortune have). 

What shaped him 

All of us are shaped by our early childhood experiences, and the influences of these people most important to us in life. 

Which generally has our parents at the top of the list for “people who had the greatest influence on our personality, mindset and personal psychology“. 

The takeaways for me with Gordon Ramsay (just ‘Gordon’ from this point forward), is there were key things which each of his parents “taught” him via words, but mostly by actions. 

Gordon was born in Scotland, but grew up in England, from very humble beginnings. 

His mother at times was working three jobs, and his father was constantly trying to make things work by flitting around different jobs, opportunities, failures and geographic locations. His dad was also an occasional violent alcoholic. 

I believe the primary traits he took away from his parents were: 

1. A high voltage work ethic by his mum. 

2. An insatiable desire to NOT be like his dad (maybe he would have considered his dad a “failure”). 

3. A strong desire to build a loving and supportive family (which he didn’t really have).

He also speaks about how he never truly had the respect and support of his father, who even called cooking a “woman’s job”. 

I believe it was his burning desire to prove himself, and an unmatched work ethic, that planted the seeds of success, and the formula for his empire building. 

Coupled with that were amazing teachers and mentors very early in his career in the form of Marco Pierre White and Albert Roux, plus other Michelin Stared chefs.

It was from them that he started to zero in on the idea of aiming for “perfection”. 

Now, as you know, I am not a fan of a hyper-fixation on “perfection“, especially if it is an unconscious driver. 

Perhaps, with the right personality, drive, and conscious focus on perfection (on the plate and with the dining experience), the outcome is slightly less likely to lead to burn out and self-loathing (when “perfection” is not attained). 

I am okay with – in our younger years – being driven to succeed to ‘prove something to someone’; but it is a fuel which becomes toxic over time. 

At some point we want to replace the fuel of “proving” to the fuel of “LOVE” and perhaps in Gordon’s case, a strong desire these days (it appears) to bring out the very best in his people by challenging them to be, what they could never imagine in themselves. 

Empowering others, for me is a truly worthy and meaningful goal.  

The foundation he created success from 

Gordon was fortunate enough, in his younger years to meet his lifetime partner, and support, in the form of his wife Tana Hutcheson (whom he met when she was 18 and then married when she was 22 – in 1996). 

At the time of his marriage Gordon was 30, and likely at the prime age for a guy to “wise up” a bit, as he leaves his mad 20’s behind. 

The frontal cortex of the brains of men, is considered to develop, and therefore allow willpower and restraint to be exercised, in our late 20’s. 

(I can certainly vouch for that theory, as I believe I “wised-up” and stopped being reckless at the age of 29). 

Gordon’s wife has been a crucial part of his success, and I almost see her (Tana) as the very FOUNDATION, which allowed him to create and thrive from.

I don’t believe he would be where he is today without her support, stability and guidance. 

The other thing I found fascinating was Gordon not only has 6 children (the 4 oldest are adults), but the youngest boys are (Oscar) almost 7 and (Jesse) just over 2 years. 

The thing most fascinating for me, and knowing the challenges for high performers (having worked with many), is that as Gordon’s professional life has become more complex, with more restaurants and balls in the air, he is quite dependent on his relationship with his kids to keep him grounded, present, and distracted, when he is at home. 

The choice to have the two youngest, about 18 years after the next oldest child, was because he knew, and depended upon (whether he knew it consciously of not) the ability for him to wind down, disconnect from work, and become fully present, by playful interaction with the kids. 

Now again, I don’t think he would have been the best father for the oldest kids, and was likely very absent through their formative years, but I find it very interesting that he knowingly or unknowingly decided to have two young children, as an anchor and recharge station, when he is not working. 

Many high performers I have worked with struggle to transition from “work” mode to “outside of work” mode; and I think Gordon’s strategy of high involvement in the family and kids, works very well for him and without it, he might keep the pedal to the medal and eventually run out of gas.

Again, I am fascinated by choices people make and the impact they have – knowingly or unknowingly. 

And also, I acknowledge I have only seen what I have seen on this reality TV show, and there is likely to be a whole lot more going on I am not privy to. 

A strategy that works well I think, is being able to look at someone (in this case Gordon) and take the positive lessons they offer, while letting the other negative stuff slip by the wayside. 

Gordon, though he strives for “perfect” in this work, is definitely not perfect himself. 

Nor are any of us for that matter.

In Summary 

I hope you have enjoyed this little adventure into some of the things I found fascinating about Gordon Ramsay’s story, and have learned something yourself. 

I believe our aim is to use the fuel that was offered to us in our younger formative years to springboard us into our highest level of achievement, but at some point, changing the fuel for something more LOVE-based and deeply meaningful. 

When we are driven to succeed, we need to make sure it is for all the right reasons. 

Success is not a solo game, but highly supported by partners, family, friends and the right professional colleagues. 

Finding healthy “distractions” (like playing with kids, reading, exercise, mindfulness practices, etc.) are so important for us to manage and maintain our mental health.

My Parting Words

I chose to do something different today, in writing about Gordon Ramsay. 

And, as I said, I know he is no saint, but there is still stuff within the rough we can learn from.  

By staying curious and seeing what does and doesn’t work for others, plus exploring the deeper meanings, we get to make better choices in our own lives. 

I guess one of the key messages I want you to take away from this is making sure you are driven to succeed – for all the right reasons. 

I know personally I was driven to prove my uncle wrong when he tried to encourage me not to leave the army, because in his mind I would not be able to make as much money or have the benefits I got from being a Major in the army. 

That definitely drove me.

And lead to me resigning from the Army and working as an international security consultant to mega events around the world; leading a very exciting lifestyle and being very well financially compensated (well beyond what the army provided me). 

But, at some stage I no longer benefitted from the fuel to prove to someone I could financially succeed, and instead threw caution to the wind, and followed my HEART and a love of SERVICE to others, into the profession of Coaching, which I have now done for over 18 years.  

A LOVE to SERVE now drives me, and it is a much cleaner burn. 

What drives you? 

Is it the fuel of love and meaning, or something else?

And that, my friend, is a worthy thing to explore and resolve.

Have an incredible day and create a life of love and deeper meaning.

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“I believe our aim is to use the fuel that was offered to us in our younger formative years to springboard us into our highest level of achievement, but at some point changing the fuel for something more love-based and deeply meaningful.” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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Once a month I will record a short 3-5 min video with a practical Tip, Tool, or Strategy. Today is the first edition, and is one of the most important (and simple) STRATEGIES that I teach all my private Coaching clients. It will improve your decision-making “RESULTS” by about 200%!

Enjoy. 

How effective are you at overcoming, or even avoiding, “OVERWHELM”?   

In today’s TIPS, TOOL & STRATEGIES I look at dealing with OVERWHELMfrom two different perspectives. 

The first being straight up Strategies. What do we need to focus on to reduce our chances of experiencing Overwhelm? 

The second is how impactful our BELIEFS are, when it comes to “creating the experiences and automatic responses” which LEAD TO experiencing Overwhelm. 

This second piece might be the main piece actually.

So do check out today’s video. 

Today’s INVESTMENT IN SELF is 5:25 min.

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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I have one Goal today. 

If I achieve this one thing, I know it will change your life. 

I am also here with an overlaying goal with every newsletter I send you – to EMPOWER you. 

Let me tell you my specific goal today.  

I want you to read or listen to a book. 

A book which I believe is in the TOP 5 of the 500+ books I have read over the last 26 years on physical and mental health. 

For insight, impact, and practical capacity to change your life. 

The book is “Mind Your Body“, by Nicole J Sachs, who is a psychotherapist that worked with Dr Sarno (more on him later) and has personally reversed decades-worth of multiple chronic symptoms in her body. 

She has also enabled 100’s and 1000’s of other people to do the same. 

Through her direct clinical work, her books, and her Podcast (A Cure for Chronic Pain). 

And by the way, the reason I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE her book is because she has expanded on, synthesized, and broadened the leading-edge work of Dr Sarno, around the TRUE causes of chronic pain in our bodies.  

The book is also packed with real-world cases of people with multiple chronic illness symptoms with years of pain, $1000’s and $1000’s of dollars spent, and complete loss of faith in the modern medical system (whose most common professional advice was “take these pills and learn to live with the pain, discomfort and embarrassment”). 

If you trust me to offer you good, no-strings-attached advice, then just go an order the book now (Amazon). Or, if you need more convincing, read on. 

Why knowing this information (in this book) is life changing

I came across the work of Dr John E. Sarno, through his book Healing Back Pain, a few years ago when I was laid up with backpain, which was registering about a 9/10 on the pain scale.

From just reading his book (over about 1 day), the pain dropped down to about 2/10.  

He introduced me to the term TMS – tension miyositis syndrome. 

He also synthesized a collection of thoughts, observations, experiences and insights, I had also established since training in Neuro Linguistics Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy and reiki in 2007. 

I already knew the significant impact of emotions on our physical body, which Candace Pert, a neuroscientist, and the person who laid the foundation for the field of psychoneuroimmunology, called “molecules of emotions”. That is, emotions create different biochemistry in the body, which affects us physiologically. 

Simply put, emotions impact physical matter (they are not just floaty things in our minds).

Dr Sarno, made we aware of – for me – an even more mind-blowing observation. 

Now Dr Sarno was a trained physician, old school, and in the late 60’s was specialising in rehabilitation. He found after many years that the “standard” rehabilitation practices, where just not working, especially over the long-term.

He also found that x-rays and MRI’s, showing some physical issue in the body (e.g. a bulging disc), did not correlate to where the pain was expressing. The Mayo Clinic later did a study of x-rays of people who did not have back pain, and found that a significant proportion (over 30%), also had bulging discs, and other suspected anomalies, but had NO PAIN. 

I could go much deeper here, but as you know, my singular goal is just to get you to read or listen to the book (or Podcast). 

Essentially, Dr Sarno posited, and proved over a few decades, that the brain (one of the most complex, capable and powerful things on planet earth), could decide that PHYSICAL pain is more manageable for the body’s “survival” than the expression of suppressed or repressed EMOTIONAL pain (such as rage, shame, terror, fear and despair). 

Therefore, the brain would create physical symptoms in the body to distract the mind from perceived emotional pain. 

He suggested it was possible that the brain reduced the blood flow to tissues, lowering levels of oxygen, and causing actual physical pain in the muscles or joints. 

And here is where Nicole Sachs and her work come in. 

She has found the same TMS effect, not only for muscle pains, but for also things like migraines, irritable bowel syndrome, gastrointestinal issues, chronic constipation, chronic anxiety, sciatica, fibromyalgia, pelvic pain, skin disorders, eczema, auto-immune diseases, all kinds of inflammation, and many more. 

She worked with Dr Sarno before his passing, and is now carrying the torch for his ground-breaking work. 

Now if you still believe that Wikipedia ‘tells the truth’, you might find something in there about the “mainstream medical industry” not supporting his work; but tell that to the 1000’s of people who have found relief and reversal after 20 years of suffering, and being told by the very same medical “cartel” quoted that their symptoms and diseases are incurable. 

One point I like from Nicole Sachs is this: “The pain is not in your head, but the solution is not in altering your physical body.”

She does a great job of explaining the brain science in detail, and here is another snippet from the book: 

“The key to dealing with chronic symptoms resides in understanding that a person’s stress, repressed emotions, unresolved trauma, and smaller daily frustrations are causing nervous system dysregulation.”

Which ultimately causes chronic symptoms.  

Convinced to invest some time and a small amount of money on a book that could take away years of pain? 

Just saying…

In Summary 

I have been in this ‘healing’ space for a good 26-years now, and the findings presented in this book – Mind Your Body – bring them all together. 

If you are trying to solve any chronic symptoms, and are just using a PHYSICAL approach, I can guarantee you will get a sub-standard and negligible long-term outcome.  

We need to acknowledge the true power of our emotions, and the power of the brain to create symptoms in the body as a protective mechanism. 

Read or listen to the book, and judge for yourself (rather than listen to the medical industrial complex, who’s business model is based on long-term, expensive treatments, for dis-eases labelled as “incurable”).

My Parting Words

Have I achieved my goal?

Will you trust me on this? 

In my mind a $20 investment and some time on a couch, is a no-brainer. 

Plus, the book outlines the specific doable practices you can use to retrain the brain, nervous system and body, to reverse chronic symptoms. 

Anything that helps us to better manage our EMOTIONS – current or past – is a powerful tool for building self-reliance, autonomy and empowerment.

Sachs also spends time on teaching self-compassion and acceptance, which we can all probably become better at.

And which will only make our lives better. 

Do I need to say more? 

And for those who are not willing to spend $20 on my say-so, check out her FREE Podcast – The Cure for Chronic Pain. 

Also, after you have read or listened to her book, please let me know your thoughts. 

Here is a final link to Amazon.com and her book (Mind Your Body).

And know I have zero financial gain from recommending her book. No affiliate links. It’s just me serving you.

Enjoy learning, growing and leaving chronic pain behind you. 

Have a fantabulous day and read yourself into a new mind and body.

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“The key to dealing with chronic symptoms resides in understanding that a person’s stress, repressed emotions, unresolved trauma, and smaller daily frustrations are causing nervous system dysregulation.” Nicole J. Sachs (Mind Your Body)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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I have coached lots of different people over the past 18 years.

Plus, I have been “coaching” myself for the last 26 years.

And something that has come up frequently in those conversations, when people reach out to me ready to do the “deeper inner work“, is their thoughts about “Who am I?” 

Maybe you can relate to this. 

In fact, if you ask yourself that question right now, do you receive a very coherent and clear response?

It’s actually a great question to play with. 

But what I have consistently witnessed over time is that the idea of “trying to find yourself” is not the most effective Strategy. 

And perhaps causes people to look in all the wrong directions. 

Additionally, it doesn’t seem to tap into the most powerful parts of self. 

The human being-ness of us. 

One of the most powerful things we have access to is an UNIMITED potential to CREATE. 

Which is our discussion point today. 

You are a Creative Genius

I believe it was Einstein who said something about IMAGINATION being one of the most powerful human attributes. 

The ability to see something before it comes into form. 

And then there is the work in the quantum physics field, which suggests that conscious can influence and affect matter. 

In the yogic world, it is about creating something in a clear, stable and luminescent mind, which is SO potent that it influences the field of energy around you, magnetizing that thing in mind into reality (in quantum speak that might be collapsing a wave of possibility into a particle of actuality). 

In essence, your mind, linked to a coherent heart (which powerfully influences the quantum field), is extremely good at CREATING things from nothing. 

Which brings us back to the central theme. 

The idea that trying to “FIND” yourself or “DISCOVER” yourself, is a bit ass-about-face. 

It can start a journey of never-ending years. 

Which might be a wonderful adventure, but…there might be a more effective way. 

This more effective way ensures you don’t find the self, which is “almost” what you are in alignment with. 

It is a sense of self which is EXACTLY what you long to be. 

Because you CREATED it from the inside out.

Let me explain what I mean. 

Being in the creative (Captain’s) seat

This Strategy is pretty simple. 

And allows you to start with a clean sheet of paper. 

(Although, sorry to say up front, it is not easy; but then what of any true worth is?)

You just ask yourself a few very simple questions (which also fires up your higher mind): 

1) Who do I want BECOME? 

2) What VALUES or VIRTUES do I want to embody, and be known for? 

3) What do I want my LEGACY to be (as in, what do I want to leave in my parting)?

You actually DESIGN who you want to BE, and then you align and live into that image of self.  

You get to create you.

Yes, we are shaped by our history. 

Yes, we have some genetic influences (though not as much as we once believed). 

Yes, we have picked up some crappy habits and behaviours along the way. 

But don’t waste time trying to find the mythical you out side, or even inside of yourself. 

Decide who you want to be, and then BE it. 

The brain is neuroplastic (meaning it can change till you take your last breath). 

Our minds are not fixed.

We are not fixed, or even a slave to our past.

We can CREATE the person who we most aspire to be, from this point forth. 

And THAT is who we actually are.

In Summary 

We don’t have to waste time “trying to find ourselves”. 

A better strategy is to decide who you want to BE (regardless of your history, genes, upbringing, habits, etc.). 

And then BECOME that you, which you imagined and breathed into CREATION.

Like Joe Dispenza says: When you change your personality (by becoming the you, you choose), you change your personal reality (i.e. the world bends around you).

My Parting Words

It was simple message I wanted to impart today. 

The idea that time is best spent working on WHO YOU WANT TO BECOME, as opposed to looking everywhere for something that defines who you are in a language you can understand. 

It is the BEING that defines us. 

I am a big fan of the powerful creative potential within us all. 

With an ability to change our personalities, to bring us into greater alignment with ourselves, and the life that lives in us and all around us.

Listening to a recent message by Zack Bush MD, he talks about the frequency of “AUTHENTICITY” being 40-times stronger than the frequency of JOY, as measured in a research experiment. 

I believe when we are on our creative path to being, it is about coming into true alignment with all parts of ourselves. 

And the feedback might be this deep sense of authenticity, which tells us we have chosen the right path. 

Or guides us back into alignment.  

Who do you want to BE and BECOME? 

What VALUES do you want to align with and embody? 

How do you want to make the world a BETTER place? 

Worthy questions to breath your infinite creative energy into. 

And, I think I will leave you with that. 

Have fun.

See for today what it feels like to lean into the self you most admire, and then expand that into the week and beyond

Take care. 

Carl  

Quotable QUOTE:  

“Don’t waste time “trying to find yourself”. Decide who you want to BE. BECOME that which you imagined and then breathed into CREATION.” Carl Massy

(Author of 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be)

PS: Have you read or listened to this book yet? 18 Ways We Make Life WAY Harder Than It Needs To Be

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