Brooklyn June's Blog - Posts Tagged "men"
Standards in Relationships
Women are one of God's most beautiful creations. Every woman has a uniqueness to her that sets her apart from every other woman. They come in all various shapes, sizes, shades and attitude. Men have the arduous task of trying to win over the heart of the one he wants to spend the rest of his life with. Some luck up while others get shot down and then are left with their second choice. If their second choice doesn't want them they move on to the third then fourth and so on and so forth.
Women are the ones who possess the power to choose their mate, it is rarely up to the man. Some women who have been hurt in a previous relationship stereotype the man who is responsible and set higher standards for the ones who come courting after. Setting higher standards is usually not a problem until a good man comes along who does not meet her criteria. She may pass him by due to her inability to let go of the hurt that caused her to increase her standards in the first place.
After being rejected by countless women, a man may grow weary and lower his standards opting to link up with just about anyone. The woman who accepts him obviously isn't his first few choices and doesn't possess any of the qualities of characteristics of his first choices. For the woman, he may be just what she was looking for but for him she's below standards. This relationship has started off unbalanced and has no honest chance of making it because if he ever is granted the opportunity to be with one of his first choices...what do you think he's going to do?
The woman who has higher standards due to her past relationship runs the risk of finding men who "appear" to fit her criteria but are just men with agendas. These women sometimes lose touch with reality when it comes to these higher standards and when they look up, father time has passed them by and they are still single but more bitter and losing confidence in finding any man who is can fit the criteria she has set for herself.
There is nothing wrong with setting standards for yourself when choosing a mate because we all have different taste and levels of attraction but when unrealistic standards or settling comes into play, it can really disrupt the direction your relationship may ultimately go.
Women are the ones who possess the power to choose their mate, it is rarely up to the man. Some women who have been hurt in a previous relationship stereotype the man who is responsible and set higher standards for the ones who come courting after. Setting higher standards is usually not a problem until a good man comes along who does not meet her criteria. She may pass him by due to her inability to let go of the hurt that caused her to increase her standards in the first place.
After being rejected by countless women, a man may grow weary and lower his standards opting to link up with just about anyone. The woman who accepts him obviously isn't his first few choices and doesn't possess any of the qualities of characteristics of his first choices. For the woman, he may be just what she was looking for but for him she's below standards. This relationship has started off unbalanced and has no honest chance of making it because if he ever is granted the opportunity to be with one of his first choices...what do you think he's going to do?
The woman who has higher standards due to her past relationship runs the risk of finding men who "appear" to fit her criteria but are just men with agendas. These women sometimes lose touch with reality when it comes to these higher standards and when they look up, father time has passed them by and they are still single but more bitter and losing confidence in finding any man who is can fit the criteria she has set for herself.
There is nothing wrong with setting standards for yourself when choosing a mate because we all have different taste and levels of attraction but when unrealistic standards or settling comes into play, it can really disrupt the direction your relationship may ultimately go.
