Ben Revermann's Blog
September 17, 2019
Child Support in Minnesota
When we were first separated I didn’t pay child support from 28JAN16 until 06MAY16. To be honest I didn’t think she deserved it, she had cheated on me so many times I lost count. Minnesota is a no fault state, meaning she is not penalized in any way for being an unfaithful wife, so yes, I didn’t pay her any money. My lawyer advised me to start paying immediately, two-hundred dollars every week.
When the trial was over the following April, I found out in May that I was to pay the full amount of child support from the day I left, 28JAN16 to catch up. That was seven thousand dollars. When I took my check stubs to the county showing that I had been faithful in paying my child support starting in May I was told by the lady who looked perfectly happy she was robbing me that, “See in the memo part of the checks, you didn’t write, ‘Child Support’”. I said, “Why else would I be giving her money?” The Blue Earth County Child Support Specialist then said, “You could have owed her that money, she said you didn’t pay her for a whole year, so that’s what you pay.”
To be fair my lawyer could have said something but maybe he didn’t know, I certainly didn’t know. If you know a single dad in Minnesota who is paying child-support in checks and just handing them to the ex-wife please tell them right away so they don’t get their money robbed from them.
My state taxes were then taken from me for 2016, and then because of the Blue Earth County Child Support Specialist who I had caught lying to me attempted to have them halted for 2017, she failed. These are really expensive lessons I am learning. Again, I would not make these claims unless I could back them up. As I like to tell my children, “The truth is a powerful thing to have on your side.”
Not all case workers are garbage, the Minnesota county I live in has a wonderful woman whose husband has also been raked over the coals. In fact she is the one who found out I was being lied to by Blue Earth. She got me and my fiancé food support that really helped us when we needed it. In a moment of financial woe we also had to go to the food shelf, we are not proud of this, but it was necessary, they are nice down there and did help us.
When the trial was over the following April, I found out in May that I was to pay the full amount of child support from the day I left, 28JAN16 to catch up. That was seven thousand dollars. When I took my check stubs to the county showing that I had been faithful in paying my child support starting in May I was told by the lady who looked perfectly happy she was robbing me that, “See in the memo part of the checks, you didn’t write, ‘Child Support’”. I said, “Why else would I be giving her money?” The Blue Earth County Child Support Specialist then said, “You could have owed her that money, she said you didn’t pay her for a whole year, so that’s what you pay.”
To be fair my lawyer could have said something but maybe he didn’t know, I certainly didn’t know. If you know a single dad in Minnesota who is paying child-support in checks and just handing them to the ex-wife please tell them right away so they don’t get their money robbed from them.
My state taxes were then taken from me for 2016, and then because of the Blue Earth County Child Support Specialist who I had caught lying to me attempted to have them halted for 2017, she failed. These are really expensive lessons I am learning. Again, I would not make these claims unless I could back them up. As I like to tell my children, “The truth is a powerful thing to have on your side.”
Not all case workers are garbage, the Minnesota county I live in has a wonderful woman whose husband has also been raked over the coals. In fact she is the one who found out I was being lied to by Blue Earth. She got me and my fiancé food support that really helped us when we needed it. In a moment of financial woe we also had to go to the food shelf, we are not proud of this, but it was necessary, they are nice down there and did help us.
September 15, 2019
Two Subpoena's
I am not paying child support right now, the kids just went back to her. For eight months she hasn’t paid a dime to me towards the kids. But I have no doubt they will take money from me immediately, they have to, she is the mother. It is imperative that I be as poor as possible so that I can no longer cause her or the courts any more trouble with lawyers and accountability and such.
So what’s in it for Minnesota? Seven percent, in order to keep as much unearned money as possible in this states coffers the men are charged as much as humanly possible. I once asked a worker at the Blue Earth Child Support Office, “How am I supposed to survive when you’re taking this much money from me?” Her snide reply, “Get another job.”
And while we’re on the subject of Blue Earth County Child Support Offices, that same worker lied to both me and my employer. I approached her supervisor, who conducted a thorough investigation came back with, “This is a very interesting case, I have corrected any mistakes made.”
I asked, “She lied to me, I want a different case worker.”
His reply, “I would be careful about making those accusations, switching case workers is a very complicated process.”
I told him, “She will be doing something to affect my taxes next year, I want a different case worker.”
He told me good day. He would not look at my proof, I was ignored. The following year before I filed my taxes I found out she had in fact put some of my child support in a state account in order for the IRS to put a hold on my taxes. She diverted my money, just because. He finally gave me another case worker, I have yet to speak to her.
Last night 14SEP19 I received two subpoena’s for my two oldest children. They are to testify in the Federal trial against the drug dealer that had been living with my ex-wife. My children are ten and eight, I imagine that once he gets out of jail he will be pretty angry. I also imagine my children will be much older then and might be retaliated against. I told the woman issuing the subpoena’s that my children were taken from my custody the night before, she pointed out they were still listed as living with me.
So what’s in it for Minnesota? Seven percent, in order to keep as much unearned money as possible in this states coffers the men are charged as much as humanly possible. I once asked a worker at the Blue Earth Child Support Office, “How am I supposed to survive when you’re taking this much money from me?” Her snide reply, “Get another job.”
And while we’re on the subject of Blue Earth County Child Support Offices, that same worker lied to both me and my employer. I approached her supervisor, who conducted a thorough investigation came back with, “This is a very interesting case, I have corrected any mistakes made.”
I asked, “She lied to me, I want a different case worker.”
His reply, “I would be careful about making those accusations, switching case workers is a very complicated process.”
I told him, “She will be doing something to affect my taxes next year, I want a different case worker.”
He told me good day. He would not look at my proof, I was ignored. The following year before I filed my taxes I found out she had in fact put some of my child support in a state account in order for the IRS to put a hold on my taxes. She diverted my money, just because. He finally gave me another case worker, I have yet to speak to her.
Last night 14SEP19 I received two subpoena’s for my two oldest children. They are to testify in the Federal trial against the drug dealer that had been living with my ex-wife. My children are ten and eight, I imagine that once he gets out of jail he will be pretty angry. I also imagine my children will be much older then and might be retaliated against. I told the woman issuing the subpoena’s that my children were taken from my custody the night before, she pointed out they were still listed as living with me.
September 14, 2019
Don't Be A Dad In Minnesota
I was just ruled against in court, 13SEP19. On 10JAN19 my children were taken from their mother because of the amount of drugs in her home and the condition of said home. The police reports from the Mankato Police Dept. said the smell was horrible, “There was garbage everywhere.” I had everything the children needed in my home, me and my fiancé took them in gladly, for eight glorious months.
The visitation before had been every weekend and every Wednesday night for dinner. That’s what it is now returning to. My crime? I went against a Judge’s orders that I had to drive my four children thirty miles every day to a school they didn’t want to go to, because their mother said so. I have also committed another crime, a crime so horrible that it has plagued me my entire life living in this state, I was born a male.
Before you accuse me of privilege, or even white privilege, it is the same for every man, black white or other, if you are male, the mother is in charge. My ex-wife has been diagnosed with four mental disorders, not one, or two but four. She has been evicted from her home and lives in her fathers basement. She has never held a job for long, she is on record for having a meth and cannabis and alcohol problem and psychiatrists advised she needs weekly counseling, she is also on more than one medication.
Before she was evicted from her home she had a drug dealer living there, the police arrested him in front of the children. I have her on record and on affidavits for lying repeatedly under oath in court but it doesn’t matter. Her two felonies, one for drug possession, one for child endangerment also don’t matter, what matters is she is the mother, the kids have to stay with her at the cost of the kids themselves.
In an effort to weaken Minnesota and by proxy America, first it must weaken its men, and what better way to do this than by ignoring them and taking their money. This is not a conspiracy theory, ask any father in Minnesota. I attempted to fight her in court and I was fined her attorney’s fees, keep in mind she is facing two felonies. How could I otherwise possibly lose?
We did have a glorious summer, the kids were happy. I have two sons and two daughters, when they came to me the older three had IEP’s(Individualized Education Plans). My oldest son has a few learning problems and a temper, he was level three. In a week and a half in a new school under my care he was dropped from a level three to a level two. My daughter was taken off hers altogether. My second son also had his dropped. This does not matter to the courts, she is the mother. The kids WILL be raised by her and her psychological disorders.
Her father and his wife have written letters to the courts claiming they will be helping her get back on her feet, even though she has had eight months to do so being kid free and all. She hasn’t paid any child support either, the cost of two hours on the road every day all went to me, the kids repeated they also hated the drive and I was fined for trying to fight it.
This is not fair, I spent thousands for a lawyer. Even before I got a lawyer I had to bring her to court because she wouldn’t enroll my youngest in school at five. I attempted to talk to her about it but was told, “Stop harassing me.” Before the court date she was able to enroll my youngest in school a month and a half late, thus again, avoiding any accountability. I also asked for the court cost but was denied.
Where does this get us? We are right back where we started, the kids are in a school they hate and I only get them weekends and Wed nights, but, they are with their mother and that’s what’s important, right? Thank you Minnesota.
The visitation before had been every weekend and every Wednesday night for dinner. That’s what it is now returning to. My crime? I went against a Judge’s orders that I had to drive my four children thirty miles every day to a school they didn’t want to go to, because their mother said so. I have also committed another crime, a crime so horrible that it has plagued me my entire life living in this state, I was born a male.
Before you accuse me of privilege, or even white privilege, it is the same for every man, black white or other, if you are male, the mother is in charge. My ex-wife has been diagnosed with four mental disorders, not one, or two but four. She has been evicted from her home and lives in her fathers basement. She has never held a job for long, she is on record for having a meth and cannabis and alcohol problem and psychiatrists advised she needs weekly counseling, she is also on more than one medication.
Before she was evicted from her home she had a drug dealer living there, the police arrested him in front of the children. I have her on record and on affidavits for lying repeatedly under oath in court but it doesn’t matter. Her two felonies, one for drug possession, one for child endangerment also don’t matter, what matters is she is the mother, the kids have to stay with her at the cost of the kids themselves.
In an effort to weaken Minnesota and by proxy America, first it must weaken its men, and what better way to do this than by ignoring them and taking their money. This is not a conspiracy theory, ask any father in Minnesota. I attempted to fight her in court and I was fined her attorney’s fees, keep in mind she is facing two felonies. How could I otherwise possibly lose?
We did have a glorious summer, the kids were happy. I have two sons and two daughters, when they came to me the older three had IEP’s(Individualized Education Plans). My oldest son has a few learning problems and a temper, he was level three. In a week and a half in a new school under my care he was dropped from a level three to a level two. My daughter was taken off hers altogether. My second son also had his dropped. This does not matter to the courts, she is the mother. The kids WILL be raised by her and her psychological disorders.
Her father and his wife have written letters to the courts claiming they will be helping her get back on her feet, even though she has had eight months to do so being kid free and all. She hasn’t paid any child support either, the cost of two hours on the road every day all went to me, the kids repeated they also hated the drive and I was fined for trying to fight it.
This is not fair, I spent thousands for a lawyer. Even before I got a lawyer I had to bring her to court because she wouldn’t enroll my youngest in school at five. I attempted to talk to her about it but was told, “Stop harassing me.” Before the court date she was able to enroll my youngest in school a month and a half late, thus again, avoiding any accountability. I also asked for the court cost but was denied.
Where does this get us? We are right back where we started, the kids are in a school they hate and I only get them weekends and Wed nights, but, they are with their mother and that’s what’s important, right? Thank you Minnesota.
