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How to be less jealous with your man
Let us be honest, jealousy hurts. And it hurts badly. But even though we can’t get totally rid of it, some tips can help us in reducing it and making our lives easier.
Jealousy is a natural human behavior which can be amplified by a bad experience in your couple. If your man cheated on you in your previous relationship, this negative experience will automatically stay in your mind. And, consciously or unconsciously, you will be afraid to experience the same thing with another man. You will live in the perpetual fear of being cheated.
Wait; don’t think that the problem is you!
Women have a natural need of being constantly reassured, and it sometimes explains why they are always suspicious, timorous, and jealous. But let’s face it; jealousy broke up a LOT of relationships.
Let’s have a look at few things which you can do to reduce your Jealousy:
1- Do not compare your man with your ex
You might have heard the old saying: “all men are equal”. But don’t jump too soon into this. It’s not because your ex cheated on you that your new man will necessarily do the same thing. Always assume he is innocent until you get some evidence that he is cheating or about to do so (I’m not telling you to do the private eye though).
2- Ease up on your side!
Your man will surely stay late at work or maybe have a drink with friends just to relax, it happens to all of us. Put you in his place. What would you do if you were in the same situation as him? You will soon realize that we sometimes need to relax. Most important: he has the right to do so and you are not his mother. If you feel out of control, call one of your friends and tell her about it.
3- Fight your fears
Jealousy is a problem of self confidence, so don’t spend your time blaming yourself. Instead of complaining on your ugliness, your stupidity or your uselessness, act against them! Because those are the things that will negatively affect your relationship. If your man flatters you and you still feel ugly, then you must fight your wrong perception of yourself. If his female friends happen to be funnier than you, then enter his world and share his interests!
If you do not feel good, it will necessarily show up.
Self confidence is your main weapon against jealousy. If your man is in a relationship with you, it’s because you are unique and he loves you the way you are. It’s just common sense.
Habib Kamara
Jealousy is a natural human behavior which can be amplified by a bad experience in your couple. If your man cheated on you in your previous relationship, this negative experience will automatically stay in your mind. And, consciously or unconsciously, you will be afraid to experience the same thing with another man. You will live in the perpetual fear of being cheated.
Wait; don’t think that the problem is you!
Women have a natural need of being constantly reassured, and it sometimes explains why they are always suspicious, timorous, and jealous. But let’s face it; jealousy broke up a LOT of relationships.
Let’s have a look at few things which you can do to reduce your Jealousy:
1- Do not compare your man with your ex
You might have heard the old saying: “all men are equal”. But don’t jump too soon into this. It’s not because your ex cheated on you that your new man will necessarily do the same thing. Always assume he is innocent until you get some evidence that he is cheating or about to do so (I’m not telling you to do the private eye though).
2- Ease up on your side!
Your man will surely stay late at work or maybe have a drink with friends just to relax, it happens to all of us. Put you in his place. What would you do if you were in the same situation as him? You will soon realize that we sometimes need to relax. Most important: he has the right to do so and you are not his mother. If you feel out of control, call one of your friends and tell her about it.
3- Fight your fears
Jealousy is a problem of self confidence, so don’t spend your time blaming yourself. Instead of complaining on your ugliness, your stupidity or your uselessness, act against them! Because those are the things that will negatively affect your relationship. If your man flatters you and you still feel ugly, then you must fight your wrong perception of yourself. If his female friends happen to be funnier than you, then enter his world and share his interests!
If you do not feel good, it will necessarily show up.
Self confidence is your main weapon against jealousy. If your man is in a relationship with you, it’s because you are unique and he loves you the way you are. It’s just common sense.
Habib Kamara
