Polly Whittaker's Blog
May 13, 2019
Ceremony Usher
Show people to their seats for the ceremony
The Cake
The Cake!
Do you want to design and create our wedding cake? We have a color scheme we’d like you to stick to but beyond that we want you to be creative! Bake it yourself or work with a pro. A wedding cake for 100 people costs about $500 to be made professionally.
August 24, 2016
Report from Summerhouse
This podcast I’m trying something new. It’s a video and it’s just me, so no interview this time. Listen in to hear about Kinky Salon London, Summerhouse and the Sex Menu!
Check out the welcome package from Sumerhouse here https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B5JTqYIhYU0PSy1xSzFCSmttTXc/view
You can look at the line up, the sex menu, and an incredible zine they put together about consent and communication.
June 14, 2016
Two Men Kissing
I’m sad. I’m sad that so many innocent lives were taken in Orlando. Why are gay men the target of so much hatred and their sexuality such a taboo in our culture? How could the idea of two men kissing possibly send someone into such a rage that they go on the biggest killing spree of our history? How could an expression of pleasure and love create such hatred? The idea of it is so beyond my understanding I can’t even wrap my head around the news, but having been a full time sex culture revolutionary for as long as I have, the saddest part is that I’m not surprised. The fear of gay men is deeply entrenched in our culture and there are many complex cultural factors leading to this environment of hatred: rape culture, objectification and toxic masculinity all have their part to play. In a culture that has suppressed sexuality for thousands of years it’s not surprising that people get weird and obsessive about it and act out in horrific ways. We are healing from so much crippling sexual shame it might take us decades, even centuries, to recover. Perhaps even you, dear reader, have had a moment of “ew” over the idea of dude sex. How did you feel when he spat in his palm in Brokeback?
Talking about where it comes from is important, but I’d also like to talk about how we change it, because even at Kinky Salon—the front line of queer friendly, body positive, community oriented, heart centered, sex positive community—the sight of two men kissing—really going at it with tongues and hands and passion—isn’t nearly as common as two women. It’s not just a San Francisco thing—we have dedicated teams of people from cities all over the world working on this conundrum, scratching their heads and wondering how we can encourage more men to play at Kinky Salon. We track sexual play and feedback from our events and report our findings back to the sexual diversity mastermind group. We try to figure out strategies for change. Should we reach out to gay communities and invite them with special deals and discounts? Should we word our invitations differently to make sure they feel welcome?
There are lots of ideas being discussed but personally I think that the most effective way to welcome man on man action is by example. We want to celebrate two men kissing because it’s beautiful. So we encourage you to experiment if you haven’t tried it—see what it feels like to feel the lips of a man on yours. If you’re a friend of a bi guy who comes to Kinky Salon but usually plays with girls in public, let him know he’s welcome and encouraged to play with other men at our events. If we really are the vanguard of sex culture then let’s work to normalize the sight of men kissing within our community.
If you are a bisexual or bicurious man and you are attending a Kinky Salon, please, for the sake of cultural change, KISS A MAN. Kiss him on the dancefloor, kiss him in the playspace, kiss him in the photobooth. The world needs more men kissing.
June 8, 2016
Adrian from Berlin
Adrian is a founding member of the core team at Kinky Salon Berlin. He’s one of those people who likes to deconstruct experiences and build new ones from the parts. He’s a thinker, a doer, and a true community builder, and having visited almost as many Kinky Salons as I have he has a unique perspective on the global community.
In support of nightlife
This story on gentrification in New York could be the same story in London, Berlin, Portland. Any of the Kinky Salon cities. Mission Control started it’s life on a grotty part of Mission Street 15 years ago and we watched as the neighborhood changed until we were finally evicted. Now we’ve taken up residence in a corner of West Oakland where gentrification (including us) is already shifting the community there. But we don’t have many choices about where we can go! The issue here isn’t that nightlife is responsible for gentrification, it’s that nightlife isn’t valued culturally. If cities supported nightlife, rather than burying us in bureaucracy, then we wouldn’t be forced into these corners. Nightlife, particularly nightlife that is not profit oriented, should be supported, nurtured and valued like the rest of the arts. Nightlife brings fun, connection, creativity and social bonding to a community. Without it your city is dead.
May 24, 2016
Lucy and Phil in London
In this episode I visit Lucy and Phil in London and we chat while their baby gurgles in the background. What a cutie! Great to hear from a couple with a young baby and how they navigate participating in the community. They are supporters of Kinky Salon London whose relationship and life has been transformed by their experiences there.
March 15, 2016
Reid Mihalko, Sex Geek.
On this episode I chat with Reid Mihalko, “America’s Favorite Sex Geek,” about his experiences in sex positive community and how Kinky Salon impacted his life. Are you curious how went from throwing orgies for his friends in his tiny New York apartment to teaching people how to have better sex lives? He tells all. www.reidaboutsex.com
January 5, 2016
December 19, 2015
Kinky Salon New York
Kinky Salon New York
Kinky Salon NYC has been going from strength to strength. There’s an awesome team out there making the magic happen and a sweet community vibe growing. They have a great regular venue- a gorgeous loft in Brooklyn- which is often the most difficult step in creating a Kinky Salon in a new town.
They are planning a Halloween party on October 24 called La Petite Mort. I love that name! La Petite Mort is french for The Little Death and refers to that moment of orgasm when your consciousness dissolves. Is this what death is like? An orgasm that never ends?
This photo is one of my all time favorite photos from a Kinky Salon ever. The team onstage with Mel at the helm doing the pledge. In pervitude and servitude. It gives me chills.
Forever Home in Oakland
It’s been an exciting few weeks! We have a new home! It’s weird and quirky and eccentric, just like us. The first Kinky Salons in the new space will be happening in October on Halloween weekend.
In the meantime we need your help getting the place ready. We are having action days on Oct 10 and 11 and there is lots to do between now and then. Click here to join in the fun.
Check out these photos. Yes, that’s a gazebo and a marble wall. We are as amazed as you are.
Kinky Salon Confessions Podcast
Lucid has two personalities (at least.) She created her alternate persona Nona Fender so that she could express her East Coast rawness to her West Coast community. She came to Mission Control before Kinky Salon existed, has seen it blossom over the last 15 years, and has some great stories about her early days of exploring open sexuality.
You can experience the rockstar Nona first hand with her vaudeville “rewilding” revival at Bawdy Church on Oct 16
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If you have some great stories to share about your experiences at Kinky Salon and the surrounding culture please let me know! I’m looking for heartfelt realness rather than titillating tales
Support the Podcast
The Patreon campaign is going strong, and YOU can help support the vision of having Kinky Salons all over the world and spread to the Sex Culture Revolution. Patreon is like Kickstarter but for ongoing projects. You give a set amount (like $1) each month, and that helps create a stable income I can count on. Plus there are some awesome rewards! Watch the video. It’s Hi-larious.
Until next time,
P♥lly
xx
P.S.Check out my website at www.sexculturerevolutionary.com
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