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How to know if your BFF is #clAssy
If you've seen me throwing out promo like the Pied Piper threw out wicked-flute-beats, then you'll know I've just released Somebody To Love; a hot, new, chick lit, romantic comedy, laugh-a-second, read. (Shameless self-promo, I know.)
What you might not know is there's a character everyone loves to hate who is based on real types of people. The #clAssy. And yeah, I meant to write it like that.
My character Cassy from the book is one Class Act B#%ch - like the worst - and is BFFs with my main girl, Rachel. Cassy is one of those friends, the one who pretends to love you but slaps you down if you look like you're better than her in any way. The 'are you sure you want to wear that?' 'Oh that color looks so cute with your gerbil cheeks.''Oh don't ask [insert your name here] she has no idea about [insert topic of interest here].'
Yeah, you all know the one.
Now, I'd like to apologize to all the nice people named Cassy out there. This isn't about you or your name (lovely name BTW). I'm sure you are all wonderful, but my Cassy is a total asswipe and so any reference to clAssy is a reference to her specifically--or people like her.
So how do you know if your BFF is actually a clAssy?
If you recognize more than three traits from the following list, then you may be dealing with a clAssy. There are no hard and fast rules to deal with these snide, underhand, devils, but identifying them is the first step. You'll eventually be able to recognize their negging and come up with strategies to combat it, whilst keeping your self-worth intact...or, you know, you can walk the hell away from negativity and save yourself the effort. I'm not a psychologist, or a professional people-er of any sort really, but I do have personal experience of the clAssy. So please don't make any strange life decisions based on this post, but DO realize that you are special and important and NO ONE has the right to put you down to raise themselves up.
... Okay...okay...get to the goddamned list...I know. Here we go:
1. Compliments you in a way that you feel like you're being insulted all at the same time. (Oh Rach, it's so brave of you to wear a top that emphasizes your elephant boobs. I really admire the way you just don't give a damn about what people think.)
2. Apologizes to their other friends for your behavior when you haven't done anything/said anything. (Hey, this is Rachel, I'm so sorry if she says or does anything odd. She's a bit of a weirdo.)
3. Defends EVERYONE else over you. (That dog who peed up your leg...it was your fault for standing where you stood.)
4. Pretends to be on your side through thick and thin, but somehow knows ALL the negative gossip going around about you. Usually based on stuff that only she knew in the first place. (Seriously Rach, rise above it all. There are enough people out there talking crap about you without you beating yourself up too. I'm here for you babe...)
5. If a potential date gives you the flirt-eye, she'll crush your chances before he even makes a move. (Oh honey, he's laughing at you because you have food in your teeth. He's an a-hole.)
6. If a potential date is determined enough to make contact with you, she'll block it at all costs -- whether it's by putting you down in front of him and his friends or by physically sitting in his lap and breaking eye contact. (Yeah...this one was based on my clAssy)
7. Makes you feel like no one else in the world would understand you/put up with you because you are somehow damaged and she is the best thing that ever happened to you. (I swear, Rach, you're lucky I love you. This crap would drive anyone else away.)
8. Last but not least (because there are LOADS more things that I can't list or I'd be here forever) The instant you stand up for yourself, she suddenly labels you the bitch/ungrateful/mean/bully/snooty/ etc. She'll twist it all so that you look like the bad guy....sometimes though, she'll do this just to impress others. (Uh Rach, this friendship thing we have isn't going to work. My new boyfriend doesn't like you. I kind of told him that you were the one who acted like a tramp every time you went out and might have mentioned a few other things....oh I know that was ALL me, but he looked so disappointed when I was telling him the story, that I pinned it on you in case he dumped me. Now he thinks you're a bad influence and we have to quit our friendship....I kind of agree with him. You really are a bad influence...)
So there you have it. Cassy ... one Class-Act-B#%ch.
Want to know how far a clAssy will go? Grab your copy of Somebody To Love now. BUY NOW
What the Reviewers say:
“Aurelia Fray has done it again. She’s created a perfect harmony of humor, happiness, fear, sadness, wit, snark, disappointment, and redemption - and tied it all into one phenomenal read.”
~ 5 Star Amazon Reviewer
What you might not know is there's a character everyone loves to hate who is based on real types of people. The #clAssy. And yeah, I meant to write it like that.
My character Cassy from the book is one Class Act B#%ch - like the worst - and is BFFs with my main girl, Rachel. Cassy is one of those friends, the one who pretends to love you but slaps you down if you look like you're better than her in any way. The 'are you sure you want to wear that?' 'Oh that color looks so cute with your gerbil cheeks.''Oh don't ask [insert your name here] she has no idea about [insert topic of interest here].'
Yeah, you all know the one.
Now, I'd like to apologize to all the nice people named Cassy out there. This isn't about you or your name (lovely name BTW). I'm sure you are all wonderful, but my Cassy is a total asswipe and so any reference to clAssy is a reference to her specifically--or people like her.
So how do you know if your BFF is actually a clAssy?
If you recognize more than three traits from the following list, then you may be dealing with a clAssy. There are no hard and fast rules to deal with these snide, underhand, devils, but identifying them is the first step. You'll eventually be able to recognize their negging and come up with strategies to combat it, whilst keeping your self-worth intact...or, you know, you can walk the hell away from negativity and save yourself the effort. I'm not a psychologist, or a professional people-er of any sort really, but I do have personal experience of the clAssy. So please don't make any strange life decisions based on this post, but DO realize that you are special and important and NO ONE has the right to put you down to raise themselves up.
... Okay...okay...get to the goddamned list...I know. Here we go:
1. Compliments you in a way that you feel like you're being insulted all at the same time. (Oh Rach, it's so brave of you to wear a top that emphasizes your elephant boobs. I really admire the way you just don't give a damn about what people think.)
2. Apologizes to their other friends for your behavior when you haven't done anything/said anything. (Hey, this is Rachel, I'm so sorry if she says or does anything odd. She's a bit of a weirdo.)
3. Defends EVERYONE else over you. (That dog who peed up your leg...it was your fault for standing where you stood.)
4. Pretends to be on your side through thick and thin, but somehow knows ALL the negative gossip going around about you. Usually based on stuff that only she knew in the first place. (Seriously Rach, rise above it all. There are enough people out there talking crap about you without you beating yourself up too. I'm here for you babe...)
5. If a potential date gives you the flirt-eye, she'll crush your chances before he even makes a move. (Oh honey, he's laughing at you because you have food in your teeth. He's an a-hole.)
6. If a potential date is determined enough to make contact with you, she'll block it at all costs -- whether it's by putting you down in front of him and his friends or by physically sitting in his lap and breaking eye contact. (Yeah...this one was based on my clAssy)
7. Makes you feel like no one else in the world would understand you/put up with you because you are somehow damaged and she is the best thing that ever happened to you. (I swear, Rach, you're lucky I love you. This crap would drive anyone else away.)
8. Last but not least (because there are LOADS more things that I can't list or I'd be here forever) The instant you stand up for yourself, she suddenly labels you the bitch/ungrateful/mean/bully/snooty/ etc. She'll twist it all so that you look like the bad guy....sometimes though, she'll do this just to impress others. (Uh Rach, this friendship thing we have isn't going to work. My new boyfriend doesn't like you. I kind of told him that you were the one who acted like a tramp every time you went out and might have mentioned a few other things....oh I know that was ALL me, but he looked so disappointed when I was telling him the story, that I pinned it on you in case he dumped me. Now he thinks you're a bad influence and we have to quit our friendship....I kind of agree with him. You really are a bad influence...)
So there you have it. Cassy ... one Class-Act-B#%ch.
Want to know how far a clAssy will go? Grab your copy of Somebody To Love now. BUY NOW
What the Reviewers say:
“Aurelia Fray has done it again. She’s created a perfect harmony of humor, happiness, fear, sadness, wit, snark, disappointment, and redemption - and tied it all into one phenomenal read.”
~ 5 Star Amazon Reviewer
