I love when someone new discovers my writing. Whether it’s my books, my blog, or my other posts, for the most part their reaction is always positive. Many have questions or comments about the characters they liked the most. But, there is one question I have had only a few times that is my favorite. It has yet to be asked the same way twice, so to paraphrase, they want to know why I chose to write erotic romance rather than soft romance. Well, I’m glad you asked.

When I started writing romance I honestly didn’t intend to write erotica. I wanted to write a frilly love story about a knight in shining armor saving the fair maiden from some evil dragon. Okay, well that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but you get the point. Then after I started writing my first story I felt an overwhelming compulsion to write erotic love scenes. Not because “sex sells”, although there is no denying it does, but because so many people in this world have lost their focus, and making love has become something other than an expression of love reserved for the one who holds your heart.

Everyday I go to work with my husband, a clinical psychologist who specializes in couples counseling, and watch men and women alike come in for advice on their relationships. Some are married, some are engaged, and some are single. They all have a variety of issues to deal with and every situation is unique. But, the one issue they most commonly share is a problem with intimacy, and almost always the root of the problem is that “sex” is no longer an expression of love for one or both partners. Life has happened, and the bond that their physical connection once created has become so weak that it is barely noticeable. So, Dr. Baer pulls out his toolbox and one by one gives them different exercises they can use to repair and strengthen the bond that once held them together. Then it is up to them to decide whether or not to use his advice. Surprisingly enough, a lot decide to not make an effort.

Too often I see people end up alone because the relationship couldn’t survive the loss of intimacy. Of course, there could be no happy ending if the intimacy is never restored, and that’s where my stories come in. My hope is that through the characters I have created I can help people keep the love alive by reminding them just how much their partner means to them.

Now, for all you naysayers out there, yes, I have included erotic love scenes that were “light on the love”. But, if my characters knew all the secrets to life from the start, what would be the point of the story? My hope is that eventually my readers can relate to at least one of my characters or storylines and it will help them see their own life from a more objective point of view. Then maybe we can all enjoy a new trend that will bring love back to the forefront of our relationships. And that’s why I write erotic romance.

Happy reading!

Books by Susan Baer:

Amorous, The Lincoln Series, Book I

Conceit, It’s All About Jake, The Lincoln Series, Prequel

Come Home to Lincoln, The Lincoln Series, Prequel

And coming soon:

Mind Games, The Lincoln Series, Book II

Redemption, The Lincoln Series, Book III (due out spring 2017)

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