When a person is born with both female and male genitals how do they fit into our gender based society?   Is referring to that person as a hermaphrodite instead of intersex offensive?  The word hermaphrodite is considered to be misleading and stigmatizing to those born with ambiguous genitalia such as a large clitoris or small penis that appear to have an opening underneath.  These are the signs that are visible at birth that makes the medical staff and parents uncertain of gender.  So,