I've always called myself "going with the flow" when it came to relationships, but it wasn't until recently that I realized I was only going AGAINST my worth.

In earlier centuries sex was sacred.... It was held to a higher standard. In this day and age sex is just sex. Not many people place value on sex anymore. And many of us women pretend like we don't care what the outcome is after sex. We tell ourselves, "Whatever happens, happens." When we know deep down that the reason we are so in a rush to have sex with this man is because we believe that our vagina is so good that it will make him want to stick around. Now there have been times where I've had sex with a guy and had absolutely no attachment to him afterwards because I really was just having fun. But I also have been guilty of using sex in hopes of receiving love.

I've realized that in order to be treated like the queen you are, you have to carry yourself like one! Carrying yourself like a queen means making sex a PRIZE he has won only after proving to you that his intentions are pure. And he does not prove this with words; he proves it with ACTIONS.

Not always, but generally speaking men do not process sex the same as women. Men respond to sex physically, while women respond to sex emotionally. The reason why women respond to sex emotionally is because women are naturally nurturers... they have to be due to their ability to give birth. But it is possible for a man to also respond to sex emotionally only if he first has a spiritual and mental connection with that woman.

Finally understanding this has helped me slow down and not just have sex because it "feels right". If you're reading this I'm sure you're an amazing person, but no man is going to be able to see that if you keep using sex to get love. You want a man to fall in love with your mind and spirit... NOT YOUR VAGINA. This advice is not coming from someone who has always lived by what I am preaching to you right now, which is why I know first hand that sex is not the key to love. I'm not going to tell you how long to wait because not every man is the same, but what I will tell you is that YOU ARE A FUCKING QUEEN and he needs to remind you of that. He needs to hold you on a pedestal.

And don't worry about him getting frustrated because you're "taking too long". If he doesn't stick around through the test then screw him... This is about YOU AND KNOWING YOUR WORTH. Lust & infatuation dies fast. If you want to capture his heart, first capture his mind.

P.S.- if you haven't already check out my latest book "The Starving Psyche" on Amazon. xoxo <3