It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience with my therapist colleague, and thisawareness is another one of the reasons why.

Ideals can play an important role in guiding our lives. At the same time,ideals can keep us crippled and dysfunctional. I see people-meincluded-hiding behind relationship ideals when we don’t want to admit ourpain or inability to resolve differences. We hold ideals up as banners foraction when we are unsure of ourselves and need justification for what wedo. We use ideal...