From Along the Way, Simon Cole's new collection of themed meditations for day to day living, just out on Amazon 

...to not compare

contemplation (to be read before your sitting)

To make comparisons is human. It comes from consciousness, that gift which makes us different from animals... the gift that comes to us as infants, when we start to realise that we exist… separately.

To exist separately. To understand ‘I’ as ‘Me’. But then to understand ‘not I’ as ‘her’ or ‘him’ or ‘them’.

To look at another and see difference. To look at ourselves in the light of their difference. Or is it our difference?

To find difference is inevitable. To find fault, in others or ourselves, because of difference, is unnecessary. Because difference is what confirms ‘Me’.  

For each of us our difference, our not being ‘the other’, is the ground of our existence.  

Difference is existential; fault is judgement.

narration of meditation

Sit peaceably for a few moments without closing your eyes…

Be conscious of your sitting, noticing your place in what is around you…

Be aware that everything makes contact with the air, 

that everything in some way uses the air,

each in its own way…

Notice the air as you draw it into your body,

the air which all living creatures breathe…

Feel the air as you give it back, to be purified for others to use…

Rest with your breathing, gently drawing in and giving back what we all share…

Let the sense of your breathing and the air it uses be your connection with everything around …

Pass through your mind other people in your life,

as you hold the sense of the air you breathe connecting you with each separate being…

When it feels right, take three long breaths, opening your eyes to notice the world anew.

Again sit peaceably for a few moments, noticing your place in what is around you.

(from Connecting in 'Along the Way - themed meditations for day to day living' by Simon Cole available on Amazon UK Europe and USA)