There is nothing more intimate than men revealing their shadow self to other men. It is the usual modus operandi that men very often come from a place of ego. They make jokes or mock any attempts to express vulnerability or any other kind of emotion that doesn’t mimic what passes for masculinity.

I am very blessed to be connected with mature, aware, intelligent men who are willing to be emotionally courageous.

Last weekend, I watched as men from diverse backgrounds, ages and beliefs participated in conversations and exercises that allowed men to not judge themselves, or other men, more than that, in fact, giving language and clarity to ways of being and the ability and willingness to make powerful choices in the moment.

And yesterday, I spoke with a man under thirty years old who has not always made mature, healthy choices. He saw the necklace I wear, and I described the healing power of one of the stones.

“I could use some healing”, he said.

Thirty minutes later he had spoken honestly and openly about the actions he had taken recently. His good intentions had been based in a familiar, physically aggressive, hyper-masculine style which had impacted his home, family and loved ones.

He felt heard; yet, he did not feel judged.

He began to see alternatives. He felt lighter.

I’m hoping that he and I will continue our conversations.

These kinds of conversations among men can lead to growth and healing- and most men I know could do with some healing..

@CoachMeDave