Describe yourself in three words?

That is not an easy question to answer. That is because we don’t really know who we are. If words did come to mind; are those word true descriptions of who you are or are they desires of who you hope to be?

What three words would your mom describe you with? Your friends? Your partner? Your boss? The barista at Starbucks? The homeless man you ignored as you walked passed him?

Who are you really?

Of course we are going to be an amalgamation of the words that each of theses people and more put out there, but which ones are the most true? Which are just based on a facade you put forth to appease the social situation you are in?

Take the barista. At the coffee shop, you might be pleasantly cordial, perhaps a bit impatient or flirtatious. But your entire interaction will also depend on who is in line with you or behind you when you order. If your wife or husband is with you, would you still flirt?

We live each day in a series of perpetual lies, very rarely being our true selves. A lot of this self deceit is built on the social construct that has been laid before us. We conform and bend to the will of the situations we find ourselves in because, among other things, the fear of judgement.

This is not how we always were. As kids we had no filter. We screamed, laughed, cried, imagined, played, goofed around and made fools of ourselves without hesitation. That is until the people who had already been conditioned to conform told us that we were in the wrong and needed to conform like everyone else.

We had an identity, an individuality. Somewhere along the way we lost it.

So who are you? Really?
What three words would you use?
Do you truly believe yourself when you say them?