If love is true, it will offer a space in which two people can trust each other completely. It is that absolute trust that frees us to reveal our deepest sexual longings, and to find ways to satisfy them.

Sometimes -- I would even say often -- such fantasies will involve people outside the couple. There are no simple rules for how to deal with these narratives. Some people will want to realise everything they imagine. Others will prefer to remain within the constraints of shared fantasy.