We all know we've been there... on the battleground with perfectionism.



Here is a short exercise I wrote in unarming it:



PERFECTIONISM: Really, you’re going to try that again? How many times are you going to try that?!
ME: As many times as it takes to get it where it needs to be.
PERFECTIONISM: But it will never be good enough...
ME: Sure it will be. You mean it won’t be perfect, but nothing ever is. I will be satisfied with meaningful and beautiful.
PERFECTIONISM: But not everyone will like that.
ME: I know. But it isn’t for them- it’s for me. It’s to soothe my soul and sing my song so that those who need to hear it can. Those who don’t need it, they can make or find their own song.
PERFECTIONISM: But some people may get angry at it...
ME: Yep, they might. The truth sometimes pisses people off, but it doesn’t stop it from being my truth; it doesn’t diminish the value of my truth.
PERFECTIONISM: Ah, ha, but you keep changing your truth!
ME: Yep, I do change it little by little as I learn and evolve. I forgive myself as I see the harms rendered in the past and resolve to move onto being a better person.
PERFECTIONISM: But not perfect.
ME: Nope, not perfect. Perfection, you’re not realistic nor healthy. I AM enough.