I learned the hard way that what someone else thinks of you is their business, not yours.  Can’t control what others think about you, but you can control the way you react to it.  Happiness comes when you realize you do not need anyone else’s approval.  Many times, even your best will not be good enough.
When someone sees they cannot control you, they may try to control how others see you.  I have seen this many times in my career as a court reporter, especially in family law cases.  Then they get totally frustrated when they can’t control what others think.  Trying to control another person is often a no-win situation.  It is emotional extortion that usually does not work.
It seems that most of us have a bit, maybe a teeny bit, of the need to control.  Most times, though, it is not an in-your-face need.  Those that have the actual NEED to control are likely obsessed with trying to force people to think and behave as they want them to.  And when you don’t, you may be thrown away, discarded, no longer needed by that person. They do not have the ability to agree to disagree.
There are people who believe they know everything, that no one else is ever right or ever knows what they are talking about.  You are disposable to them when you do not let them control you.  But that’s okay.  The only person you can really control is yourself.  Control how you think, what you think, how you act.  You can choose to be happy and live your life with dignity, respect and honor.  Sure, sometimes we fail at this, but we can always pick ourselves back up, get back on the right track.

 

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