Helping the Homeless

I don't get into town much these days. I spend most of my time in the quiet village I call home. Last night though I was in Newcastle-under-Lyme town centre to take my daughter to a LaserQuest birthday party.

The effects of online shopping, brexit and years of Tory austerity were very starkly on show. The high-street appears to be dying. It's not that so many shops were shut, but that so many had shut down.

Britain is in a mess at the moment, our society as divided as our shambolic political establishment. We're a nation made up of individualists desperate to be closer to America and collectivists, desperate to be more integrated into Europe.

While I was walking to meet my wife and kids at McDonalds, I saw a rough-sleeper sitting in a shop doorway, her hands black with grime, covered by a ragged old blanket, barely thicker than a piece of paper.

I'll be honest, I feel uncomfortable when confronted with rough-sleepers and beggars. It's far easier to look the other. There are some things we don't want to see. Some truths we don't want to accept. I suppose I don't like being stared at and I expect most people feel the same way. However, I did look.

Maybe because I had my family with me, maybe because I'm so despairing at the state of the UK at the moment... I don't know why. But I didn't just see a scary homeless person. She was about 19 to 23. She wasn't begging. I didn't just see a scary homeless person. I saw someone's little girl, forced to sleep on the street. I saw someone who society had let down. I thought of the Footballers, F1 Drivers and Hedge Fund managers, splashing out millions on private jets and yachts. It's sick that we live in a society with such division, where some people, mainly by the privilege of birthright have access to anything in the world they want, while others don't even have access to a meal or a roof over the head.

Hoping not to offend, I approached her, asked if she was okay and asked if she wanted something to eat and drink. The look on her face as I approached was haunting. It wasn't relief, it was a mixture of bemusement and fear. I don't think most people who approach rough-sleepers are kind. When she realised I was simply offering food, a look of shear relief came over her face and she responded politely, almost humbly. 'Oh yes, please, if you don't mind. Thank you.'

I asked what she'd like and offered to get her some McDonalds. I asked if she'd prefer a hot drink and she asked for a Hot Chocolate.

After ordering her a double-cheeseburger, medium fries and a hot chocolate I took them out to her. She seemed genuinely surprised and appreciative. I think she thought it was a wind up and that'd I'd disappear. I offered to contact a rough-sleeper charity to see if they could get someone to come out to her. At that she said they were trying to find a bed for her in a hostel and that someone would be coming around in the morning with a cup of tea.

At that I wished her luck and said goodbye. Still feeling a little uneasy. Not because I feared that I'd been scammed, in that she wasn't really sleeping rough or was a junkie who created the situation she was in herself, but because I didn't think I'd really done enough. I provided one rough-sleeper with a hot meal and a hot drink. It cost me £4.07 which is almost nothing. Would she have gotten something to eat if I hadn't? I don't know. Was she a junkie? I couldn't say either way, but I don't think it matters. Our society created the drugs problem. For the record I don't think she was. She sounded intelligent, polite and if anything a little timid. Maybe the getting dirty and huddling under a blanket in a shop doorway WAS an act. If it was it was a good one, I wouldn't be prepared to spend my evenings on the street for a cheap McDonalds meal and some loose change.

I wasn't left with a heroic sense of 'not all heroes wear capes'. It was nothing, and in that it wasn't enough. It's worse in Manchester. You'd find it harder to stop and help someone in Manchester, because there are so many on the run up to the train station that you'd feel uncomfortable helping one without helping the others. Plus I suspect some of the Manchester beggars ARE fake beggars.

I didn't know where I was going with this post. I suppose I just feel sad that we live in such a shitty society where some people are sitting on billions of pounds, while others can't afford a packet of crisps.

Martyn Stanley
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Published on May 11, 2018 03:33 Tags: homeless, homelessness, rough-sleeper, rough-sleeping
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message 1: by Selaya (new)

Selaya Morton Part of my job description in a nutshell! I like to think that we're helping the genuine folks in need and that the simple panhandlers are getting easier to spot. The City of Calgary has shut down a park in the centre of Downtown and is redeveloping it just to prevent its use as a party zone for the fraudsters who think it's way too easy to beg for "spare change." I find it disgusting that these people can always find money for booze & cigarettes but "need" cash for food and/or bus fare. I usually carry a few prepaid transit tickets - which probably get sold right away - just in case I am wrong. It's the nature of the world today I'm afraid. Anyway.....

Good for you Martyn!

Selaya.


message 2: by Martyn (new)

Martyn Stanley Selaya wrote: "Part of my job description in a nutshell! I like to think that we're helping the genuine folks in need and that the simple panhandlers are getting easier to spot. The City of Calgary has shut down ..."

It's a very difficult topic. When I posted about this on DriveTribe, it garnered very mixed opinions:-

https://drivetribe.com/p/the-world-we...


message 3: by Christine (new)

Christine Hayton The circumstances that put a person on the street are not relevant. Our reaction to their situation is what matters. Good for you for helping - more of us need to NOT look away.


message 4: by Martyn (new)

Martyn Stanley Martyn wrote: "Selaya wrote: "Part of my job description in a nutshell! I like to think that we're helping the genuine folks in need and that the simple panhandlers are getting easier to spot. The City of Calgary..."

Thanks Christine. This becoming too big a problem in the Uk


message 5: by Bob (new)

Bob - Will Read Anything Sounds like she was genuine. You have to watch yourself though. The UK is full of fake beggars. Some in Manchester reckon they can get over £100 a night if they get a good spot.


message 6: by Leila (new)

Leila The important thing to remember is that you DID something Martyn, thereby surely helping that poor person no matter what her situation was. Yes, there are lots of fake beggars about but we aren't to know which are genuine and which are not.

I watch a programme called 'The Dog Rescuers' and one of these people living on the streets had to give his dog up to the RSPCA because he couldn't feed him. He was devastated and wept. My heart went out to him. I wept with him.

His action was similar to yours in a way...he did what he could for his best friend and companion on the streets.

We don't know enough to just call all these unfortunate people fake so if in doubt what you did was the right thing and I honour you Martyn for taking the trouble not only to help but to feel the way you did too.


message 7: by Martyn (new)

Martyn Stanley Feel the way I do? Like the whole country is an utter mess and pretty much doomed to stay so... I really do despair at where things appear to be going right now. :(

Martyn


message 8: by Leila (new)

Leila Me too Martyn. Our country appears to be going nowhere.


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