I chatted recently with a friend about decision making.  What is that process? Because women are socialized to be relational, we begin the process collecting the opinions of others, well-meaning others.  Depending on the question at hand the solicitation may include family, friends, professional colleagues or just anyone in the room.  The reiteration can be exhausting.  And how do we know we have collected all of the salient data?  
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​While the opinions of others are interesting information, they can fog the way to what we really want to do.  What is most beneficial for us?  Can we hear our hearts shouting?  Do we get so immersed in the confusion that we get stuck relying on our out-lived answers?  I have done a lot in my life, and only recently has my decision-making been an inside job. So “I have done a lot in my life” is rhetorical for “I have made many bad decisions.”  And those decisions that were not beneficial, I made from the outside in. Being on a journey to discover who we are is actually the first step toward making decisions from the inside out. What we are here to do is the mystical and mythical question.  As we search for answers in the mundane and divine, we breathe in our mystery and create our resonance.  It is from that deep well of wisdom that we need to make decisions from the inside out.