Everyone has their love advice. Many novels have been written on the subject, hundreds more people have offered their opinions on social media, trying to find the one magic way to love someone unconditionally despite life's challenges.I am one of those who think I have advice, and I'd like to share it with you. I'll make it short. If you want longer advice, browse Barns and Noble for a book about it.One thing being married for 9 years has shown me, is that everyone has their own pet peeves, likes, and dislikes, and, despite loving your spouse to death, sometimes they do or say things that: upset you, make you sad, irritate you.But then, you probably do those same things to your spouse, too. So, really, the battlefield odds are evenly matched.But I realized I have a choice about my love: I can love my husband more than I love the problem I feel he has caused by what he did (or hasn't done) or said.Of course you're thinking: that's stupid. No one loves problems!Oh, but humans DO love problems.When you love someone, you show them you do by telling them so, you pay special attention to them, and you take time out of your day to be with them.When you love the PROBLEM you think they are causing, you tell them about the problem, you give special attention to the problem, and you take time out of your day to complain and nag about the problem.Both are the definition of love. What you decide is if you are going to give that love to your spouse, or the problem.There is a battle of two wolves inside us all.One is evil. It is anger, jealous, greed, resentment, lies, inferiority, and ego.The other is good. It is joy, peace, hope, love, humility, kindness, empathy, and truth.The wolf that wins? The wolf you feed.-Cherokee Proverb.The above quote relates directly to either feeding your love to the problem, or feeding that love to your spouse.So, when your spouse does/doesn't do or says something you don't like and your first instinct is to complain, get even, or get angry, choose to love your spouse more than the problem.