Let's take a working couple with or without children. The tale gets worse if there are children. Here's the scenario. The man says, give me a list of tasks. She does. He doesn't follow it. Shirks his share. All domestic responsibilities fall on her. So, she reminds him. He says okay and still doesn't do them or does them badly, like he'll do a half-assed job on whatever it is he has to do. Maybe he'll sweep half the carpet and leave the vacuum in the middle of the room. Then he switches on a football game or places headphones over his ears. She reminds him for the tenth time. He tells her she's bossy and a nag. She becomes his mother.

Not a healthy situation. Can you go to bed with your mother? This is a path to divorce or at the least a loveless, sexless marriage. An exaggeration? Don't think so. I have heard this lament over and over. I even had a man tell me his wife divorced him because she had to tell him five or six times to take out the garbage and his share of chores. He saw nothing wrong with that and couldn't understand why she left. Under these situations, many times a woman will stop fighting and do all the chores he's supposed to do. But she's seething with resentment and he's created a situation where his wife has become his mother. Yuck.

Let's look at the other side of the coin. A couple divides the "to do" list and he completes the tasks designated for him without a word or complaint. He doesn't have to be told except perhaps once in a while and it's the same for her. A nudge from time to time from him is okay. What happens is an intimacy of two people in tandem. I believe it increases the communication when a couple is freed up to discuss more important issues than, "Take out the damn garbage. How many times do I have to tell you?"

The anger emanates from the fact she is made president of chores. It becomes her responsibility to remind him when they both work full-time. Some women even say thank you for doing the dishes. Why? Both are making the mess of everyday living. It has been suggested that this man will have a much better, happier sex life. In my opinion, a man of this ilk is very sexy. Let a man put a dishtowel over his arm and actually use it makes me swoon. Come on guys. Why would you want that kind of misery?