I wrote this blog post last Saturday. I have hung on to it for the better part of a week, waiting to see if that white-hot instant cooled with the passage of time. It didn’t. The only thing I want to add is to urge straight, cis, white women who may be feeling the sting of marginalization and disregard so acutely for the first time to be careful, when expressing their outrage, not to do it at the expense or erasure of other marginalized groups. Here’s the unedited original version, my visceral reaction to last Saturday’s Supreme Court vote.:

A little over a week ago, I watched a grown man cry and rage and whine and otherwise act like an entitled, arrogant brat. Today, at my daughter's soccer game, I listened to a group of men get into a screaming match over their daughters’ soccer game on the adjacent field. The game had to be stopped to manage the adults. I came home from the game and one of the football teams on TV is being coached by a man who pretended he didn't know one of his staff beat his wife. And the entitled, arrogant brat from last week got confirmed to the Supreme Court.

I'm angry. Furious. But I'm not supposed to be. Like most women, I've made a habit of scrupulously scrubbing my words and body language of anger. Angry women are hysterical, unreasonable, unhinged. Angry men are powerful.

Fuck that. I am so sick and tired of saying and doing the right (read: socially acceptable) things, of remembering my place. It's over. I'm done.

Men, get your asses in gear. Stand up with your wives and daughters, your nieces and your mothers and co-workers. Being a freaking ally doesn't mean staying quiet. If you haven't said one word on social media in opposition to the assholes among you, you are part of the problem.

Women, those of you who say you're scared your sons will be falsely accused, spare me. I've listened to your boys say and do hateful things because you allow it. If they get accused of something, odds are, they did it. I learned that lesson in, oh, sixth grade when you defended precious Johnny when he was clearly wrong. You taught him to be a pig. You are as much of a disappointment as he is. You would rather have a thousand women assaulted than two men falsely accused. Because those are the numbers. That's what you're saying. I don't have time for your bullshit.

I am tired of being kind to people who don't warrant it. I am tired of watching men hurt women without repercussions. No more. Not one more day of this shit. I am angry. Who's with me?