Dating Ryan was a dream.  From our first sushi dinner to an open swim in San Diego’s Mission Bay, I was blown away by his humor, kindness, generosity, and relaxed vibe.  Most of all, after a history of “it’s complicated!” relationships, our hangouts were drama free and just so easy.  And yet, within weeks Ryan was indirectly highlighting a personality trait I hadn’t realized existed.  Sure, I was accustomed to my brothers firing off the command “Stop being defensive, Rach!” But pointed questions...