Autism Moms, Medical Quacks, and the innocently uninformed harp on how autism is horrible. It destroys the children and the lives of others around them.

(remember this fantastic commercial?)

Yes, autistics feel pain. They are human. And like all humans, most of their suffering comes from outside sources. Not from autism.

Give an autistic autonomy and they will create an environment free of discomfort or pain.

But the world doesn’t want to work that way.

Most neurotypicals need to be saviors and in control. They need to feel good about themselves so they try to change the autistic into an allistic. The greatest human is the one who helps others!

Bullshit.

Here is a list of autistic traits:

Attention to Detail Deep Focus Observation Skills Pattern RecognitionAbsorb and Retain FactsVisual Skills Expertise Methodical ApproachNovel ApproachesCreativity Tenacity and Resilience Accepting of Difference Integrity 

This list is not complete and all autistic have these traits. I do.

(Here is a fine article about positive autistic traits)

Oddly, these traits are considered a “disorder” by the fine people I brought up in the beginning. The traits are negative. They don’t move along with the norms of society. They don’t fit into a culture that needs to control each other.

Maybe allistics are threatened. After all, they were told that we are defective.

Subhuman.

Retarded.

We need help.

We’re disabled.

(some do need physical help like any physically disabled person. There is a communication deficit between the brain and the body. Like the physically disabled, autistics need accommodations. Accommodations are a right, not a hand-out or privilege)

What right do we have to be equal in a world that thrives in hierarchy?

So throw us in ABA therapy to wipe out our autism, and make us the complete opposite of all those traits. If we fight you on it, you can always send us to an institution where they can give us electric shock.

Make us more comfortable and easier to be around you.

After all, we’re soulless objects. Dolls. Broken toys.

It’s useless. There’s no erasing neurology.

Studies have shown that conversion therapies have a 48% success rate. Do you know how much kicking, screaming, and torture an autistic child does to fulfill this rate?

(see here and here what the therapists report)

The autistic always reverts to their true self given time.

I guarantee those in the 48% are faking neurotypicality. They’re scared. They want to fit in. They don’t want to be alone. They fall into depression and realize that if they can’t be themselves, they don’t belong in this world.

That is true loneliness.

The autistic commits suicide.

But this is a happy post.

This is a positive post.

Those traits listed above are positive, not negative ones. Although some allistics may feel uncomfortable with them, the best therapy for their autistic family member is to…

Can you guess?

Yes.

Accept them.

Don’t try to change them.

Maybe change yourself.

The true expression of love.

© 2023 M.E. Purfield