Spot The Early Signs of Narcissistic Abuse:

Article by Swati Prakash http://www.askswati.com (Energy healing and intuitive courses available.)

The person has a roving eye or flirts with multiple people including you but does not commit and stays neutral. Alternatively they can get too close too fast and overshare or expect you to commit very early on so as not to lose you without you having your say. In either case your feelings will be suppressed and not allowed to be let out.Tries to lead you on to believing they are into you and pull out later and repeat the cycle a few times to keep you guessing. They want you to think you are this big prize you should be after.Blow hot blow cold attitude. Warm and caring one day and cold and indifferent another day.Make you confused by playing mind games.Triangulation: Bringing a third person in whom they express an interest just to make you feel jealous or unwanted.Manipulative behaviour: Trying to keep you on the side while they date others or hit on others. Also lack ethics and can cheat if they begin dating you.Try to get you emotionally involved by building a trauma bond: you may cry when they hurt you and then they suddenly treat you well to keep you wanting them and repeat the cycle to give you highs and lows.Breadcrumbing: They give you small presents or send you a drink or something of less value just to keep to thinking that maybe you will be loved in the future if you remain patient.They don’t like you looking too beautiful or glamorous except for them so that you don’t attract anyone else.They use you to boost their ego by showing you off and by flirting with you in front of others when you do look good.They don’t follow their heart or get too emotionally involved as if they are stone cold internally. But might want sex or special attention from you in order to use you.Act too important and treat you like someone less important. Say certain things to hurt you.Don’t compliment you or don’t return your compliments well. May also say bad things, insult or be rude to you.Deliberately choose you so they have someone with a good level of positive energy to hurt and destroy. They target successful or bright personalities.They lack self esteem and may appear vulnerable if they are covert narcissists.Their aim is to hurt you..they do not know love or emotional depth in the true sense but are in it to destroy a good soul especially an empath or a healer.Passive aggressive language to mock you slyly or indirectly.Always look at their eyes…they will be caught looking away or as if they are hiding something.Can really choose a vulnerable person to hurt carefully…so they find more about you in order to know your weaknesses. Also they try to know your strengths so that can turn them against you by talking ill of you and calling you a Narcissist by reverse blaming later on once they do abuse you so that you feel guilty for just being good at something or beautiful or intelligent.

Remember their mission is to break you down. They are not loving or kind beings. It might be better to stay single than to be emotionally involved with a Narcissist. They are everywhere.