People often ask my husband, “How is it like living with a preacher/pastor?” He always got this question, especially right after I accepted my call to ministry. I guess folk expected our life to dry up or something. Yes, I changed. I had to because I couldn’t stay the same, but I didn’t stop being Willie’s wife and he didn’t stop being him. We simply began becoming who God always intended us to be. Also, he was aware of my call and acceptance.

However, the biggest reason things work for us is because we trust and believe God. A God who created us for His planned purpose which means He also knows who our spouse will be to handle it. If we allow Him to lead us to the one of our destiny.

Therefore, we must be careful about who we attach our spirits to. Everybody isn’t capable of being a spouse to God’s servant. Child, there will be times when the warfare is heavy, the darkness is darker than usual, the struggle is real, the work is long and tedious, the money isn’t good, and the phone calls won’t stop. There will be days you’ll have to cover your spouse in prayer because he/she is being preyed on. Nights you’ll have to endure their silence because of all he/she is fighting spiritually and most times it’s on behalf of others. Times when vacations and date nights will be rescheduled and Saturdays are spent preparing for Sunday instead of Netflix and chilling. The list can go on.

Baby, it’s more than dressing the part. You have to carry your part. Who wants to fight spiritually and then come home to fight in the flesh with somebody you lay next to every night? This is why you must be sure your person is also God’s person because you can’t love God and they don’t. That’s like buying an electric car and expecting to fill up at Mapco. IT WILL NOT WORK! And please for the love of God, stop thinking you can change them when it took God changing you.

To sum it up …. It matters who you marry.