This morning I lifted arms, and was in between weight choices — one was a little too heavy and one a little too light.

I chose the lighter weight today. I really focused on contracting my muscle and slowing down. Veins and muscles popped with the lighter weight as I was super focused on form.

Raising a child with a disability is like that — heck most of life is. We can force and push and there’s a time for that. But we can also lose sight of the details behind why we are pushing. Is the goal to push, or is the goal to build details? Sometimes it’s one, and sometimes it’s the other.

But what’s key is to slow down and ask ourselves why we are doing something. Throwing our weight around, forcing an outcome, is not always the answer. Choosing details over force is not always being passive.

In the end, it’s about what we want out of it and what we put into it.

Sometimes its alot of slow, intentional reps over and over and over. Working hard, but under the radar, with full intention on that choice.

It’s how we carry out the intention behind our choice to the best of our ability.

With Wil, it’s mostly been light weights — details over and over and over. A lot of intentional reps that may look insignificant externally, but one day those muscles just pop and speak for themselves.