Just as I’m about to do the dishes, someone calls from the other room:

“Hey, would you do the dishes?”

Suddenly, I no longer want to. What gives?

Beyond decision, there is the person making it. Us.

This ability to choose, to steer our own course, is at the heart of our existence.

When we stop trusting ourselves to make choices that feel meaningful—choices that serve us and those we care about—we can feel unmoored. Our sense of self, our personhood, starts to unravel.

So when someone tells us wha...