I was going to write about dads and grads—but didn’t make it. My father passed away a few days ago and I wanted to write a bit about him.

He was a big scary guy when I was a tot. He loved motorcycles and sports (and I didn’t). He wasn’t perfect, but he was present when a lot of other people’s dads were off “finding themselves.”

I won’t quote statistics on the socio-economic advantages to having a dad in the home, but dads are essential.

My dad and I only understood each other in the last months of his life—and that’s okay. I know some don’t believe in an afterlife; but I’ve had some powerful experiences that persuade me (beyond doubt) that I’ll see my dad again. And when I see him, I’ll see who he really is. I think we’ll be good friends.

I’m grateful to have had a father for most of my life.

A great book for dads is my classic western and International Book Award winner, To Swallow the Earth. I co-wrote it with my grandfather. It’s high adventure!

Have a graduate in the family (any age)? I recommend The Bridge of the Golden Wood: A Parable on How to Earn a Living.