The desk nurse disregarded Sabrina’s introduction. She instead concentrated on Sabrina’s black, sleeveless, body-hugging dress. Sabrina’s sparkling ring also caught her eyes as much as Myron’s presence. Lucky bitch, she thought with a throaty groan. The sight of a fashionable woman always ignited hell within her. 

-Desk nurse, “Choice of a Lifetime” by Pamela Jones

Jealousy is a poisonous emotion. It’s as old as the Earth itself. Sadly, its existence will likely continue after our human existence ends. After all, every day, the world becomes shorter on love and wider with jealous hearts.

There are countless reasons behind jealousy. Here are some of the most common reasons:

A person possesses gorgeous facial featuresAn individual has a high level of confidenceA person enjoys an active social lifeA colleague’s career is thriving A person is involved in a loving, intimate relationshipSomeone sees a painful reminder of something lost

The Green-Eyed Monster Knows No Boundaries

A jealous-hearted person is more than just a co-worker, neighbor, or two-faced friend. Oftentimes, it’s a relative. Sadly, it’s particularly common among siblings.

Please note that men can be jealous, too. Society tends to think women are more prone to jealousy than men. Think again, society!

And there are no boundaries in actions either. A jealous individual is likely to partake in the following destructive actions:

GossipSabotaging relationships that are valuable to the victimPhysical violenceCyberstalking

Regardless of gender, relationship, or action, jealousy develops from insecurities and low self-esteem. Emotional pain can also be a driving force. In short, jealousy has a pathway to rearing its head!

Jealousy Is Neither Necessary nor Good

Let’s be honest, shall we? The grass always looks greener on the other side. And you’ve got to mow that side too!

I state this adage for this reason:

It’s always a bad choice to believe someone’s life is perfect. Nobody lives a perfect life. We all have problems. You don’t get through life without having problems. So, why be jealous of something nonexistent, i.e., a perfect life?

From a spiritual perspective, jealousy steals peace from your soul. It’s a dark energy that blocks you from any chance of happiness. Because your focus is on other people’s happiness, you don’t recognize your own. Envy limits your belief that you can be just as happy or happier.

Don’t let your mindset take you down to a level that blocks your blessings. Move upwards! But how do you do this?

How to Overcome Jealousy

The first step in moving upwards is acknowledging when jealousy invades your heart. Clear your heart and mind of this toxicity. Removing spitefulness is a significant step towards ending something that worsens with time.

Next, be happy for others whenever they’re blessed. You can do this because your blessing is coming, too. Remember: if God blessed that person, he’ll bless you, too. So, hold on!

As you hear and see others be blessed, resist envy. Let it go. And by all means, don’t compare your blessing to someone else’s. This behavior is a definite gateway to jealousy.

Additionally, take action to achieve the goals you want to accomplish. Believe that your goal is achievable. And move forward to attain it.

Here are some additional suggestions to overcome jealousy:

Focus on your strengthsPractice self-loveBuild your confidenceIdentify the triggering points to jealousy and work to suppress those triggersRecognize your accomplishmentsIf necessary, seek professional help

Just one more thing.

Forgive yourself if you’re ever tempted or become jealous. We’re human. Having this guilt is just another way to pollute yourself with dark energy. By all means, don’t block your blessing!

How to Deal with a Jealous Person

Now, what if you’re not jealous but instead dealing with someone who is?

I want to offer this special piece of advice:  continue being yourself. Keep your confidence and happiness. It’s not your responsibility to give up either one so that jealous people can feel better. If you do, then you’ll be miserable.

If the jealous-hearted person exhibits danger, you should avoid contact and take any necessary legal steps for your safety.

Don’t give energy to their jealous behavior, such as sly comments. Such dismissiveness could encourage them to engage in additional misconduct. Embrace your confidence. Stand in your power!

If you and the jealous individual share a personal relationship, consider having an honest conversation. Mention how you’re concerned about their resentful behavior towards you. Approach them in a supportive manner, not confrontational. You might learn what their issue is and possibly help them.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison can be a triggering action! We all have strengths and weaknesses. Therefore, there’s no need to elaborate on your strengths. It appears like you’re bragging.

Conclusion

Life is too short to spend it jealous-hearted. Everyone deserves happiness. However, because jealousy robs you of this opportunity,  do yourself a favor:

Have a compassionate heart toward people. Be happy for others while pursuing your ambitions. In the end, you’ll garner your blessings.

I’m not making myself miserable by sitting around and focusing on someone else’s happiness. I wish them well while seeking my joy. They deserve their happiness, and I deserve mine!

If, for some reason, a person becomes envious of me, hopefully, they’ll realize nobody’s perfect, including myself. We’re all just trying our best to get through life. So, there’s no need to torture your mind with jealousy.

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