… invites personal sovereignty.

The hardest battle to fight is the one you don’t know you’re in.

You might think you’re the most independent human on the planet — you take charge — you get it done — you study hard — you work hard — you don’t need anyone, but somewhere along the line, your relationships tell a different story.

They tell the story of someone who gives more than they get, who accepts less than they deserve and who stays longer than they should. Because independence on the outside can mask entanglement on the inside.

At first it may be difficult to discern but after awhile, it becomes obvious…

It’s in the years of making excuses for the way people treat you.

It’s overextending yourself to be seen, recognized and honored for who you are and what you bring to the table.

It’s in the people-pleasing behaviors that aim to “be helpful” and “supportive of others.”

It’s in the prioritization of other’s needs and wants over your own.

It’s in the pain of a broken heart every time you are misunderstood by others.

It’s wrapped up in the tears each time you are betrayed.

It’s in the recognition that you have abandoned yourself in order to belong somewhere else.

One day you wake up and you realize that you’re no longer the same person. You finally see through the lies you’ve told yourself. You see the truth of how others have treated you and you see the truth of who you really are and you can no longer go back.

Now, you’d rather be alone than with someone who makes you feel lonely.

You’d rather be in peace than around someone who breeds emotional chaos.

You’d rather have clarity than hang with someone makes you doubt yourself or your version of reality.

You’d rather live a life of easeful happiness than one of constant gaslighting.

The road to personal sovereignty is long, but it begins the moment you learn to say NO.

For the first time in your life, you honor your path. You see it for what it really is — a beautiful soul on a journey to becoming whole. It happens the moment you decide to walk away from what no longer serves you — the abuse, the judgements, the hurtful comments, the snide remarks, the silent treatment, the passive aggressive behaviors, all of it.

That NO is freedom. You’ll know it in an instant. The moment you walk away from what was not working, is the moment you are able to attract what will.

What are you still saying yes to that’s keeping you locked in codependency?