The truth about narcissistic abuse is that this is not a flesh and blood battle. It is demonic in nature.

There are many people who have been mistakenly led to believe that they are a narcissist (in terms of narcissistic abuse) when they actually are not. If you have the capacity to question whether or not you are a narcissist, then you aren’t one. Real narcissists do not have the ability to authentically self-reflect although they may present themselves as being able to do so if they have a reason to.

Additionally, it must be noted that given mankind’s fallen and sinful state, narcissism (apart from narcissistic abuse – for example, engaging in self-centered behavior, having a self-centered mindset, etc.) is something that everyone struggles with.

Narcissistic abuse is rooted in demonic forces. The extreme levels of evil that narcissists are able to accomplish (and hide), the people who incomprehensibly flock to them and do their bidding, the fact that people from all across the world (different regions, cultures and even religions) have identical experiences with narcissistic abuse – when we exchange stories it’s like we’re talking about the same exact person in different bodies, their inner circle which is usually made up of people just like them, the way they always seem to get exactly what they want, their disturbing and unhealthy behaviors, people randomly turning on you for no clear reason, even the narcissists’ ability to easily find and replace supply – it is all upheld by demonic forces.

I have witnessed an extremely potent evil from the narcissists in my life who have abused me. I’ve had creepy experiences that felt straight out of a horror movie. I’ve seen them have visceral reactions to Jesus (the real Jesus not the fake Jesus that is found in false teachings) and Christian faith even though many of them publicly profess that they are Christian. Never mind the way that they have worked overtime to try to pull me away from God.

The fact of the matter is that when a narcissist targets you, it is not another human being targeting you – it is a demonic entity that is using that human being as a vessel. The people who help the narcissist stalk, bully and harass you do so because they themselves are also deeply under Satan’s grasp and influence.

Does all this mean that the narcissist is not responsible for their abuse? No. Does it mean that the narcissist and their flying monkeys should not be held accountable for their behavior? No. Does this mean that someone being targeted by a narcissist is not justified in taking measures to protect themselves from them? No.

Does this mean that someone being targeted by a narcissist should remain in the relationship/environment in hopes of somehow helping that person toward change/freedom? No. The likelihood of a full-blown narcissist changing is extremely low. It is possible for a narcissistic person (like someone who is not an outright narcissist but who has narcissistic traits/behaviors) to change – I, myself, was once narcissistic and very toxic in the relationships in my life but God set me free – but even that is not always a guarantee (and probably a very low possibility) and it is usually in the target’s best and safest interest to indefinitely distance themselves from everyone taking part in the abuse unless someone shows real signs of understanding their wrongdoings and living a different life – and again, while that can happen, it’s a low possibility.

We must pray for the salvation and deliverance of narcissists and those who assist them in their abuse understanding who is really behind their behavior. But we must also wisely recognize the danger and distance ourselves for our safety.

This is a broken world. But Christ reigns and He has power over Satan and demons.