Dear Reader,

It’s been a long time I haven’t shared anything from my Coaching and Mentorship Practice - What IEEFF? Inner Energy-work for Emotional and Financial Freedom. Today is one of those days where I crib on paper, you crib silently and then we both get to the end of the matter.

Put on your seatbelts and brace yourselves!

One of the most common sentences I get to hear from my clients as they complain about something not working out in their lives is this - “It’s not HAPPENING to me.”

Whether they are not losing weight or not making money or not getting sleep, the aforementioned sentence remains intact.

It’s almost like they are saying someone else is controlling their life from above like a puppeteer.

If they are too frustrated, they end their monologue with “Why is not HAPPENING to me?”

And that’s true for most people, including me on my low days - life just happens to us like a movie and we live it out. We fight it out. We read the next chapter of the pre-written book of our lives. We walk the path.

But I’m also a Tarot Reader and I know the future is NOT final. I know, at any given moment, there are multiple futures possible. There are multiple paths available to us to choose from. And each path will lead us to a new destination.

The book of our life maybe pre-written but it’s not impossible to erase a few lines and rewrite your story on top of that. It’s not impossible to add new chapters and write fresh stories like side quests of a video game.

You create your life - either unconsciously or consciously!

My job as a Coach is to bring the unconscious to the conscious so that you can make better choices as a Co-creator of your life. That’s being a co-creator to whoever wrote your book in the first place - your soul, your time of birth, God, or whoever!

But I know it can sound so boring. If taken out of context, it can feel like gaslighting or spiritual bypassing. And this is why only using our intellect is NOT enough in matters of co-creating our lives. There’s more to this.

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Notice your life from an arm’s length and then from a bird’s eye-view. Are your actions reflecting who you truly are? For instance, if you believe you are a person who never cheats anyone and are compelled to accept bribes or practicing tax evasion, are you really living out your life?

Are your choices reflecting what you really desire out of life? You may say you wish to lose weight but the next moment you are emotional, you are eating five donuts, are you really walking the talk?

Let me admit that this is hard. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. From every tiny decision to every big one, ask yourself- are you moving TOWARDS the life you desire or AWAY from it?

And then change your choices and actions accordingly. If you wish to become a midnight owl, sleeping off at 12am will do you no good. And if you wish to become a morning person, waking up at 12noon will do you no good.

Do not be a liar to yourself. Do not let your Inner Self lose trust on you. Walk the talk, no matter how hard it is.

This is the moment where you feel like giving up. You weren't consistent. You couldn’t walk the talk. You woke up at 2pm. You failed at your goals.

And this is exactly the moment to go easy on yourself. You are not a machine. Humans are bound to be imperfect. Discipline and consistency doesn’t mean acting like a robot 24 by 7. It’s okay to make a few bad decisions. It’s okay to not be able to walk the talk every moment every day.

Give yourself grace.

Now would also be the perfect time to figure out why you couldn’t stick to your routine or whatever you kept your goal as. Now is the time when your mind will reveal your limiting beliefs and your subconscious blocks. This is the Inner Work.

Breakdowns will lead to Breakthroughs. So do not be afraid of the meltdown moments. Do not bypass this phase. Do not positive-talk yourself out of it. Note down the lows - what are you feeling, what are you thinking, and what does it say about you?

Instead of marinating in “I’m a Loser” or “This always HAPPENS to me” or “I always fail”, make a note of your inner monologues. Let it reveal what’s happening in the deepest layer.

Acceptance is 50% of healing done. When you simply observe and accept this phase, you start changing.

Remember that acceptance doesn’t mean being a doormat or accepting your fate. It means accepting the phase while remembering that this too shall pass.

If you are observant enough, this will be the time you will receive divine signs from your Guardian Angels or Universe or Spirit Guides or Deities or Gods and Goddesses - whoever you truly believe in.

Repeating numbers. Repeating names. Unexpected blessings. Lottery wins. Unexpected Invitations. Unexpected Gifts. Miracles.

You will feel happier. You will feel better. You will continue to walk the talk now. You will find newer goals and repeat the process. You will feel lighter. You will feel luckier.

You kept going then, so you will keep going further.

If life was happening to you before, good things are happening to you now.

And deep down, you will always remember, that YOU CREATED THIS!

With love,

Sanhita Baruah

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