When a character suffers emotional pain, the brain���s response is to stop the discomfort, and often this results in a coping mechanism being deployed. Whether it’s an automatic response or a learned go-to strategy, a mechanism helps them cope with the stress of the moment or escape the hurt of it.

But if the character develops an unhealthy reliance on that mechanism, problems will arise. Long-term, certain coping behaviors will impair their connections with others, their ability to achieve goals and dreams, and their resiliency in handling life’s pressures.

At some point, they must have an Aha! moment where they realize their coping method is holding them back and they need to seek other ways to deal with stress. Namely, they���ll have to adopt healthier mechanisms that enable them to manage difficulties and ultimately have a happier future.

To help you write your character’s growth (or regression) journey, we’ve created The Coping Mechanism Thesaurus, which contains a range of coping methods. The one we’re highlighting today can be damaging, and we hope this partial entry will help you show your character’s struggle in a way readers can relate to.

Focusing on logic and reasoning to sidestep the pain of processing difficult emotions.

Avoiding grief by listing the way the person who passed is better off
Focusing on planning a funeral to avoid dealing with the experience of loss
Rigidly reciting facts to shut out conversation that might touch on a painful why beneath the surface
Following protocol, no matter what the situation is
Thinking about personal problems in an abstract or clinical way
Overanalyzing problems and overthinking

Esteem and Recognition: Being unable to accept constructive criticism or handle uncomfortable truths about themselves will stymie the character���s growth, preventing self-confidence and esteem.
Love and Connection: Having a barrier in place to experiencing emotion will cause loved ones to feel the character is not emotionally available, limiting closeness.

Realizing that most of their relationships are distant or transactional
Wanting to move past certain fears, but being unable to because examining past pain is too difficult
Being called out for a lack of empathy
Being unable to show the compassion and support another needs
Burning out because the false show of always being reliable and stable takes its toll

Making time for other people
Resisting the urge to escape emotional conversations
Making a practice of noticing emotions in the moment and how they feel
Meditation
Practicing mindfulness (paying attention, rather than drifting)
A willingness to examine the past

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