A couple of years after Jeff and I were married, Jeff’s dad, long divorced, befriended a widow. They were both in their early 40s. They started hanging out together. Then dating. A few days after our daughter’s first Christmas, they tied the knot.  Back then, we only knew Jane was quiet. We hadn’t been around her much since we lived in Texas and they lived in Pennsylvania. But from the very beginning, she loved our babies. And Jeff’s dad. And that told us all we needed to know about her.  Together, they talked to our kids often on the phone. …