My letter to Sharon

2013 Ready or Not, Here We Are Two down, Seven to go

My letter to Sharon

Hi Sharon!
My name is Candy Bridges and your friend Sharon, same as your name, has shared your husbands recent sudden death with me. I have compassion and empathy for you as you struggle to accept and make sense of it all. Sometimes trying to make sense of a loved ones death takes a long time and sometimes you will never make sense of it all. I would say, in reality, the second part is more the case.
After nine years, I still struggle with my husband’s death and the “Why’s?” still come to my mind.
Keeping busy and thankful for what you do have are great ways to “press on.” Unfortunately there isn’t a locked in date you can put on your calendar for healing or complete recovery. We all react and feel in such different ways.
Because you are a faith filled-woman, I implore you to seek God’s will for your future along with His peace each day, each hour, each moment and even each second.
What makes you happy? What makes you feel useful? Walk in that direction and watch for open doors.

Our faith in the Lord is the salve which helps with acceptance. Acceptance and trust along with faith are key to moving forward.
It hurts, I know and those moments and reminders, (triggers) that take us aback when no one else is around are so jolting but should be dealt with in order to move on.

I kind of compare it to labor. We as women have no choice when giving birth. That baby is coming pain or no pain. We move through it and have to go through it. The result is a miracle in our lives.
There are miracles and joy waiting for you to embrace in your future. Be open to them. Turn your thoughts and prayers to Jesus, the perfect One and ask Him for His will in your life. He molds and fashions us if we open ourselves up to Him as Potter and we the clay. Through this difficult time, ask Jesus to teach you through circumstances, situations and Godcidences how to revive yourself.
Also remember that God is not too busy to rely on, to go to, to thank, to praise, to yell at, to ask for forgiveness and to trust. I practice these venting s and praises in my car while driving, in my mind, in church, (well I don’t yell at Him in church) I usually save that for the car. And even to friends and family on occasion. Turn your pain into a prayer.

Move slowly, but faithfully and everyday, as hard as it is, Praise Him, Thank Him and Love Him. He Loves you and knows your heart, soul and spirit. Read His Word.

Knowing you are not alone in your pain always sounds good, but it still hurts, I know. I hope you will find joy in your spirit and embrace all the blessings you do have in the meantime.
If I were there with you right now, I would give you a humongous hug.
I hope you feel it through this letter.
Love,
your sister in Christ,

Candy

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