My foster parents
I get so upset when I see so much negativity surrounding foster care. I know there is foster care families out there that do not need to be doing foster care but when will we here about the ones who should be doing it. The people who take kids into their homes and are such a positive on the children. Not all families do foster care for the money, the truth is most do not do it for the money at all. They do it for other reasons, their children are grown and they miss being a parent, they have such a great love for children that they cannot see their lives without them in their lives, they want children but cannot have any of their own or for a lot of foster parents they want to help those who cannot help themselves. Why do we not hear of these stories? Why are so many people persistent on getting the children back with their families? Has it ever crossed their minds that there is a reason for children to be placed in foster care? Sure there are cases and maybe a lot of cases where the state crosses the line and the worker just wants that extra bonus for destroying a families life, but there are just as many workers out there that want to protect abused children. People are so negative in life that they wouldn't see a positive if it was right in front of them. It is sad to see so many stories about bad foster parents and no stories of the great ones. My story of my experiences in foster care will go into more detail in my upcoming novel "Five Year Old Death", for now I will just go into it a little bit. I was just getting ready to turn fifth-teen when I was yet placed in another home. I had already been in shelters and a group home and even a foster home where the father was a drunk, this would be foster care gone wrong example. When I was fourteen I was being placed into yet another home and I remember so clearly the very first words I said to the new foster mother "I am not going anywhere with that bitch". I was reassured that it was only going to be for the weekend so I went with her. By the time the weekend was over I did not want to leave so they allowed me to stay with what would be my last foster family. I finally had a home and people surrounding me who I loved and that loved me back, I had not had that since I lived with my Aunt Angie. We done all the things that real families done. They took us on vacation with them just as they did their own daughter even knowing for any night we did not sleep in our beds they did not get a dime for. They could have easily left us foster kids in another home while they were gone but they refused to and we all know more money is spent on vacation than if you are at home. We went to the beach every single year and once we were gone for more than the couple weeks we were expected to be gone. We became so close that the agency started worrying if I would be able to make it on my own away from my new found family so they set me up in my own home and I would have had many opportunities if I had stayed past 18 but it was my own decision to sign out of foster care. This did not stop my relationship with the foster family that I had lived with. We were still close, my foster mom and dad paid for my wedding just as any parent would, my foster mom was in the room when I had all of my babies and they were still there 15 years later when I divorced. They encouraged me to stick with business school when I was ready to give up many of times. They have and will always be my parents, it would be nice to hear more stories of successful homes instead of always acting like foster parents are these evil people. My foster father passed away last September, I did not feel like my FOSTER father died that day. I felt like my FATHER died that day, the one who took me to karate and helped me with my homework, the one who walked me down the isle on my wedding day. The man who taught me how to fish, so well that I could have probably out fished him any day! Just once I would love to hear stories about the good and not always about the bad! Do you have a foster care story that was a positive? If so leave you story in the comments and I will make sure to approve it
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