Having been on Myspace, Facebook, Twitter for a while now and having several friends who've added me I am becoming aware again of the human condition. Thanks to my class in Biblical Principles in Counseling my teacher drilled into us one concept. There are 2 things in life that every person needs to function as they were created to be, SECURITY & SIGNIFICANCE.

Security deals with the need to feel loved. This doesn't mean the person isn't loved it means they don't feel loved. I can state for a fact that God loves each and everyone of us but that doesn't mean much if you don't believe it. We want to feel secure that no matter what stupid things we do we are accepted and loved. Spouses let us down or worse therefore we end up loosing any security that we may have had within that relationship. Security is important to women more often then men however both men and women need to feel secure. It is a basic need of humanity and we will try and find it in anything we can which often breeds more misery than happiness.

Significance can often stem from how much Security we receive in our life but it is a separate issue. Every person needs to feel that they matter in some way. What is my worth? Why am I here? What talents or skills do I have? These questions are common to everyone and we've all asked these questions of ourselves and others in our lives. We want to know why we are special. Although as we grow up peer pressure can control our actions which stem from our need for Security (acceptance), when we reach a more mature stage in our life the need for Significance becomes stronger. Everyone is Significant and as friends, spouses or family we need to let those people in our life know how important they are to us. Unless we verbalize this to others then they will not truly know their worth. Men tend to need this more than security however, again, both men and women need to feel this way.

Ultimately you will only find these two things in Jesus Christ. Until you surrender who you are to him you will never truly understand security and the significance of who you were created to be.

Having said all of this I just want all my friends to know that I do appreciate you and am glad that you have made me your friend. Thank you.