In his inaugural speech, President George Bush Junior said as follows:
"… By making every citizen an agent of his or her own destiny, we will give our fellow Americans greater freedom from want and fear, and make our society more prosperous and just and equal."
The president talked highly about destiny, yet I am thinking about something much simpler – the ability to decide between many available choices. I wonder how it can be executed in light of the brain wash - since very young age – in favor of a life style that make people unable to postpone immediate gratification; the obsessive consuming of food, products of all kinds, cars and recreation - that all of them have nothing to do with justice and equality. And what freedom is available inside the pre-dictated frame – a New World that had long ago created for itself the American Dream with its traditions that are like iron chains?
I understand your point and want to raise another question, regarding the next generation that is your children. They probably had to work less hard than your husband (being put through college as your indicated) – and I wonder how THEY relate to the need to succeed in American culture that you mentioned. It seems to me that your children are much more confused and their path isn't so clear as was your husband's (I'm not judging this situation as good or bad, just point to this fact).