I don't judge people who spank their kids. I just don't agree with it on any level. After all it wasn't so very long ago that it was done by almost every one. But we know more about child psychology now and there are better ways of disciplining your kids. You don't need to resort to violence. You don't need to teach your kids that if you're angry, violence is the answer to all your problems.

You don't have to terrorize them to get good behavior.

It's a choice. My kids are perfectly well behaved and all I use is time outs. I also don't make idol threats. If you're going to lose something for misbehaving, you know its gonna happen. End of story.

There is something very distasteful about an adult beating up on a child. First off, you have ALL the power. They have none. And one day they are going to be bigger and stronger and they won't forget. I've seen fights with people and their teens where the kids has no problem punching a parent that used to spank them.

I've never met a grown up who was spanked as a child that doesn't hold a grudge. They may not talk about it, but it does leave emotional scars. It damages trust. Children count on us to teach, guide and care for them. I don't see how inflicting pain does any of those things.

There are better ways. Watch an episode of Supper Nanny for crying out loud.