Happy people are constantly evaluating themselves, unhappy people are constantly evaluating others.

This is a quote from Dr. William Glasser, the well known psychiatrist with whom I worked for many years. Look around yourself, at the people you know, and I bet you will find this quote to be true. It’s really easy to evaluate others, much more difficult to evaluate yourself. Ever wonder why? I think it’s because we aren’t asked to self evaluate early in our lives- as children. We reward and punish children- and in the short run this sometimes “works” but we are not thinking about the long term.

Will our children, our grandchildren know how to evaluate themselves? How do we, as adults teach this very important skill? By asking questions! ASK, DON’T TELL. Try it out and see just how hard it is!