you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
lmao... Nah i'm a different breed. I understand everything I say may not be the best but what i strive for is knowledge. I could never stand to see women or men doing something so dumb. Esp. someone close to me, at times it would make me feel a certain way. I would do anything to help someone and most of the time they may hurt me in a sense, but God is my consultant so I smile every chance i get. One things for sure if giving another chance i know I will reach you on some level. Dec 06, 2014 09:01AM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
It's just I have never seen anyone would do that. And honestly I expected to get hit after what I wrote ^-^ Dec 06, 2014 08:56AM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Why you so stunned? Amy I'm the kind of guy who believes we all can make a difference one way or another. I'm not rich so my novels may take some time to be complete. In the mean time I will continue to write short books on different topics every month. My first book ever published was in Oct. 2014, so anytime i see my book sales go up or a new review good or bad, it always makes me smile. I never knew anyone would read any of my books moreless have an opinion towards them. So yes I welcome all feed-back but mostly yours, because you were my fist. OO = serious eyes. Dec 06, 2014 08:53AM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
No, it's Sorta stunned face this O.O Dec 06, 2014 08:46AM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
0.0 What's that? rating? Dec 06, 2014 08:44AM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Like for real? O.O Dec 06, 2014 08:42AM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Next book on me. Lol We will find something you like. Lol Dec 06, 2014 08:41AM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
I can always send you paper back copies. For your review of course. Dec 06, 2014 08:40AM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Yes, I do. Can't change it. Idk, I might. But I don't like reading on my laptop Dec 06, 2014 07:52AM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
I understand the definition, so overall you give it one star? Would you read another? Dec 05, 2014 07:08PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Cool! And yes, I do too.
And well, it's their bad then.


And now to the shaming. Maybe the see it that way. But I'd recommend not do it. Don't lower yourself to their standards.
And in general that word hasn't brought anything good. Same with Prude shaming. As you can see I capitalized it. This word never has been an actual insult. It's just people turning neutral words into something that serves their needs. There has never been anything good about it.
And even more, it's only women, no men. So it's also very sexist.

I myself am a Prude. It's not bad. It's part of my identity. I just have different views on sexuality. It's according to this definition:

"A prude (Old French prude meaning honourable woman)[1] is a person who is described as (or would describe themselves as) being concerned with decorum or propriety, significantly in excess of normal prevailing standards. They may be perceived as being more uncomfortable than most with sexuality or nudity.

The name is generally considered a pejorative term to suggest fear and contempt of human sexuality and excessive, unusual modesty stemming from such a negative view of sexuality. It is hence unflattering, often used as an insult. A person with such attitude to sexuality may have reservations about nudity, public display of sexual affection, discussion of sexual matters, participating in romantic or sexual activity—reservations that exceed normal prevailing community standards. Exhibiting fear and discomfort with sexuality may be associated with advocating censorship of sexuality or nudity in the media, avoiding or condemning any public display of affection.

The degree of prudery understood as fearful contempt of human sexuality can vary among different cultures and traditions.

Another use of "prude" is as a label and an insult directed to anybody having reservations resulting from standards of modesty or even any moral standards and beliefs or which are not shared by the offender. Thus one can be labelled a "prude" for expressing reservations about drinking alcohol, or consuming other drugs, or participating in mischief.

In this meaning, the term generally has a relative sense. For example, one may be viewed as having relatively lax standards regarding sexuality and drug usage compared to the overall population in which one resides, but compared to a smaller, specific subculture with more permissive standards, one may appear to be unduly strict and thus be labelled a prude when one refuses to participate in more liberal seeming behaviors."

Just not as an extreme Dec 05, 2014 06:31PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
As for me i will be honest my wife used to be a stripper so when you ask me do i feel that way i must say i believe in love. To me, she was what i wanted, but as i stated when a man wants you he will accept you for you. Most men will never accept a women who has been with many men. Dec 05, 2014 06:19PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
No, it is not. I am not asking how the rest sees it. I am asking how you do, personally. For women, and men as well.

Honestly I knew a lot of stuff. And it's no secret many men think with their lover brains ;P Dec 05, 2014 06:16PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
That's my true answer men won't care about how a female thought when she was doing her business if it's known to a man he will look at her differently. True it's her business but if it's known then it is everyone who knows business. Today's society proves everyone is watching and talking. I was just saying to women, understand this fact.


Here's a question for you, was it worth reading? Dec 05, 2014 06:11PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
That's not really answering my question :)

If she'd be like tempting their friends to cheat, that I think would be bad. Other than that not. It's just her business. Same with men. No making difference. I'm an feminist ;)

About the shaming I'll tell you more after you answer Dec 05, 2014 06:03PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
IF A WOMEN HAS EXPERIMENTED WITH A LOT OF MEN YES if the man can not handle that fact it's his lost yes, maybe so, but in his mind she was not the one for him. Every man wants to believe his women is his, and his only. The memory of other's, or many other's will kill every thought he had for her. Just saying it may be wrong but it's true. But for men some reason, women don't look at them like that. They already expect each man has already done a lot. Dec 05, 2014 05:57PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
For what they are? If a woman doesn't is in any relationship, and is very active and perhaps likes to experiment, that's bad? And a man? Dec 05, 2014 05:53PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
lol I don't believe I took up for bad men. lol As far as slut buckets, it was meant to hurt those who realize they are what they are. When a man sleeps with a bunch of women he still is nasty in some sort, but the world and the women in the world will excuse that, let's be honest. But whether wrong or right men will never feel that way with women. Again whether wrong or right i just wanted women to know that fact. Which is fact... Dec 05, 2014 05:48PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Yes I see. For that I'd recommend to work a little on your writing. You can meant it one way, but it is possible to make it sound the other. Quite easily actually.
What I'd like to see there would have been also recommend that if a man sees only one thing, or can't really see for who you are, he simply isn't worth. Which is right, I'd say. No one should push themselves.

Then I'd also like to hear your account on what I have written had seemed to me as making excuses for bad men. And the slut shaming, if possible Dec 05, 2014 05:36PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Chapter 1 i wanted to show women that however they dress whatever that maybe, It will make any man think a certain way. All men will assume one thing until they get to know her. So from the beginning it's all about the appearance. So i explained what i would do if i were a chick.


Chapter 2 I wanted women to see what attitude brings. No matter how you act, I want them to understand however the attitude of a female, men will judge her by that. So i said make sure you act how you want people to treat you.

Chapter 3 My point here was to show women they could have exactly the man they want if they set their standards accordingly.


Chapter 4 No matter how i say it or how it sounds, dumb men, smart men, and even the holy man will judge women by the friends they hang around. Wrong or right it's true, i just want them to know.Take it how ever but it's true.

Chapter 5 Family I only meant have values and respect for those who love you.


Chapter 6 My point was for women who are lazy, to get up and do something. Not all women are lazy that would be crazy if i thought that, so not true. The females who are out there with no goals in life this chapter was meant for them. I say if this does not apply to you then skip this chapter. I just feel like it's too many women accepting life as it is when they want more. So i said to them get up and get more.


Chapter 7 Independence


Chapter 8 I did not mean do what ever but i meant do what is needed to keep your man if he's the one you want. I did say make sure he is the one you want don't be what he wants. I said make your relationship about you if a man truly wants you he would make every necessary change for you. Dec 05, 2014 05:28PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Well, take it chapter by chapter Dec 05, 2014 05:13PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
I'm willing to explain what ever you like because I wanted to come off one way and it seems from you i came off a different way. Dec 05, 2014 05:09PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
OKay, thank you, I guess. This I did not expect.

Perhaps you could take some time and explain some things, because something as you saw was very negative to me? Dec 05, 2014 05:07PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
I just read your review and I must say you are great at what you do. I have been waiting a long time for someone to give me a true honest opinion on what I write. I know there was a lot of moments where we disagree and that's life. What I like most was when reading I knew you were being honest without prejudice and for that I thank you. My whole point wasn't to sound sexist even though I may have. My point was to show women how anything they do, effects how the men around them reacts towards them. My words sometimes will come off harsh to some maybe to a lot but if women can read what most men think, how can I be wrong? Again I love having the chance to express my thoughts with other's and to hear true opinions. I want you to know my true calling is writing urban books, but I also love to express my thoughts. With my character Chris Johnson I will be able to do so. So I will be writing more books about other subjects in life. If you read The Baldhead Murderer at the end of If I were a chick... then you know what I mean. If I didn't send you The Baldhead Murderer let me know I will send it to you. Again if you can I will love to send you more of my work. I value your opinion.

Again thank you kindly for being so honest. You will never know how much your review meant to me. You were my first true review from a person, I have no ties to.

To me... PRICELESS Dec 05, 2014 04:48PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Hello and how are you doing? I thank you for taking the time to read my book. I wanted you to know it's now on Amazon if you still can leave a review, please and thank you very much. Dec 04, 2014 01:10PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
For now if you like you can review it on lulu.com i just published it last week so it takes at least two weeks before amazon gets it then goodreads will have it too. Nov 21, 2014 12:29PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Ola!
Just a little question. I'm about to write my review. So far I made notes from each chapter. I wanted to ask when can I post it. So far I hadn't found anything here on Goodreads. Or is it perhaps on Amamzon and just not jet posted? Nov 21, 2014 10:09AM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Sure Nov 17, 2014 03:28PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Thank you Amy Nov 17, 2014 03:19PM
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18180869 Amy, Hayden's datefriend said to you:
Just did. Okay, I will see what I can do Nov 17, 2014 03:17PM
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36910627 you said to Amy, Hayden's datefriend:
Thanks a lot, you would really be doing me such a great favor. Let me know when you receive it.