Friends, familyand patientsoften talk aboutwhat they want to be. “I want to be rich. I want to write a book. I want to be a better parent.” Children areoften asked by their parents, “What do you want to be when you grow up? That’s the wrong question. A betterwaywould betoinquire, “What do you want to become when you grow up.”It is so easy toget involved in waning to be thatone loses sight of the processing of becoming. For if people don’t find the joy in becoming they’ll never be who they wan...