Mea Culpa.
This goes out to my Sad Puppy Blackmailer:
Mea culpa. I used the word “butt-buddy” in a moment of frustration while being harangued by five different men in an online comment space for having the temerity to be a trans woman and a lesbian and a feminist and have an opinion about science fiction that is anything other than “Sci-fi should go back to the day when men were men and got to smooch the pretty girl at the end.” I am not perfect (in fact, my claim to be “good” can be filtered through many different lenses, though I like to think on the balance I’m a good person), and my temper can be successfully raised when I have several different people calling me a “liar” and a “hateful bigot” and trying to act like I don’t have the right to an opinion about what is and is not good science fiction.
Unlike GamerGaters, Sad Puppies and your other assorted kin, I believe that sunlight is the best disinfectant, and it’s horribly amusing that you’re accusing me of having altered my text when I didn’t, because it’s better to take responsibility for your mistakes than to try to pawn them off like they never happened, which is something that GamerGate and the Sad Puppies keep failing to learn. To the extent that it will hurt my reputation for having lost my temper to one of you, the fact that you followed it up by threatening to nuke my online presence AND attack me in my offline life with deceptively framed screenshots designed to portray me as a snarling homophobe is going to be far, far more damning to you than it is to me.
I’d rather take responsibility for my verbal miscues and losses of temper than spend my life cringing and avoiding conflict and letting people who have no moral qualm with threatening and bullying get their way. It’s abusers who pretend they never make a mistake.
And to the Gaters and Puppies and all those who think they can shut me up by threatening to screenshot me out of context and present me as a frothing danger to everyone in the world, I present this response, courtesy of Natasha Romanov and Alexander Pierce:
“Are you?”
Mea culpa. I used the word “butt-buddy” in a moment of frustration while being harangued by five different men in an online comment space for having the temerity to be a trans woman and a lesbian and a feminist and have an opinion about science fiction that is anything other than “Sci-fi should go back to the day when men were men and got to smooch the pretty girl at the end.” I am not perfect (in fact, my claim to be “good” can be filtered through many different lenses, though I like to think on the balance I’m a good person), and my temper can be successfully raised when I have several different people calling me a “liar” and a “hateful bigot” and trying to act like I don’t have the right to an opinion about what is and is not good science fiction.
Unlike GamerGaters, Sad Puppies and your other assorted kin, I believe that sunlight is the best disinfectant, and it’s horribly amusing that you’re accusing me of having altered my text when I didn’t, because it’s better to take responsibility for your mistakes than to try to pawn them off like they never happened, which is something that GamerGate and the Sad Puppies keep failing to learn. To the extent that it will hurt my reputation for having lost my temper to one of you, the fact that you followed it up by threatening to nuke my online presence AND attack me in my offline life with deceptively framed screenshots designed to portray me as a snarling homophobe is going to be far, far more damning to you than it is to me.
I’d rather take responsibility for my verbal miscues and losses of temper than spend my life cringing and avoiding conflict and letting people who have no moral qualm with threatening and bullying get their way. It’s abusers who pretend they never make a mistake.
And to the Gaters and Puppies and all those who think they can shut me up by threatening to screenshot me out of context and present me as a frothing danger to everyone in the world, I present this response, courtesy of Natasha Romanov and Alexander Pierce:
“Are you ready for the world to see you as you really are?”
“Are you?”
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